3 Types of Shit People: Which Are You?

How We Deal With It

shit happens“Shit happens.” That is something no one can deny. Most often, it happens when you are either least expecting it or when you can least afford it.

This conversation is not for everyone. They are shit-shy and this talk will be very frank. It will also be quite short as there is no point in beating around the bush.

In life, you will meet all kinds of people handling shit. Some do it to get ahead. Others to cause trouble – deliberately or mindlessly. And then there are those who just do it and move on. Ahmed Mostafa says, “It’s not the shit we face that defines us, it’s how we deal with it.” That is exactly the point of our conversation – how you handle shit.

Three Shit Handlers

Unless you are living under a rock, you will interact with one of the three shitty people in focus here. They are:

  1. The Strokers
  2. The Stirrers
  3. The Survivors

This past week, I met the first two a few times. If you are on Facebook, you would have seen or interacted with a few of the second type as well.

The Strokers

punditThe first type tends to more subtle and can be mistaken for “really nice people.” While they might be “nice,” in truth, they are akin to what psychologists refer to as passive-aggressive.

Strokers are the ones who pretend to not notice that something is wrong. It could be with someone’s behavior or a situation. Intent on not rocking the boat, particularly their own, they will accept other people’s disgusting behavior. These strokers are eloquent, present themselves as rational and calm but they are aggressively pushing an agenda. There are many of this type on television, in North America, but across the world. They are called political pundits but they are strokers.

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Aiding and abetting situations, speeches, rhetoric, practices, etc instead of calling shit for what it is, they pretend it’s cookie. Sensible people recognize what they are doing but sadly too many are beguiled and eating it up. Not me.

“… If I wanna shit I am going to buy it from the shop… what I need now is a friend [people] on which I can count on… you know the drill.”  Deyth Banger

The Stirrers

They are the gossips.

The stirrers are the ones, as they saying goes, “who talk shit to you, [and] usually talk shit about you.”

gossipTake the woman at the office. She has the most to say about the boss and/or the company to anyone willing to listen, hopefully, you are not one.

That guy who encourages you to do something that your gut tells you is wrong? He is a stirrer.

Like the stroker, this type comes across a suave and has the scoop. Their talk is sweet but their deed smells to hell!

Stirrers are in your family, not just on the street or at the office. There are in-laws who are known stirrers. You might have a sister who causes no end of trouble at Thanksgiving dinner.

Another quality that these people have is the ability to quickly disappear. When the crap that they peddled to you hit the fan – they are gone!

There comes a point when they have brought enough drama to your life, that you have to tell them straight up. “I just did some calculations and I’ve been able to determine that you’re full of shit!”


“We all have shit on our shoes. We’ve just got to realize it so we don’t track it into the house.”  Karl Marlantes

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surviveWhen you learn to not only identify the strokers and the stirrers but to distance yourself from them, you become a survivor. Knowing when you have been dipped into a bucket load is key.

It can take a few dips, possibly a drowning before you finally get it. That was my case when it came to credit cards and debt generally. For some, it is a health issue, one that is ignored until you land up in the emergency room. Alcohol and drugs have a way of doing that for others.

“I knew I was in deep shit. I didn’t know how deep—just that I still hadn’t touched bottom.” Sol Luckman

Rock bottom can be far down. Novelist Jasper Fforde puts it this way:

“If it takes us 10 years to get into the shit, it will take us 20 to get out.
And the journey starts NOW.”

Is there any that I have missed? Do share a description of any other type of shit handler you know in the comments below.

Which are you? Stroker, stirrer or survivor? A bit of each? Not sure or the journey to healing has only started? As a former stirrer, yes I was, maybe my coaching services can help. Check out the affordable packages on Fiverr! As well, like and follow me on Facebook and Twitter where I share thoughts, tips and, humor every day.

Check out last week’s post and do have a blessed week until the next!


Claudette P. Esterine

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4 thoughts on “3 Types of Shit People: Which Are You?

  1. Want to know something funny?
    I stepped in dog shit today. And I laughed and laughed. Then when I got home, I took my shoes off and carried them inside so I could clean them in the bathtub…. Because I am a SURVIVOR.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Gigi! You are so funny but wise! Thanks for sharing that insight! 🙂

  2. Wwooooo who stirred the shit in ya back yard sis? For sure there are lots of Humans on this planet. These days I tend to focus on attracting the right kind o my table of life…No that the above 3 dont exist, I just do my best not to cross oaths with them …Hope you do have shit free week ahead 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      I did and I am! Thank you as always Julie for stopping by! 🙂

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