down but not out

Down But Not Out: 4 Steps To Overcoming

Lesson From The US Election The past week has been an interesting one. We have seen the person who was almost written off as “cannot possibly win” do exactly that – win. We saw the one thought to be a virtual shoo-in lose. What we also saw were lessons not being learned; a collective of people, known as a party, not understanding that large sections of society are tired of not being heard. However, the greatest theme by the end of the week for me was “how to be down

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9 Things I’ve Learned So Far This Year

Life Classes Celebrating a milestone birthday, one would think that the particular year would be the most informative. Well, turns out that the year after is the one that I learned some new lessons. Truth be told, some of them were retakes, re-do’s or reinforcement ‘classes’. While I love [most] Millennials that have crossed my path, some are obnoxious in their belief that they know everything. In my late 20’s, I too thought there was nothing else to learn. Guess it is the idealism of youth that one thinks being

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Life’s Biggest Question: Is This It?

Wrapping Up September is drawing to a close and so will our featured conversation – Life’s Big Questions. Since the start of the month, we shared our answers to some and gave tips how you might respond when those questions are posed in your experience. Today, as we end this conversation, at least for now, we turn to what is possibly the biggest question of all – “Is this it?” How many times have you asked this question? In my experience and through the conversations that I have had over

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Choices: They Are Yours To Make

Women Of Influence “You will never make it,” she declared to me. It was as if she threw down a gauntlet and I was no chicken. Too much had already happened in my life by age 18 for me to be otherwise. This was just one more challenge to prove that I was not worthless or destined to live a life riddled with abuse of all nature and types. It was another moment of choices to make. There were too many women of influence in my experience by then. Mrs. Portia Simpson-Miller, a

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Seasons Change: Embrace It Already!

They Do Not Repeat It was about this time last year that I wrote a piece about changing direction in life. I laid out my life plan, one I had had since early childhood, and then carefully explained how it was ripped away and I hit a wall. After licking my wounds, I changed direction. Since then, I have changed direction countless times and it is startling to see how different my life has turned out than I expected. Seasons change, they do not repeat. Though I am happy with my

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Death: Does It Make Life Meaningless?

Inevitable Event Life is unpredictable; it can be 4, 54 or 104 years long. But what is the point of having it, if is going to end one day? Death is inevitable. Then why are we constantly in a battle against time to ward it off? Why the medicines, diet regimes, and security from micro bacteria and terrorist attacks? “Till death do us part…” What is the point of love and devotion, of caring and sincerity, of vowing to stay together, when cruel death will ultimately ruin it all? Perhaps,

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Insignificant Things You Should Be Grateful For

They Are Countless Those who have Liked my Facebook page would have read in one of my several daily posts that I no longer name myself as a Christian. That, however, does not disallow being grateful for some of the most healing, soul-fulfilling hymns and songs. Of particular value to me has been gospel. Hezekiah Walker, a well-known gospel singer and church leader, several songs that have accompanied me across some turbulent crossings. On the other side of those tides, this song is was always on my lips: I am

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On My Mind: So Many Things

A House The mind is beautiful; frightening, heart wrenching and pure. It is a house and memories make it a home. Imagination stretches its wings and flies, but always returns home to the mind. The very core, the soul and fibre of our being is in it. A great many fascinations and visualizations dare to trouble the peace of the mind. On my mind are vivid, happy memories, pictures of my dog, to-do lists and Facebook passwords. Hopes, passions and dreams are born in it. Much like wood, it slowly