Mahalia, My Kitten
No one would have convinced me that the day would come when I would be so in love with a grandchild. However, my Kitten, as I have called her since first seeing that ultrasound snapshot of her, has stolen, wrapped up and secured my heart.
Due to her young age, genius as she might seem, I am sure Kitten will not be reading this post for a while. So, I am depending on her mother to read it to her and later, remind her about it, when I have made my transition so that she can find the link for herself.
Three things spurred me and caused this sentimentality. Today, her third birthday is the fourth reason for republishing this post. The first was seeing this video on Youtube – “If I Were A Young Woman Now.” Seeing it the first time in 2014, tears streamed down my face. Watching and wiping away tears, I did two things. The first was to create a webinar for young women under 35 years old. In that session, I shared some stories from my youth. My hope was that they would find something, even one, to help make their walk that more interesting.
Message For My Granddaughter
The second thing that prompted this “Message For Kitten,” was news of Dr Wayne Dyer’s death. Yours truly is not one to grieve about transitions as it is my view that there is no death, just a movement of energy. However, the news of Dr Dyer’s passing jolted me just a bit. I never knew the man personally but his work and words touched my soul when Claudette was out of touch with Her.
Celebrating that he was among us and what he taught was what I did. His passing reminded me that, having learned his way and understanding of Life, I must continue to make my mess my message. Kindness they say begins at home so after my daughter, my kind sharing (LOL) must be to my granddaughter.
It Is Never Too Late
My third reason for writing this post was something that I saw on Facebook. It was this photograph that very succinctly delivered another message; “It ain’t over until the fat lady sings.” No offence meant to my beautifully curvy Sisters.
The post reminded me that even at 50 (then) and have not won the lottery – life is not over, all things are still possible. There are many examples of people whose “success” came after the big five ‘O’. Louise Hay, Colonel Sanders, Stephen Covey and others did not become public figures, millionaires and teachers until 57+.
With all of that in the background, here are my five life tips to my granddaughter.
5 Life Lessons For My Granddaughter
- Accept and embrace the best education your parents can afford. Then pay for some more from your own pocket. Go to every class, every course, every lesson that your brain can absorb. Take language classes, woodwork lessons, do art, learn to play an instrument, get voice training. Do anything your heart calls you to. Never stop getting an education in anything!
- Eat all the delights and not so delightful that is put before you at least once. Find new foods, create your own recipes. Cook, cook and then cook some more! Invite friends over, go to their homes and “draw long bench” in the kitchens. The best conversations take place at the kitchen table!
- Date many people. Please do not marry too early. Date far and wide. Use condoms if you are going to have sex but date, date, date. Kiss many frogs. Chase butterflies to your heart’s desire. Love wastefully my darling because only then you will find The One.
- Travel far and wide, as much as you can. Never be bound by borders – not physical or mental ones. Jump in your car and drive to new places on lovely summer weekends. Take a train trip. Go for a boat ride as well. Visit Ghana – the land of your father’s birth. Dance to the beat of Reggae in the country of my birth. Be sure to see the Ukraine where your mother made her entry. Fly baby girl!
- Love and support the women in your life and the ones you meet along the way. Learn about your Sisters in distant lands, listen to their stories and then share them. Actively support your women friends using your talents, your connection and most of all your heart!
It Is A Wonderful, Crazy Life!
The tears were flowing as I typed this the first time. They are back as I edit. They come not out of sadness because I might not live to see my granddaughter follow my suggestions. I cry because I know she will grow into a most beautiful, vivacious and smart young woman who will make her mark in the world.
I cry because of the many young women, myself included, who do or did not have anyone to share their life lessons with them, helping them to create some worthy of passing on.
My tears come because I know that my Kitten and many girls will make their own mistakes and then have stories, become women with pasts, like I am, to share with their daughters and granddaughters.
What are you sharing with yours today? Please leave 3-5 tips for your granddaughters or future granddaughters in the comment section below. As well, read an earlier post on “Women Empowerment: The Cha-Cha-Cha?”
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