Settling: Is There Any Time It’s Okay?

Not A Break Up But A Shake Up “Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.” Mandy Hale That I know is true! Many of you reading those opening words from Mandy Hale might assume that they refer only to the heartbreak of an intimate relationship ending. However, it is applicable to just about every heartbreak imaginable. The loss of a job or even the end of a career that you worked years to climb


Why Do People Cheat? Let Me Tell You

Getting Answers Via Social Media This is one of Life’s Big Questions – why do people cheat? It is a quest that we have been on all month. Answering some of the perplexing, trying and even trivial questions many of us have.  Years ago, this particular question on infidelity is one that I gave my best shot. As we share our thoughts on some of these big ones, it seemed as good a time as any to edit and republish my response from 2009 to the cheating question. “Betrayal can

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Real Love: Myth, Mystery, Magic?

Which Is It? If you have the extra time and want to delve into it, let me tell you in the offing that scientifically, love is just a chemical reaction; it is not what it is painted to be. Real love many often call it but there is no spiritual depth and surging emotions that draw you mystically towards your soul mate. However, disciples of love believe that love is a magical connection between two people. Faithful followers steadfastly proclaim that people were created in soul-pairs. And as they descended


Have You Checked The Details?

At The Core “The devil is in the details.” Have you ever heard that saying? When I first did the meaning was somewhat lost on me but not anymore. Actually, not for a long time now. That is possibly the skeptics way of saying what the optimist would, which is “God is in the details.” There are people who do not like getting into the details. This is true especially of many who are on dating sites. Their profiles are huge on fluff but short on details. Regular readers know


Do You Know Who Your Friends Are?

Social Media Changed Everything Facebook has made everyone friends but are they really? What does being someone’s friend really means to you? My mother did not have many friends and, for very different reasons, I am along that same path. With the advent of social media and the loose understanding of the word, many have given second thought to the meaning of friendship. Since this relationship status changed on Facebook, I have revisited how I use it. Who Are Your Friends? “A friend is someone who knows all about you


Lust: The Last Sin

Along With Gluttony Lust is defined as a “very strong sexual desire.” The conversations this month have focused on the seven deadly sins and virtues. We have covered all but two of sins – lust and gluttony. The order was not intentional. Contributors decided how they wished to take part in the month-long conversation and they left this one to me. Wonder why? While we normally associate gluttony with food and in some cases material things, lust is a natural partner for the purposes of concluding our conversation on sins.


Giving The Best Of Yourself

Best Of Me It is the beginning of a new month, April, but it is also the end of a journey we have taken along the path of intimate relationships. Over the last several weeks, we have been looking at how to be and give of the best of ourselves in our relationships. The conversations never ends, however, as we must – and I deliberately use that word – always try to be and give the best of who and what we are and continue to become. Monday through Friday


Update Your Life In 4 Steps

Starting With Your Passion It was love at first sight! My eyes were glued, my heart skipped several beats as my fingers explored the seeming wonders. “You’re just too good to be true, can’t take my eyes off of you… .” And for sure I did not for the 25+ years since. It has been my longest, dearest, most enriching and fulfilling relationship. Every update, upgrade and new possibilities we have explored together. Funny enough, I have never given my long-term mate a name. Strange?  Yet, our relationship has and