Are You Committed?
That title is not completely accurate. Rather, it is not complete. The editor’s guide recommended that it was the perfect length hence my cutting it short. Had that not been the case, the full title would have been “Changes, Choices And Their Consequences: Are You Committed?”
Happy New Year dear Readers! I do hope that 2017 has started on the best note for you? It is now Day #6 of the New Year. Were you wondering whether this blog would reappear for 2017?
Our last post was on December 22, 2016 – A Christmas Reflection: Speaking Your Truth. There is a saying that “Art imitates life,” or is it the other way around? Whichever is correct, since publishing that post, reflection and a deep one at that, is what I have done.
2017: Changes, Choices
Years ago, at another reflective time in my life – my chaplaincy training, I developed a model for my journey. It followed the pattern of the First Nations of Canada that encompasses the four aspects of humanity. It is the medicine wheel. I believe all Native Americans share it although it has been adapted and expressed in various ways. Here is one such:
Since my introduction to the Medicine Wheel, I have done my adaption. One day, soon perhaps, I will share my version with you, although I do believe it has been shared before. In short, however, while following the basic principles, mine covers my life and how I want to live out the rest of my journey.
Now, to the point of this my first post of 2017. On Christmas Eve, I went over to my daughter’s home to spend the holidays with them. It was my first weekend off in a couple of months and I was really looking forward to seeing my granddaughter’s face on Christmas morning. She is almost 2 years and 5 months old, and she had declared since November or so that this was “my Christmas!” While I did have the pleasure of seeing her tearing apart her gifts on “her Christmas,” my joy was short-lived.
Consequences, You Have To Live With Them
My writings are always from my place of truth – my heart. Some may feel that I share too much. That is their issue. Experience has taught me that through storytelling we can impact lives. It maybe one at a time and that is great in my view. So after leaving my daughter’s home on Christmas Day, before dinner was even ready, I retreated to the privacy and solitude of my apartment. Regular readers know that this is a preferred space for me. I am [still] single and have over the years developed a taste for solitude. It is a consequence of my marital status [lol] and one that I honestly am happy to live with.
Although I shared posts on Facebook over the days following Christmas, including over New Years Day, they were generic, not saying much on a personal level. That was very unlike me but it was part of the “Changes, Choices And Their Consequences” that I was committing to keep this year. Here is what I finally wrote on my Facebook page on January 2, 2017.
For almost 10 years now, I spend New Year’s Eve night alone in fairly quiet contemplation. This past one was no different but I took it a step further.
I haven’t been in the greatest of health, with increasing pain in parts of my body. Not wishing to put undue and undesired pressure on anyone, since Christmas day I have been journeying alone as I await my doctor’s return from vacation.
As 2017 approached, it was my decision to turn off my phone and laptop. I’m an only child and a few years ago became an orphan. Being alone is something that I know very well even in a relationship, with some people and even with family members around.
Experiencing an entire day, writhing in pain and by myself was in fact a great reminder that we all enter alone and will leave alone. Not meaning to be morbid. On the contrary. The experience was one that throughout I heard, “I can do all things through [Source] that strengthens.
Strong as I am, there are time when I would love to have someone to just sit quietly with me. What the last 36 hours reminded me quite powerfully is that we are never truly alone.
That’s my hope and prayer for everyone this year – that you are always given such a reminder.
You Are Never Alone
Through the pain and tears, yes I cried, of another Christmas not going exactly as I had hoped, I reached deep within and accepted the “Changes, Choices And Their Consequences.”
Once again, my life and indeed the world was changing. My granddaughter had “her Christmas,” and it was wonderful to see her enjoying the non-technological and techie gifts that she received. My daughter has turned fully into her own woman and has a great command of her life and its direction. Although it was thrust upon me since childhood to fend for myself, it was my choice to not mar the day for anyone and “suffer” through my health challenges.
As a world, we have made choices about leadership as well as about cultural and religious relationships. These are all changes and choices that we will all “suffer” and grow through the consequences. What is for sure is that, as shown on the Medicine Wheel above, unless we move to the centre and focus there, it will be a rocky ride.
What Lies Ahead
In my small corner and with the help of a few invaluable resources – some new, some old – I have recommitted to focussed personal growth. Not that I ever stopped. There are times when it has been sidetracked, distracted by situations, glittering “things” or sweet talking people. Briefly I have taken my eyes off the ball but my commitment this year is to plant myself in the centre of the Wheel and ride through whatever lies ahead in 2017.
Over the months, on a weekly basis at least, I will continue to share comments, tips and strategies for our collective “Change, Choices And Their Consequences.” It would be wonderful to hear your suggestions. So, please subscribe and ride along with me. When you do, you will get an update when I post as well as any special E-book or other publication that might be shared during this year.
Have an awesome weekend!