Celebrating a milestone birthday, one would think that the particular year would be the most informative. Well, turns out that the year after is the one that I learned some new lessons. Truth be told, some of them were retakes, re-do’s or reinforcement ‘classes’.
While I love [most] Millennials that have crossed my path, some are obnoxious in their belief that they know everything. In my late 20’s, I too thought there was nothing else to learn. Guess it is the idealism of youth that one thinks being twenty plus years old is as a good as it gets.
Well I am here to disabuse any such notion. Fifty is the university years in this educational programme called Life. Please, do not scoff at that because you have not yet hit those numbers. Wait, you will get there. The battle with gray hairs all over, yes I do mean all over, is one skill that you will gain at 50 but that was not the most interesting lesson that I learned.
Thought I Learned Them Already!
If we are going to be exact, my 51st year [this one] is when my learning got turned up. There I was thinking that it would be relatively smooth sailing until such time. You know of when I speak. This, my 50 and over years, would be the time that life would be all about living from the foundation lessons of earlier years. Oh no! Alas, there are retakes, do overs and even fresh classes to take.
Thankful for a character trait of mine, self-reflection, and with the aid of the E-Book that I shared with Subscribers last year, these classes were not very hard for me to sit through. I will not lie to you and say that tears were not shed through some of them. There were moments when I thought, “Not this again!” And some made me thankful that Life had led me down certain roads, well equipping me for the new programmes of learning.
So, what are the nine lessons that I learned so far this year?
Retake, Re-Do And Fresh Classes
Context is always important. For readers who are unfamiliar with the nature of this blog and me, Claudette, here is the back story. At now 51 years old, I am a mother of an almost 30-year-old woman and grandmother of a wise and precocious 2-year-old girl. Married thrice, divorced and as far as I can tell single for the rest of this journey, my professional life has taken me from secretary, communications specialist to quasi-diplomat at a regional organization in the early years.
An immigrant and now Canadian citizen for 15+ years, both my personal and professional lives have changed. Those changes have been in drastic and not-so drastic ways as does that of most migrants to this country. Now, my days are occupied with a day job that is not directly related to anything I ever imagined but learned enough skills to do well. My mornings, evenings and in-between times are dedicated to coaching, writing and editing this blog and just being there however needed for my granddaughter.
I host this blog, targetting women all over the world. Whatever her circumstances and wherever she may live, every woman carries a story that only another woman can truly understand. My particular story is lived and shared on these “pages,” and these nine lessons tell them in part.
Eight Plus One
Lessons Learned So FarThings learned so far this year and it is only October!
|Silence is Beautiful||We all heard it's golden but as chaos and confusion threatened, silence made everything beautiful.|
|Stock your pantry||A stocked pantry is your best friend.|
|$20 is a lot of money||Lesson #3 goes hand in hand with Lesson #2. When the cash flow is slow, surviving on $20 and a stock pantry is genius!|
|"Ugly" guys are abundant||Labelling is not cute but after 100+ pictures of men's genitals, it is hard not to!|
|Fair weather friends are plentiful too||Real friends are not blinded by your smile; they see your soul.|
|Strong women never get a break||Damsels in distress will always get a break. You won't so do not hold your breath.|
|Ageism is real||You might have heard but never believed it was true, until you turn 50, single and lost your job!|
|Bitterness is a burden||Even with the chaos, trickling cash flow, ugly men sending you dirty pics, disappearing "friends" and mounting evidence of ageism - never be bitter. Be Better!|
“Nine you said but that is only eight,” you observe and you are right.
Lesson #9 that I learned so far this year is that “Class is always in session!”
So for those Millennials who believe they know everything – “You ain’t seen nothing yet, babies!”
What lessons have you learned so far this year? Share a few or the most significant one with me in the comment below. Another lesson that I learned long ago and that has stayed with me is that “change is the only constant.” You might have noticed that the blog was M.I.A. for close to three weeks, as well as the make-over. Time management is something that came up this month and so we will be publishing at most twice weekly. So, to never miss a post, do Subscribe and get updated when we do! As well, need someone to support your through your classes, a tutor maybe? I would be happy to coach you! Check out my services and get my E-book here and get those “classes” done!
Have a great week and a happy new month when it gets here!