Only Rich People
For every time we talked and on any topic it always ended with her saying, “Only rich people… .” Whether we were talking about food, money, clothing, housing, having a pet, even sexual relationships for crying out loud, this woman always concluded that only rich people have it good.
Before executing my plan not to engage her in any conversation beyond the weather, I asked her whether she thought her words had any impact on her finances. Sure she would not understand the metaphysics of my question, I simply said, “Why do you always say money is short and basically only rich people can afford to be happy?”
“But is true, Miss Estrene!”
People With Money
There was no point telling her again how to pronounce my name. It also made no sense telling her that she was reinforcing her reality with the negative self-talk. So, I kept my silence.
This is what many do and I include myself. We unconsciously and repeatedly feel, think and talk our way down a dead-end street. On this street, money has no way of reaching us. If you are anything like I was, along this walk you stop at every credit card company, every retail store that issues credit card and at your personal banker to top up your line of credit.
Once you reach the end of the street and the credit options dry up and there is no turning back. Of course, you can get a no credit check credit card to give you a cash injection but you’re not rich then are you? At that point, “rich people” become the favourite whipping horse. Money and people with money become the problem.
You loudly or silently hate them. “They were born with gold spoons in their mouths,” you say. Somehow it becomes their fault for you having mounting credit card debt. Never mind that you signed up for the card but “those bastards jacked up the interest rates!”
The financial systems of our world are not fair, plain and simple. “Rich people” own the banks and set the terms to make the highest profits. We borrow from them at our own risk and possibly financial peril.
A rapidly expanding group of paradigm-shifters are expounding the need for a more life-giving financial system. Until that thought develops into banks that offer terms truly supportive of their clients’ growth, we can and must make personal financial choices that radically change our relationship with money.
Making The Shift
Here are six steps you can take to make the shift:
- Check your limiting beliefs and negative self-talk about money.
- Boldly take responsibility for where you are financially. Stop blaming the world, the government, the barking dogs for your situation.
- Dream a new dream for your life. Identify your passion, visualize yourself living the life you always wanted and write out a “backward plan” of how to get there.
- Get the advice and engage the services of not just a reputable financial advisor (like those that LeadJig tend to train, to name one example) but one who shares your personal and optimistic view that “the best is yet to come.”
- Take the first, a second and then third baby steps toward your dream, always believing AND knowing success is yours.
- Live within your current means in the full knowledge that those means are continuously expanding. Be sure to watch for signs that will lead you to ideas to move one step further into your new life. Ignore anything and anyone who try to distract you.
- Before getting out of bed each morning, give thanks for life and the gains you are making living your best life.
Walking The Talk
My personal philosophy is never to suggest what I have neither tried, trying, proven or succeeded in doing. These seven steps are very much part of my journey since this post was first published two years ago.
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