The Value of Reflection Time

What A Message Can Do

A text message sent me into deep reflection this past Tuesday. Home, nursing a sore knee and contemplating my next move, I was chatting with my daughter on the phone when a Sistah-Friend sent me a message. That was not the one that caused me to think.

My daughter and I continued talking while I checked out the link my Sistah-Friend sent. The multi-functions of smartphones cannot be praised enough. As I shared the information received in that text with my daughter, another one came in. That was the one that floored me.  Here is some of what I wrote on my personal Facebook profile about the text and the reflection it caused.

 

What Happened?

“A former colleague of mine and her partner just returned from holidays last evening. They went to bed but the partner wasn’t feeling on top of the world. This morning, he asked her for a glass of water. She went to get it and upon her return to the bedroom, he was dead.

Death is not something that phases me – not anymore. Not after my time in hospital chaplaincy being with people who are in the process of transitioning. However, occasionally the news of a passing moves me to the core. This one did. The suddenness and the anguish that I am told that my former colleague is suffering. I suspect that I will go be with her as soon as she is ready for visitors. I don’t normally attend funerals but I will go to this one if it is open to the public.

reflectionThe Reflection

The tears are flowing down my cheeks as I write this. I can feel what my colleague and the friend who shared the news are going through. Cannot get into the details but I am taking many lessons away from this experience:

  1. Never give your life over to a job, stand on your head for an employer who disregard you the minute you ask, “How much more do I have to do?”
  2. Wherever you find happiness, wrap your arms around it tightly and enjoy it as much as you can and for however long it lasts.
  3. If you are not celebrated but merely tolerated – leave.
  4. Make sure you not only tell but show those who love you and who you love that you do every single day!

I can honestly say that I am feeling sad yet, this story and my process also have a freeing element to it. Rest In Peace, C. I met you only a couple of times and you were a jovial human being. May we meet again. GR, I hope to see you soon. Yes, I will sit with you in silence if that eases your pain for even a second.”

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17 thoughts on “The Value of Reflection Time

  1. Really sad and touching. This is the ephemeral nature of life. We all know that one day we all need to go, but are never ever prepared. The suddenness is what is traumatic. I know words are hollow when it comes to expressing sympathy and understanding in these matters. It is only time that may heal.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed, time and love always heals. Thanks Vyjay! 🙂

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  3. Sorry for your friend’s Loss. I Feel your pain Gal.
    I also Agree that its times like these when our ow Mortality is brought to the fore. So Many people stay where they are NOT celebrated but merely tolerated – They cant seem to see the Door to leave.On Wednesday I shared a FB Live tutorial where I did state that we humans arent trees we can walk away from situations that no longer serve our Vision…because they ultimately no longer serve our needs…!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Julie – for your visit, kind words and what you do! 🙂

  4. Elizabeth O.

    It’s always tough to deal with death especially if the person is your significant other. I hope your friend recovers from this loss just fine. Life is too short, we must always sort out our priorities.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I too hope she gets through this just fine. So far, she is struggling but Peace I hope will take over. Thanks for stopping by Elizabeth. 🙂

  5. This is an amazing post. Life is precious and should never be taken for granted or given up for a job.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Glad that it resonated with you Crystal. Indeed, life is too short not to live fully! 🙂

  6. First, I hope your knee is ok. As I was reading this, it brought back so many memories of a dear friend that passed away just two years ago. So young and we had just talked on the phone. It was so unexpected. And right as I started to type this response another friend was calling and my thought….I can call her back after I finish working. Then I said, “no. Take the call. You just read and remembered how life is so short.” Every since my dear friend passed away, I take the time to reflect daily.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Take the call! I am so glad that you did. My knee is on the mend – thank you so much for asking. 🙂

  7. such an amazing post.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Glad that you liked it Momina. 🙂

  8. Life is short, brief and gone in a blink of an eye. It’s so important to cherish it while you can.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are so right TP! 🙂

  9. I agree that reflection time is a must for good mental health. Especially when you are faced with some of the life changes that are inevitable, but sad.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      I personally would be stark, raving mad now if I were not able to stop and reflect, Carol! 🙂

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