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Settling: Is There Any Time It’s Okay?

Not A Break Up But A Shake Up “Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.” Mandy Hale That I know is true! Many of you reading those opening words from Mandy Hale might assume that they refer only to the heartbreak of an intimate relationship ending. However, it is applicable to just about every heartbreak imaginable. The loss of a job or even the end of a career that you worked years to climb

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Choices: They Are Yours To Make

Women Of Influence “You will never make it,” she declared to me. It was as if she threw down a gauntlet and I was no chicken. Too much had already happened in my life by age 18 for me to be otherwise. This was just one more challenge to prove that I was not worthless or destined to live a life riddled with abuse of all nature and types. It was another moment of choices to make. There were too many women of influence in my experience by then. Mrs. Portia Simpson-Miller, a

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Living This New Year According To Me

Oh, The Plans We Make… This time last year, I had just graduated with two Bachelor’s degrees and I was preparing to enter graduate school in pursuit of my Master’s. Until my very last semester in college, I had planned on getting my Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy. But then I visited some programs, did more research, and after shopping around, worried that it was not for me. Instead, after years of much bullying—er, encouragement—from respected professors, I decided to accept an assistant teaching position with the English department

Dude, You Have Cancer!

How Can You Be Happy? Several times during my often frightening challenges with two bouts of cancer, multiple treatments and life saving midnight surgery, I would get that question. Those were very intense times. I still have the gift of 77 medical clips and several large scars that help to remind me of those years of treatment. Once, as I was leaving yet another doctor’s appointment, a regular check up, I was pulled aside by one of the clinic’s administrators who simply wanted to know, “Why are you happy?” Seems,