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Guilt Trap: How To Escape It

Main Course Growing up, there were certain foods on the menus that my mother cooked for us. Some were my favourites.  Ackee & saltfish (when she could afford the latter), curried chicken served with rice and peas and of course, oxtail and beans.  Jamaican cuisine, if I may say so, is quite enticing and these dishes are among the best tasting. However, there were other side dishes on my mother’s menu. The one that would stay on my palate for ages was guilt. Mind you, she was not a Catholic

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Validation: Why Seeking It Is A Waste Of Your Time

Even The ‘Mighty’ Celebrity-watch is not one of my pastimes but the activities of a few, very few, do occasionally catch my attention. Tyrese Gibson is one and his most recent marriage has interested me. The fact of him tying the knot is not what interests me but the mixed reactions of his fans.  His own response to their attitudes towards, acceptance of and, for some, non-acceptance of his new wife is telling. What prompted this post is a fan’s recent comment. She essentially told him to stop seeking validation

Observing The Soul: 6 Cries For Recognition

More Care of The Soul Sunday – a new week has begun. So caught up with observing the ‘unfoldings’ that writing a post did not feel like the thing to do. “Observance of the soul can be deceptively simple. You take back what has been disowned. You work with what is, rather than with what you wish were there.”  Thomas Moore The book is Care Of The Soul and as shared the week before last, it is the one in my handbag.  Did you buy a copy? If not, get

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Life Gets Better When You…Fill In The Blank

Song On Our Lips Music permeates almost every aspect of Jamaican life. Whether we are happy, mourning, doing laundry or about to riot there is a song on our lips or moving our feet (and hips of course). Contemplating this week’s conversation, the song that came to mind was very popular in the 1970’s. Played most frequently at political rallies and by one of the two contending parties on the island, it promised “Better Must Come!” Derrick Wilson was the artist who made it popular on the island and it

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99 Problems And You Gotta Embrace All Of Them

One Less Would you believe that my reading of the book, Enthusiasm Makes The Difference, is still in progress? It has been a few weeks now but this time around I am savouring every page of this masterpiece by Norman Vincent Peale. Sitting on the train every morning heading into downtown Edmonton is the only time that I read it. Being a morning person, that is when information, ideas and inspiration are best understood and discerned by me. So, as my mind mused about what the result of my recent

How To Master The Art of Waiting – Because It Is One

Not In My Nature Being the risk-taker that I am, waiting was not something that came natural to me. Impatience was my tonic. It fueled me into action. Decisive is another word that comes to mind when considering my personality traits. Patience they say is a virtue and as shared here before, it is not one that came natural to me. Once an idea popped into my head, especially after there is no room left for worrying, off I went. Waiting was never much of an option. Call it my

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12 Steps To Live Enthusiastically Even In Uncertain Times

Enthusiasm Makes The Difference Continuing our conversation about living an enthusiastic life, we are discussing the 12 steps to help you do so. These are not steps that I developed – let us be clear about that from the outset. The bestselling author, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, outlined his ‘treatment’ for the collapsed personality in his book “Enthusiasm Makes The Difference.” First published in 1967, the book has sold millions of copies ever since. As mentioned in last week’s post, I have read this book at least twice before my

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Enthusiasm Can Heal A Collapsing Life

The Book On Enthusiasm Reinventing the wheel is not one of my favourite activities. In her younger years, my daughter would often hear me say, “Learn from the mistakes of others and make new ones of your own.” One of the many wonderful things that Oprah Winfrey achieved during her early year of talk show hosting was getting people to read. With great enthusiasm, people would join her book club and pour over this or that book. So, my intention is not to start another book club here. Oprah mastered