Christmas Reflection: Speaking Your Truth

Examining Our Lives

christmas reflectionEver since my chaplaincy training, reflecting on the journey has been a big part of my life. It is something that comes natural to me. One of my favourite quotes is that of Socrates that “an unexamined life is not worth living.” There were points that worrying was my modus operandi but the knot in my stomach is too unpleasant. For a week or so now, one of those painful knots was forming. While out with my daughter shopping today for last-minute gifts, I took the opportunity to launch into my annual Christmas Reflection.

This is a tradition that started over a decade ago. Every year around this time, the process would begin as we approach year-end. As I have shared, New Year’s Eve has not caught me out partying in ages. Instead, the eve of a new year always find me setting my intentions for the one that is about to unfold.

Pouring my heart out to my best friend who so happens to be my daughter, my thoughts went to my Christmas reflection of years gone by. One in particular stood out. It was from a series of blog post just before Christmas 2005. With all that has happened in our world and indeed in my personal life, that reflection remains poignant. It is one about women and for women as we move into a new year (2017) and indeed a new world that holds many uncertainties for women all over.

Christmas Reflection To Inspire Others

In that Christmas Reflection post in 2005, I shared quotes from women who inspire. These were words that I took with me into 2006; ones that I wanted to guide my living in that year. What I learned that year about womanhood – my womanhood – was well summarized in the quotes:

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“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.” — Margaret Fuller

Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.” —Janis Joplin

Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

“I am also very proud to be a liberal. Why is that so terrible these days? The liberals were liberators—they fought slavery, fought for women to have the right to vote, fought against Hitler, Stalin, fought to end segregation, fought to end apartheid. Liberals put an end to child labor and they gave us the five day work week! What’s to be ashamed of?”—Barbra Streisand

“As a woman I have no country.  As a woman my country is the whole world.” —Virginia Woolf

Speaking Your Truth

christmas reflectionAt the core of these inspiring words, at least to me, is the message of ‘speaking one’s truth’. This, speaking my truth, has been an important lesson then and now.  Another ‘strong woman’, Iyanla Vanzant, taught me this lesson through her writings. It is a lesson that was reinforced for me during 2005 and in fact again this year that is ending. It is a way of living that I have tried to keep in step with for over a decade now.

In my professional and my private lives, I have come to learn that the failure to tell the truth or to give voice to one’s own truth is to murder your spirit. For many years I have done that – killed my soul – just to make sure that I was accepted by society and by people who I so dearly wanted to like.

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christmas reflectionWhat I have learnt is that when I fail to speak my truth, I also fail to acknowledge my reality. The result is that I am less liked, first by myself and then others. Make no mistake, there are those who will intensely dislike you for speaking your truth. There are some in your and indeed in my life who are uncomfortable with your truth. Telling the story of pain and struggles that we have lived and endured; even basking in your achievements, however major or minor they might be, challenge them. To these people I have said, hopefully not in a crude way, “to bad, to sad.”

Truth Is Such A Rare Thing

You must speak the truth to live and become all that you can be – this I know is true.

Emily Dickinson it was who said, “Truth is such a rare thing, it is [delightful] to tell it.” That is what I am experiencing and continue to experience since I have started telling the truth – delight and moments of sheer joy – as I see the freedom speaking my truth gives to the person hearing it. Today, as I shared my truth with my daughter it was a most freeing moment for me!

Will you speak your truth in 2017? Will you step up to life’s microphone and give voice to the real you this New Year?

I dare you!

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Have a Merry Christmas and do enjoy the season!


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37 thoughts on “Christmas Reflection: Speaking Your Truth

  1. [ Smiles ] A highly inspirational article and I am a huge fan of Iyanla Vanzant!

  2. MJ

    The end of the year is always a great time for reflection, it’s a necessary thing to understand our purpose in life and the journey we are on and how our actions have and will affect others and the world.
    XO, MJ
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  3. I have just gone thru a very deep soul searching episode and for 7 days I have been speaking my Truth i to my soul. Its liberating, refreshing and definitely we should all do more! 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am so glad for you Julie!

  4. Leigh Borders

    What a great post. Oftentimes it is difficult to speak out in truth but I am going to try to do so in 2017. I want to speak it in love.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Speak up my dear Leigh!

  5. Kait

    I love love love that Eleanor Roosevelt quote! It has always been one of my favorites!

  6. This is such a good post. It is a great thing to be true to yourself and speak the truth.

    Isaly Holland

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Isaly! Yes, it is indeed wonderful to be true to oneself! 🙂

  7. I agree. I reflect every year around this time so I can go into 2017 with ease and motivation.

    1. Ms Claudette

      The best way to go Nicole! 🙂

  8. Such a beautiful post and Christmas is definitely a good time to reflect on speaking the truth. These are some beautiful and motivating quotes as well. Thanks for inspiring.

  9. The truth gives us freedom, without a doubt. I would rather be honest than to keep things especially from my loved ones. This is such a lovely message. We definitely should welcome the new year by speaking the truth.

  10. I agree that Christmas time is a good time to reflect. I enjoyed reading this post and you bring up some good points about speaking the truth.

  11. Samantha

    holidays lead to reflection. Heres to a great 2017!

  12. I try to always be honest! I hope 2017 is a great year!
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  13. Our Family World

    Some people know the reality about truths and the repercussions of saying otherwise, but tend to spin it in a way that is convenient for all sides. Saying the truth after a lie isn’t a good way to do it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      The inconvenient truth, right? Thanks for that. 🙂

  14. Elizabeth O.

    I have promised myself a long time ago to be more honest with people even if it means hurting them. Very few people are truthful these days. It’s refreshing to meet someone who speaks of the truth.

  15. Krystle Cook

    I definitely try to speak out about what I love around the holidays. Speaking your truth is something you should try and do every day though.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are so right on that Krystle!

  16. These are bold words but very needed. It is so important to speak your own truth.

    1. Ms Claudette

      And to travel! 🙂 Thanks for the visit dear one!

  17. A thought provoking post, this. I was always raised to keep quiet and not express my truth, so this is a lesson I’ve been trying to unlearn for most of my adult life. Hopefully, 2017 will be the year. 🙂
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    1. Ms Claudette

      I hope so too Elizabeth as it would be one of your most freeing years! 🙂

  18. Cristina L.

    I liked reading this article. It’s full of good advice. I really love this quote “As a woman I have no country. As a woman my country is the whole world.” —Virginia Woolf

  19. Inspiring read! I love the idea of having a Christmas Reflection. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome Edira!

  20. They did such amazing things and this is why I am a proud one too! Also, Eleanor Roosevelt quote is my favorite!

  21. Christmas and New Years have been a time of reflection for me for many years now. I think that as we get older we just naturally tend to become more introspective at these times of transition. This is a beautiful post, and I too will go forward in 2017 speaking my truth.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      My eyes and ears are wide open to read and hear them Daisy! 🙂

  22. I love the idea of picking quotes to bring you into the new year! I am going to try this. I think posting them around my desk as reminders through the new year will be helpful! Thanks for the great post!

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is a great way to keep oneself reminded of the important thoughts Kristi! All the best for 2017! 🙂

  23. I like the idea of reflecting around the holidays and I try to do that every year as well. I’m going to take up your challenge and try to speak my truth in 2017!

  24. I find it funny we work hard on teaching out kids to tell the truth but hardly any adults can abide by it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Oh heavens – isn’t that the truth Mihaela? We totally forget that they are watching us!

  25. I had that Eleanor Roosevelt quote on my bios for the longest time as a reminder having been bullied horribly throughout most of my life. truth is important there’s no arguing that, but the way you speak the truth is also important, you have to speak the truth without being nasty of hurting someone else for the sake of being right or having the last word. great post and points!

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