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Life’s Biggest Question: Is This It?

Wrapping Up September is drawing to a close and so will our featured conversation – Life’s Big Questions. Since the start of the month, we shared our answers to some and gave tips how you might respond when those questions are posed in your experience. Today, as we end this conversation, at least for now, we turn to what is possibly the biggest question of all – “Is this it?” How many times have you asked this question? In my experience and through the conversations that I have had over

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Choices: They Are Yours To Make

Women Of Influence “You will never make it,” she declared to me. It was as if she threw down a gauntlet and I was no chicken. Too much had already happened in my life by age 18 for me to be otherwise. This was just one more challenge to prove that I was not worthless or destined to live a life riddled with abuse of all nature and types. It was another moment of choices to make. There were too many women of influence in my experience by then. Mrs. Portia Simpson-Miller, a

Money, Money, Money – Friend Or Foe?

Only Rich People For every time we talked and on any topic it always ended with her saying, “Only rich people… .” Whether we were talking about food, money, clothing, housing, having a pet, even sexual relationships for crying out loud, this woman always concluded that only rich people have it good. Before executing my plan not to engage her in any conversation beyond the weather, I asked her whether she thought her words had any impact on her finances. Sure she would not understand the metaphysics of my question,

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Why Do People Cheat? Let Me Tell You

Getting Answers Via Social Media This is one of Life’s Big Questions – why do people cheat? It is a quest that we have been on all month. Answering some of the perplexing, trying and even trivial questions many of us have.  Years ago, this particular question on infidelity is one that I gave my best shot. As we share our thoughts on some of these big ones, it seemed as good a time as any to edit and republish my response from 2009 to the cheating question. “Betrayal can

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Real Love: Myth, Mystery, Magic?

Which Is It? If you have the extra time and want to delve into it, let me tell you in the offing that scientifically, love is just a chemical reaction; it is not what it is painted to be. Real love many often call it but there is no spiritual depth and surging emotions that draw you mystically towards your soul mate. However, disciples of love believe that love is a magical connection between two people. Faithful followers steadfastly proclaim that people were created in soul-pairs. And as they descended

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Seasons Change: Embrace It Already!

They Do Not Repeat It was about this time last year that I wrote a piece about changing direction in life. I laid out my life plan, one I had had since early childhood, and then carefully explained how it was ripped away and I hit a wall. After licking my wounds, I changed direction. Since then, I have changed direction countless times and it is startling to see how different my life has turned out than I expected. Seasons change, they do not repeat. Though I am happy with my

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Death: Does It Make Life Meaningless?

Inevitable Event Life is unpredictable; it can be 4, 54 or 104 years long. But what is the point of having it, if is going to end one day? Death is inevitable. Then why are we constantly in a battle against time to ward it off? Why the medicines, diet regimes, and security from micro bacteria and terrorist attacks? “Till death do us part…” What is the point of love and devotion, of caring and sincerity, of vowing to stay together, when cruel death will ultimately ruin it all? Perhaps,

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What To Do When Big Life Questions Get Asked

Trigger Warnings What do you do when you hit a wall with one of life’s big stuff events? What could you do, when you feel overwhelmed? Who do you connect with? When? For some this article could contain trigger words or phrases. First, there is no wrong answer(s), feelings or thoughts unless self-harm or harm of others is a potential. Second, each of us use language differently. So words and phrases that I find easy to use  and 100% acceptable you might not enjoy or find mildly to very disrespectful. I look forward to a respectful discussion