Examine Your Life
A conscious life and intentional living are what many strive to do and this writer is among them. Over the past couple of weeks, that came even more sharply into focus. Regular readers might have noticed that there was no post here last week. The reason for that is simple. Thrust upon me was another decision to take ownership, not necessarily of something but feelings about a couple of situations unfolding in my experience.
Much if not all the posts on this blog are recollections of lessons learned by the Contributors and me. We share these as part of an effort to help at least one. That is enough. The hope is that the one assisted along his or her journey will pass on the word to another.
Although Plato is often credited for the words that have greatly affected my journey for over a decade now, they belong to Socrates. “An unexamined life is not worth living,” for me, is a profoundly important statement for anyone wishing to take full ownership of themselves.
Ownership: It’s Your Life
“Freedom begins the moment you realize someone else has been writing your story and it’s time you took the pen from his hand and started writing it yourself.” ― Bill Moyers
You can only come to the realisation that you have handed over ownership of your life upon examination. There are those who have no time for self-reflecting. Sad. Why? As they say about history, you cannot understand why you are here if you do not know where you have been. This is not a case for dwelling in the past, as many fear. Rather, it is a matter of learning the lessons it holds and then getting the hell out of there!
This is a conversation we have had here before. However, it bears repeating. No matter how evolved one might consider themselves to be, ownership is a daily repurchasing exercise. Some days or experiences will ask for a higher price. Other times your reinvestment will be a less but not necessarily easier. Let me give you a couple of examples.
Paying The Price For Respect
They say that respect is earned and that is true. What you might not have heard is that there are times when you pay a high price for respect.
Example, when you are in ownership mode or at least launching into it, there will be people who will try to buy you for cheap. This could be a family member, a friend or a suitor. Those are just three examples but it could actually be anyone.
Who is important in this “transaction” is you.
In my case over the past couple of weeks, the would be purchasers were two kinds. Family and suitors. All instances, for different reasons, called me to set my price. Bystanders might judge me as pricing myself out of the market. And that is the risk you will have to take if ownership of your journey is your goal. There were and will be moments when you might be tempted to lower your price but let the following words of Hunter Thompson be your guide.
“We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and—in spite of True Romance magazines—we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely—at least, not all the time—but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don’t see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.”
Compromise For What?
That “C” word. Compromise I mean – what were you thinking?
It is often touted as the heart of any good and lasting relationship. Maybe it is. You might say because I am a single woman of a certain age, clearly, I have not understood its importance. Maybe.
Truth be told, for 16 years at least, I tried it. In the end, what was compromised were my dreams, many of my ambitions and my self-esteem. For most of those years, time passed as I was twisting myself like a pretzel to fit in, be what my partner needed and pursuing everyone’s happiness but my own.
Eventually, life caught up with me and stopped me in my tracks. Forced to reflect and look at my journey up to that point, it was not the picture of wholeness. Ownership came at a dark and high price but it was worth it. So this week, when said suitors and financial challenge approached me, both expecting me to compromise my womanhood and faith, I rebuked them.
Who Does This Belong To?
As said earlier, taking ownership of our life is not a one-day event. Daily in some way shape or form, you will be called upon to so do.
Watching Youtube video this morning, that question – Who Does This Belong To? – was posed as a tool. Immediately hearing it, I recognised it as the one that will lead me throughout this week. Giving back and taking ownership of what is not yours and what rightfully belongs to you is fundamental to living a conscious life.
Inviting you to grab a brew and watch the video. Should any further questions arise for you and you feel that I can be of help, link with me via my Facebook page or Twitter. You can also access my services on Fiverr.
Own the week ahead and catch you in the next!