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Self-Esteem: Time To Start Healing Yours

Self-Esteem: You Either Have Or Need To Get Some “Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” Iyanla Vanzant Idyllic is not a word you would use to describe my childhood or the home that I grew up in. Granted, a childhood neighbour told me she had no idea that my life was less than perfect. My mother had her masters in pretence. In all fairness

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Validation: Why Seeking It Is A Waste Of Your Time

Even The ‘Mighty’ Celebrity-watch is not one of my pastimes but the activities of a few, very few, do occasionally catch my attention. Tyrese Gibson is one and his most recent marriage has interested me. The fact of him tying the knot is not what interests me but the mixed reactions of his fans.  His own response to their attitudes towards, acceptance of and, for some, non-acceptance of his new wife is telling. What prompted this post is a fan’s recent comment. She essentially told him to stop seeking validation

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Dignity: You Either Have It Or Need It!

Previously published on July 22, 2014 You Are More Than Your Relationships No relationship, none, should require you to surrender, suppress or suffocate your dignity.” Claudette Esterine An absolute statement and I am standing by it. Not your relationship with your parents, siblings, relatives, friends, co-workers, employer, neighbours, pastor … should I go on? No relationship, especially the one with the person you probably are with most and definitely most intimate – your lover, husband, wife, partner or spouse – should compromise your dignity. Defined in the dictionary as “the