9 Things I’ve Learned So Far This Year

Life Classes

learnedCelebrating a milestone birthday, one would think that the particular year would be the most informative. Well, turns out that the year after is the one that I learned some new lessons. Truth be told, some of them were retakes, re-do’s or reinforcement ‘classes’.

While I love [most] Millennials that have crossed my path, some are obnoxious in their belief that they know everything. In my late 20’s, I too thought there was nothing else to learn. Guess it is the idealism of youth that one thinks being twenty plus years old is as a good as it gets.

Well I am here to disabuse any such notion. Fifty is the university years in this educational programme called Life. Please, do not scoff at that because you have not yet hit those numbers. Wait, you will get there. The battle with gray hairs all over, yes I do mean all over, is one skill that you will gain at 50 but that was not the most interesting lesson that I learned.

Thought I Learned Them Already!

If we are going to be exact, my 51st year [this one] is when my learning got turned up. There I was thinking that it would be relatively smooth sailing until such time. You know of when I speak. This, my 50 and over years, would be the time that life would be all about living from the foundation lessons of earlier years. Oh no! Alas, there are retakes, do overs and even fresh classes to take.

Thankful for a character trait of mine, self-reflection, and with the aid of the E-Book that I shared with Subscribers  last year, these classes were not very hard for me to sit through. I will not lie to you and say that tears were not shed through some of them. There were moments when I thought, “Not this again!” And some made me thankful that Life had led me down certain roads, well equipping me for the new programmes of learning.

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So, what are the nine lessons that I learned so far this year?

Retake, Re-Do And Fresh Classes

learnedContext is always important. For readers who are unfamiliar with the nature of this blog and me, Claudette, here is the back story. At now 51 years old, I am a mother of an almost 30-year-old woman and grandmother of a wise and precocious 2-year-old girl. Married thrice, divorced and as far as I can tell single for the rest of this journey, my professional life has taken me from secretary, communications specialist to quasi-diplomat at a regional organization in the early years.

An immigrant and now Canadian citizen for 15+ years, both my personal and professional lives have changed. Those changes have been in drastic and not-so drastic ways as does that of most migrants to this country. Now, my days are occupied with a day job that is not directly related to anything I ever imagined but learned enough skills to do well. My mornings, evenings and in-between times are dedicated to coaching, writing and editing this blog and just being there however needed for my granddaughter.

I host this blog, targetting women all over the world. Whatever her circumstances and wherever she may live, every woman carries a story that only another woman can truly understand. My particular story is lived and shared on these “pages,” and these nine lessons tell them in part.

Eight Plus One

Lessons Learned So Far

Things learned so far this year and it is only October!
Silence is BeautifulWe all heard it's golden but as chaos and confusion threatened, silence made everything beautiful.
Stock your pantryA stocked pantry is your best friend.
$20 is a lot of money Lesson #3 goes hand in hand with Lesson #2. When the cash flow is slow, surviving on $20 and a stock pantry is genius!
"Ugly" guys are abundantLabelling is not cute but after 100+ pictures of men's genitals, it is hard not to!
Fair weather friends are plentiful too Real friends are not blinded by your smile; they see your soul.
Strong women never get a breakDamsels in distress will always get a break. You won't so do not hold your breath.
Ageism is realYou might have heard but never believed it was true, until you turn 50, single and lost your job!
Bitterness is a burdenEven with the chaos, trickling cash flow, ugly men sending you dirty pics, disappearing "friends" and mounting evidence of ageism - never be bitter. Be Better!
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“Nine you said but that is only eight,” you observe and you are right.

Lesson #9 that I learned so far this year is that “Class is always in session!” 

So for those Millennials who believe they know everything – “You ain’t seen nothing yet, babies!”

SubscribeWhat lessons have you learned so far this year? Share a few or the most significant one with me in the comment below. Another lesson that I learned long ago and that has stayed with me is that “change is the only constant.” You might have noticed that the blog was M.I.A. for close to three weeks, as well as the make-over. Time management is something that came up this month and so we will be publishing at most twice weekly. So, to never miss a post, do Subscribe and get updated when we do!  As well, need someone to support your through your classes, a tutor maybe? I would be happy to coach you! Check out my services and get my E-book here and get those “classes” done!

Have a great week and a happy new month when it gets here!




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47 thoughts on “9 Things I’ve Learned So Far This Year

  1. I love how you’ve been able to place your focus on what matters most to you: Family and your career. It’s not always easy when you’re starting over all the time. More power to you! Keep up the great work!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much Fatima! 🙂

  2. Millenials, some of them are awesome and some them really feel like they know it all. This generation abuses the information that is provided to them. Anyway, I still think experience is the best teacher and we all learn and realize that once we’re older.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed we do. Granted there are many old souls in young bodies, Carol. 🙂

  3. Elizabeth O.

    Before anything else, lemme just say that I love the new look of the website! I love these things that you learned. The year went by so fast and it’s been one crazy ride for me and the people I know.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much Elizabeth – on all counts! 🙂

  4. I do like a stocked pantry. There are times when I just need some comfort food, and that would come from a well-stocked pantry.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I hear you on that Dawn! 🙂

  5. Silence is very very underrated. I cherish the silence. One of the reasons I love meditation as much as I do.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Very underrated indeed Jill! 🙂

  6. [ Smiles ] The truth is, that we are never too old to learn.

    Lovely post!

    1. Ms Claudette

      No, we are not. 🙂

  7. Reflection is great. Sometimes it takes a few times though.

    1. Ms Claudette

      And there is not timetable. Take as many times as is necessary. 🙂

  8. Great post! What I learned is that as I aged, I want to give supreme thanksgiving and joy. For grace has brought me here so far and grace would bring me home.

  9. Silence is the most beautiful thing EVER. It’s funny – a lot of people think I am crazy, loud, the life of the party – SURE I might be all of those things, but I relish in silence so so so much! hahaha!

  10. Happy Bday! One thing I’ve learned in life is silence is golden indeed. The other thing I’ve learned or should probably say is that I’ve confirmed that being yourself is all you need to do in life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It wasn’t my birthday but thanks anyway. 🙂 And you are so right that there is nothing like being yourself!

  11. Happy Belated Birthday! These are very insightful life lessons. I especially agree with the idea that “Bitterness is a Burden.” It’s amazing how much better we feel when we make the decision to free ourselves from carrying around the pain of old wounds. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thanks but it wasn’t my birthday. That’s in February. You are absolutely right that freedom is a wonderful feeling. Thanks for visiting and leaving a comment.

  12. Claudette,
    Its good to see you back and Happy belated 51st! Its just a number right!
    I love the 9 lessons you have shared! Its true a full pantry is a blessing many of us take for granted, I am so thankful you have reminded me just how blessed I am. And Girl, you know for me Class is always in Session…When we stop learning we start dying!
    Glad you are back ad thanks for sharing 🙂
    Julie Syl

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thanks Julie, for your visit, comment and your sharing as always! 🙂 My birthday was actually in February but I celebrate every month! 🙂

  13. Silence is golden indeed, that’s one thing I have always understood and appreciated!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes it is Ima! Thanks for the visit. 🙂

  14. The past couple years have been learning years for me. I look back at my 20s and am amazed at how much I’ve learned since then. I feel like I was so clueless and naive. I know it will continue as I age. One lesson I’ve learned is just how present sexism and racism are in our society. I mean, I knew they were present, I just didn’t realize how deeply ingrained they are. I feel like my rose-colored glasses broke and now I see things for what they are (and I’m sure I still have tinted lenses).
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    1. Ms Claudette

      That is not just a tough lessons Tiffany but a somewhat bitter pill to swallow. That in 2016 sexism and racism can still be so rampant is a tragedy. Thanks for sharing my dear! 🙂

      1. Very true. Someone said that this is the second civil rights movement, and I think that things are changing. Hopefully a lot.

  15. I like Lesson #9 the best – Class is always in session and if we’re open to that, it’s amazing the things we discover. That, and a stocked pantry is the greatest of blessings. Thanks for the good thoughts.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome Anne! Yes, #9 might possibly be the most important. 🙂

  16. Defiantly a lot of money for sure. I liked reading about these lessons

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you as always Crystal! 🙂

  17. I guess we become better versions of ourselves as we grow older. As we become wiser, we start to want less of the BS and just have absolute sincerity from those who surround us. When it comes to friends, my outlook’s changed to quality over quantity. Nice tip though on having a stock pantry, lol. It’s my fridge that has tons of food, but I’ll start working on my pantry.

    1. Ms Claudette

      See, the power can go and what’s in the fridge will go bad – so I tend to stock the pantry way more. 🙂 Thanks for your visit and comment Russ. 🙂

  18. I love life lessons! I feel like if I’ve learned something then I am headed in the right direction.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Couldn’t agree with you more Jessica! Thanks for the visit. 🙂

  19. I like your lessons. And I agree: $20 IS a lot of money.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      It indeed is Amber! Glad that you liked the piece. 🙂

  20. I love how you look back at each month and look at the lessons you have learned! What a great outlook.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I do try Mihaela! Thanks for the visit and the comment. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome Kimberly! 🙂

  21. I’m not yet sure what I’ve learned this year other than love hard and give freely that love. I guess I also learned to apologize and be ready for it not to be accepted. Things I’m still working on.

    1. Ms Claudette

      “Love hard and give freely,” is a great lesson, Julie. Thank you so much for sharing!

  22. Thanks for sharing! Your post is so inspiring and as a fellow immigrant to Canada myself I could really relate to your journey!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Hi Fatima! Thank you so much for your visit! Glad that you could relate. 🙂

  23. Wonderful lessons learned for this month 🙂 I agree with everything except for the “Strong women never get a break” –I agree Damsels in Distress won’t get a break and that’s just it–it you want to stay distressed, you really won’t get a break 🙂


    1. Ms Claudette

      By break, I mean time off. My experience thus far and I do consider myself a strong woman and not in any kind of distress, I always have to be strong – at least publicly. Thank you so much for your visit and your perspective. 🙂

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