Before I Die: 5 Life Lessons For My Granddaughter

Mahalia, My Kitten

granddaughterWhen this was first published, my granddaughter, Mahalia was almost 14-months old.  On July 1, 2014, she made a premature entrance and turned all our worlds around.

No one would have convinced me that the day would come when I would be so in love with a grandchild. However, my Kitten, as I have called her since first seeing that ultrasound snapshot of her, has stolen, wrapped up and secured my heart.

Due to her young age, genius as she might seem, I am sure Kitten will not be reading this post for a while. So, I am depending on her mother to read it to her and later, remind her about it, when I have made my transition so that she can find the link for herself.

Feeling Sentimental

Three things spurred me and caused this sentimentality.  Today, her third birthday is the fourth reason for republishing this post. The first was seeing this video on Youtube – “If I Were A Young Woman Now.” Seeing it the first time in 2014, tears streamed down my face. Watching and wiping away tears, I did two things. The first was to create a webinar for young women under 35 years old. In that session, I shared some stories from my youth.   My hope was that they would find something, even one, to help make their walk that more interesting.


Message For My Granddaughter

The second thing that prompted this “Message For Kitten,” was news of Dr Wayne Dyer’s death.  Yours truly is not one to grieve about transitions as it is my view that there is no death, just a movement of energy. However, the news of Dr Dyer’s passing jolted me just a bit. I never knew the man personally but his work and words touched my soul when Claudette was out of touch with Her.

Celebrating that he was among us and what he taught was what I did.  His passing reminded me that, having learned his way and understanding of Life, I must continue to make my mess my message. Kindness they say begins at home so after my daughter, my kind sharing (LOL) must be to my granddaughter.

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It Is Never Too Late

life begins at 57
Photo Source: Facebook

My third reason for writing this post was something that I saw on Facebook. It was this photograph that very succinctly delivered another message; “It ain’t over until the fat lady sings.” No offence meant to my beautifully curvy Sisters.

The post reminded me that even at 50 (then) and have not won the lottery – life is not over, all things are still possible. There are many examples of people whose “success” came after the big five ‘O’.  Louise Hay, Colonel Sanders, Stephen Covey and others did not become public figures, millionaires and teachers until 57+.

With all of that in the background, here are my five life tips to my granddaughter.

5 Life Lessons For My Granddaughter

  1. Accept and embrace the best education your parents can afford.  Then pay for some more from your own pocket. Go to every class, every course, every lesson that your brain can absorb. Take language classes, woodwork lessons, do art, learn to play an instrument, get voice training. Do anything your heart calls you to. Never stop getting an education in anything!
  2. Eat all the delights and not so delightful that is put before you at least once. Find new foods, create your own recipes. Cook, cook and then cook some more! Invite friends over, go to their homes and “draw long bench” in the kitchens. The best conversations take place at the kitchen table!
  3. Date many people. Please do not marry too early. Date far and wide. Use condoms if you are going to have sex but date, date, date. Kiss many frogs. Chase butterflies to your heart’s desire. Love wastefully my darling because only then you will find The One.
  4. Travel far and wide, as much as you can. Never be bound by borders – not physical or mental ones. Jump in your car and drive to new places on lovely summer weekends. Take a train trip. Go for a boat ride as well. Visit Ghana – the land of your father’s birth. Dance to the beat of Reggae in the country of my birth. Be sure to see the Ukraine where your mother made her entry. Fly baby girl!
  5. Love and support the women in your life and the ones you meet along the way. Learn about your Sisters in distant lands, listen to their stories and then share them. Actively support your women friends using your talents, your connection and most of all your heart!
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It Is A Wonderful, Crazy Life!

granddaughterThe tears were flowing as I typed this the first time.  They are back as I edit.  They come not out of sadness because I might not live to see my granddaughter follow my suggestions. I cry because I know she will grow into a most beautiful, vivacious and smart young woman who will make her mark in the world.

I cry because of the many young women, myself included, who do or did not have anyone to share their life lessons with them, helping them to create some worthy of passing on.

My tears come because I know that my Kitten and many girls will make their own mistakes and then have stories, become women with pasts, like I am, to share with their daughters and granddaughters.

What are you sharing with yours today? Please leave 3-5 tips for your granddaughters or future granddaughters in the comment section below. As well, read an earlier post on “Women Empowerment: The Cha-Cha-Cha?”

Like my Facebook page and follow me on Twitter to stay in touch until my next weekly post. Who knows, maybe 20 years from now, your granddaughter will receive updates from mine. Should you need or simply want one-on-one coaching support, check out my services on Fiverr. Continue to have a great day and week. May we meet again soon.

Claudette P. Esterine






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59 thoughts on “Before I Die: 5 Life Lessons For My Granddaughter

  1. Very heartwarming post. I hope that your granddaughter would grow up to be a very fine and talented kid! I was becoming a little emotional while reading this.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, Kathleen, I do hope she does. Thank you for your kind words. 🙂

  2. She’s a cutie. I love how you said date many and travel. We tell our girls to enjoy life and not to get too serious so early. Granted none are old enough to date yet, but we do have a teen now and she has friends that are dating. Not happening up in here, but it did come up as she talked about friends dating. Enjoy and go see the world. Love on that grand baby and keep on spoiling her. I know you do. lol

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, Mom! I am so laughing at your saying “not happening up in here!” Too funny but they will be dating one day…hopefully not too soon. Much love and blessings. 🙂

  3. Eat all the Delights and not so delightful I LOVE THIS Claudette . I love my little ones not so little now and I love my nephews and nieces! Powerful message to your grand daughter.

  4. I just spent the last 5 days with my little niece. She’s my first niece ever… And while when I first met her I called her “it” and didn’t really care about her, I do now – now that she is more humanized in my mind. I need to share this list with my sister (who just told me she is pregnant again) to remind her that she cannot shelter her daughter as she gets older!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Isn’t it wonderful how Life works itself out! Thank you so much for sharing that Gigi! 🙂

  5. [ Smiles ] Highly inspirational!

    However, I have no grandchildren as yet!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well, continue to live life fully so you will have your own lessons to pass on when that time comes – and come it will. 🙂

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  10. Beautiful post and wishes for your adorable granddaughter

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much on both counts! 🙂

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  12. Your “kitten” is so lucky to be your granddaughter!
    I need to think a while about what my best tips would be, but off the top of my head, I would give the following advice:
    ~ always believe in yourself
    ~ give others the benefit of the doubt, be tolerant and keep an open mind
    and – of course –
    ~ make the most – – of every moment.
    Thanks for this thought-provoking post – and wishing your granddaughter every happiness in life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, thank you and thank you! My hope is that one day she will see this and she will see what wise women’s company I keep! 🙂 Namaste Susan

  13. Ashley

    Numbers 2 and 4, YES! I love trying new foods, even if I discover I hate them. And traveling is a MUST. A college study abroad program over years ago changed my life. SO worth it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Glad you liked and agreed with those two! I love food and travel myself very much so! And both have most certainly broadened my horizons. Namaste 🙂

  14. What beautiful things to leave behind for her in knowledge!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, I hope she thinks so too. 🙂

  15. Your granddaughter is such a cutie. Love the advice you have for her.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much on both counts. 🙂

  16. I just want to spend fun times with my kids and let them be while they are still young. Life is too short. Let them fail and learn from their mistake and when they are adults they are wiser.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I could not agree with you more! 🙂

  17. Rosey

    It is so important to love and support one another. Men seem to have it easier in that dept. than we do.

    1. Ms Claudette

      They too have their challenges but you are right, for some reason we women tend to compete more than we care to admit. 🙁

  18. This is so beautiful and such great advice. I do hope you get to see your “Kitten” accomplish many of these things.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you so very much! 🙂

  19. Sometimes it does take a loss like this to put it into perspective and help us refocus on what’s important.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed sometimes it does. Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

  20. What a sweet thoughtful thing to write. I wonder what my grandma would tell me now, but thinking she would tell me to travel lots and be kind (as you mention).

    1. Ms Claudette

      Something tells me she would! 🙂 Much blessings to you.

  21. These are beautiful life tips for your granddaughter. I love all of them and I agree about never stopping on getting an education in anything.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and yes, education is key. 🙂

  22. leybainpublic

    Awesome blog post. Beautiful words indeed. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! 🙂

  23. Elizabeth O.

    Beautiful lessons for your grand daughter. I especially like number one, education is very important.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It is extremely important. Thanks for dropping by! 🙂

  24. Kindness is definitely a beautiful message. Deeply saddened that Dr Wayne Dyer has moved on from this world, sure he has bigger things to take care of.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, I am sure he is creating intentions elsewhere right now 🙂

  25. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince 🙂 Thats what my mom always told me!

    1. Ms Claudette

      She was so right your Mom! 🙂

  26. I have told my granddaughter ti enjoy life. Experience all it offers.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Sound advice! 🙂

  27. Great advice. Wonderful to share such great information with your granddaughter.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! 🙂

  28. dltolley

    And the tears are streaming as I read this! Such wonderful, positive advice! All of the above. I would add: Be kind. That doesn’t mean let others walk over you. But don’t walk over them, either. Enjoy people. They really are an interesting bunch!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for that addition Diane! I will ensure her Mom add it to the list as from a very wise woman who she might have the chance to meet one day soon, after all we live in the same province!!! 🙂

  29. sicorra

    Beautiful messages, as always! Your grand daughter is adorable, and I love her bike!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, thank and thank you as always! 🙂

  30. I love to travel and try to take my kids as much as I can 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Great! I amsure they enjoy the trips! 🙂

  31. I want to travel and eat delights. That would make me happy.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Go for it! 🙂

  32. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    Yes, yes, yes! Travel as much as possible while you can!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I see I have a kindred spirit on that! 🙂

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