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Overwhelmed? 5 Tips To Regain Your Centre

Losing Your Footing Over the last couple of weeks, at least four people told me that they are feeling overwhelmed. When you add my absence last week from posting an article, that might be five. The difference between those four and I is that there are tools in my box to handle that feeling. Being overwhelmed or at least feeling as if things might be spiraling out of control is not something to ignore. Full disclosure here – I am not a therapist. My “expertise” on being overwhelmed comes from

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Self-Esteem: Time To Start Healing Yours

Self-Esteem: You Either Have Or Need To Get Some “Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” Iyanla Vanzant Idyllic is not a word you would use to describe my childhood or the home that I grew up in. Granted, a childhood neighbour told me she had no idea that my life was less than perfect. My mother had her masters in pretence. In all fairness

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Ownership Question: Who Does This Belong To?

Examine Your Life A conscious life and intentional living are what many strive to do and this writer is among them. Over the past couple of weeks, that came even more sharply into focus. Regular readers might have noticed that there was no post here last week. The reason for that is simple. Thrust upon me was another decision to take ownership, not necessarily of something but feelings about a couple of situations unfolding in my experience. Much if not all the posts on this blog are recollections of lessons

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Stop Being Tolerated: The ABC To Self Celebrate

Celebrate Good Times For at least a decade now, we have heard preachers, politicians and ordinary folk alike stress how important it is to tolerate others. We have also heard countless speeches and possibly attended, even more, seminars on how to celebrate our lives. Absolutely nothing wrong with either of the two. With the world going through another major transition, tolerance and celebration are welcomed ideas. However, some have taken tolerance to a politically correct extreme. Then there are those who miss the many opportunities to celebrate. On a more

Before I Die: 5 Life Lessons For My Granddaughter

Mahalia, My Kitten When this was first published, my granddaughter, Mahalia was almost 14-months old.  On July 1, 2014, she made a premature entrance and turned all our worlds around. No one would have convinced me that the day would come when I would be so in love with a grandchild. However, my Kitten, as I have called her since first seeing that ultrasound snapshot of her, has stolen, wrapped up and secured my heart. Due to her young age, genius as she might seem, I am sure Kitten will

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Enough: When Is It Never Enough?

What More Do We Need? First written towards the end of 2015, this is a deeply reflective conversation. Although we are only at the mid-year point,  there is so much to consider.   With all the happenings in the news and around the world, the quiet question about enough comes sauntering through my mind. “What do you wish there was more of in the world?” Obviously, this is not a new question for me and something tells me neither is it for you. Three years ago, my readers and I participated in a

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Cave Living or Free? Where Are You Living?

Do We Live In A Cave? Two years ago, wanting to refresh my memory about Plato’s “The Allegory of The Cave,” I re-read some scholarly articles on the work. One that I came across was actually a professorial assignment.  Students were asked to write an essay responding to the question whether the work remains relevant today. The professor wrote: “In Plato’s Allegory of the Cave, he describes a world where prisoners live chained in a cave. The puppeteers cast shadows on the wall and these shadows construct reality for the

Whatever Your Past, Be Your Own Woman Today

Looking Back This weekend, I returned to my past – in terms of my hair. Over the last almost nine years, at least twice hundreds possibly thousands of dollars left my pocket to maintain a particular hairstyle. In my youth, chemically processing seemed the only option but as times changed a large group of people of African heritage decided, “Enough!” We were done trying to fit into a model that was not natural to us. Being as particular as I am about a neat appearance when it comes to hairstyles,