Changes, Choices: And Their Consequences

Are You Committed?

changesThat title is not completely accurate. Rather, it is not complete. The editor’s guide recommended that it was the perfect length hence my cutting it short. Had that not been the case, the full title would have been “Changes, Choices And Their Consequences: Are You Committed?”

Happy New Year dear Readers! I do hope that 2017 has started on the best note for you? It is now Day #6 of the New Year. Were you wondering whether this blog would reappear for 2017?

Our last post was on December 22, 2016 – A Christmas Reflection: Speaking Your Truth. There is a saying that “Art imitates life,” or is it the other way around? Whichever is correct, since publishing that post, reflection and a deep one at that, is what I have done.

2017: Changes, Choices

Years ago, at another reflective time in my life – my chaplaincy training, I developed a model for my journey. It followed the pattern of the First Nations of Canada that encompasses the four aspects of humanity. ย It is the medicine wheel. I believe all Native Americans share it although it has been adapted and expressed in various ways. Here is one such:

Changes, Choics

Since my introduction to the Medicine Wheel, I have done my adaption. One day, soon perhaps, I will share my version with you, although I do believe it has been shared before. In short, however, while following the basic principles, mine covers my life and how I want to live out the rest of my journey.

changesNow, to the point of this my first post of 2017. On Christmas Eve, I went over to my daughter’s home to spend the holidays with them. It was my first weekend off in a couple of months and I was really looking forward to seeing my granddaughter’s face on Christmas morning. She is almost 2 years and 5 months old, and she had declared since November or so that this was “my Christmas!”ย  While I did have the pleasure of seeing her tearing apart her gifts on “her Christmas,” my joy was short-lived.

Consequences, You Have To Live With Them

My writings are always from my place of truth – my heart. Some may feel that I share too much. That is their issue. Experience has taught me that through storytelling we can impact lives. It maybe one at a time and that is great in my view. So after leaving my daughter’s home on Christmas Day, before dinner was even ready, I retreated to the privacy and solitude of my apartment. Regular readers know that this is a preferred space for me. I am [still] single and have over the years developed a taste for solitude. It is a consequence of my marital status [lol] and one that I honestly am happy to live with.

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Although I shared posts on Facebook over the days following Christmas, including over New Years Day, they were generic, not saying much on a personal level. That was very unlike me but it was part of the “Changes, Choices And Their Consequences” that I was committingย to keep this year. Here is what I finally wrote on my Facebook page on January 2, 2017.

The Commitment

Claudette P. Esterine

For almost 10 years now, I spend New Year’s Eve night alone in fairly quiet contemplation. This past one was no different but I took it a step further.

I haven’t been in the greatest of health, with increasing pain in parts of my body. Not wishing to put undue and undesired pressure on anyone, since Christmas day I have been journeying alone as I await my doctor’s return from vacation.

As 2017 approached, it was my decision to turn off my phone and laptop. I’m an only child and a few years ago became an orphan. Being alone is something that I know very well even in a relationship, with some people and even with family members around.

Experiencing an entire day, writhing in pain and by myself was in fact a great reminder that we all enter alone and will leave alone. Not meaning to be morbid. On the contrary. The experience was one that throughout I heard, “I can do all things through [Source] that strengthens.

Strong as I am, there are time when I would love to have someone to just sit quietly with me. What the last 36 hours reminded me quite powerfully is that we are never truly alone.

That’s my hope and prayer for everyone this year – that you are always given such a reminder.



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Through the pain and tears, yes I cried, of another Christmas not going exactly as I had hoped, I reached deep within and accepted the “Changes, Choices And Their Consequences.”

changesOnce again, my life and indeed the world was changing. My granddaughter had “her Christmas,” and it was wonderful to see her enjoying the non-technological and techie gifts that she received. My daughter has turned fully into her own woman and has a great command of her life and its direction. Although it was thrust upon me since childhood to fend for myself, it was my choice to not mar the day for anyone and “suffer” through my health challenges.

As a world, we have made choices about leadership as well as about cultural and religious relationships. These are all changes and choices that we will all “suffer” and grow through the consequences. What is for sure is that, as shown on the Medicine Wheel above, unless we move to the centre and focus there, it will be a rocky ride.

What Lies Ahead

In my small corner and with the help of a few invaluable resources – some new, some old – I have recommitted to focussed personal growth. Not that I ever stopped. There are times when it has been sidetracked, distracted by situations, glittering “things” or sweet talking people. Briefly I have taken my eyes off the ball but my commitment this year is to plant myself in the centre of the Wheel and ride through whatever lies ahead in 2017.

Over the months, on a weekly basis at least, I will continue to share comments, tips and strategies for our collective “Change, Choices And Their Consequences.” It would be wonderful to hear your suggestions. So, please subscribe and ride along with me. When you do, you will get an update when I post as well as any special E-book or other publication that might be shared during this year.

Have an awesome weekend!


Claudette P. Esterine


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29 thoughts on “Changes, Choices: And Their Consequences

  1. I’m happy for you that you’ve come to appreciate solitude. Everyone is different and some people will not understand lone wolves but just because someone is alone doesn’t make them lonely.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It certainly does not and I have been a lone wolf for a very long time now my dear. Thanks for the visiting. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. [ Smiles ] It always involves commitment; there is no way of getting away from it!

  3. It is time for some changes for me, that’s for sure! Great post ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome Chrissy and thank you so much for your visit! ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Hey Sis,
    Sorry to hear you have been in such pain, that you continue to feed our spirits is testimony to your strength of character and love of service t others. Change is the one constant in our lives, we only get to struggle when we resist it or take the wrong kind of change. I hope you have a pain free 2017!

  5. Our Family World

    You are right. Most lives change to something better because of something that can be read or accessible. I should know, I’m one of those at the reading end. Looking forward to more of your posts this year!

  6. Shane

    Love this perspective! It’s so important to take into account all these C’s when making a change.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I think so Shane and I am happy that you concur! Thanks for the visit and the comment. ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Elizabeth O.

    That’s a very good reminder for us all, that we are never truly alone. I think it’s amazing to be reminded of that especially through dark times. I hope you get the help that you need with your health issues and that the pain finally goes away.

  8. It’s tough to hear you, such an inspiring person, in pain. You have given us so much wisdom in the past years and you continue to be a symbol of strength. I hope that you eventually heal and that no pain will be added to what you’re already going through.

  9. Sorry to hear about your health challenges. It’s not easy – I know. I agree with you when you said we’re not truly alone. Yes, you’re not alone. Remember that when you see one set of print on the sand, that’s when He carry you. Well wishes to you!

  10. You know in was just thinking of alone time the other day. My parents raised me to be independent. Doing things for myself and even though I have a family comes natural. I am comfortable with that. My mother is still alive but still does her own thing. I do not hoover over her, and she doesn’t to me. My husband is very family focused and our world’s collide. I like to be alone even though I have a family. I don’t need nor do I want constant companionship. Too many people make me nervous and anxious family or not. So I would rather reduce it if at all possible. I wish you luck in your future and that your happy in whatever you do.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much Rose for what you shared and for your well wishes. I never understand why some people judge those of us who love our own company. ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. I admire your courage to go through your health issues on your own, but I caution you to please include your family of it is at all possible. As the adult daughter of a very ill woman with a laundry list of chronic health problems, I would hate to think my mother was suffering alone.

    Otherwise, I’m glad your holidays went mostly well and that you have such a positive perspective on everything! That’s quite inspiring, to say the least.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you so much for your visit Brandi and your words of encouragement. We all have our road to travel and this is mine. I journey in peace and with those who truly wishes to do so with me. Namaste

  12. thi

    I am sorry for all that you have endured. Let go of the past and prepare the future. This year will have so much to offer you, I just know it. ๐Ÿ™‚ Taking every blessing and love life. Thank you for sharing this personal post. xoxo

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Thi for your kind words. I am the madam of letting go. ๐Ÿ™‚ Namaste.

  13. consequences can be difficult to live with sometimes, so when you have big changes or decisions to make it is a good idea to explore what the consequences will be and if you can live with them…..

  14. I am so sorry you are in so much pain. I hope you can find relief soon.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you so much Carrie! ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been going through so much pain and that you’ve had to endure that alone while the doctor has been away. I hope they get to the bottom of it soon and you mend swiftly. It’s so good that you have your daughter and grandchild to spend time with, and wonderful that they’re understanding enough to support your desire to spend time in solitude. May 2017 be the best year yet for you, wishing you all the best and good health.
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  16. Milica

    Very heart warming post. I’m so sorry you were in so much pain. Hope 2017 will bring you health and prosperity!

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is what I am claiming not just for myself but for everyone “growing through!” Namaste Milica! ๐Ÿ™‚

  17. Never heard about the medicine wheel before. Seems so much like the Vastu.

  18. Looking forward to your 2017 posts. I’m sorry you were going through so much pain. Sending healing thoughts your way <3 Remember, you're never alone. Even if it may feel like it. You've built a network of people. Your online friends are there for you too ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. That medicine wheel is interesting. I’ve never seen one before.

    Here’s to a fabulous 2017!
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  20. Beautiful post! Happy New Year to you!

    1. Ms Claudette

      The same to you Jessica and thanks for the visit! ๐Ÿ™‚

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