An Inside Job
Is that an accurate question – that someone could make you happy? Often we hear that happiness is an inside job, which leads me to wonder whether my own question is nonsensical.
Yesterday, out of the blue I called up my daughter and invited her out on a road trip. Immediately. Well after she dropped off the baby at daycare. That meant we had about eight hours to go be happy together. And we were as we drove and finally ended up at the lake.
Very recently, in conversation with her about life, her journey and mine at this point in my living, I shared with my daughter that being happy is a state that is fairly new to me. Those of you who have read the pieces of my story that I have shared over the years on my blogs know this. Happiness was a fleeting experience and to be frank, observing people as much as I do, it is true to say that many are only happy on the surface.
Happy Now And Forevermore
My childhood was cut short by sexual abuse and so my memories of unadulterated and continuous feelings of happiness are dim. My introduction to this feeling came around 2008 or thereabouts. Recovering from the self-inflicted wounds after the end of my longest relationship (to date), Happy came to visit with me. It was my spiritual director who made the introductions and with her help, and that of a psychologists who was treating me for just under a year, the meaning of “happiness is an inside job,” became clear.
Today, after many stumbles and falls I know that the person who makes me happy is Me. Everyone and everything else are simply reflection of the state of my inner happiness. Those who have liked my Facebook page know that my two year old granddaughter, Mahalia, is often described by me as the Joy and Light of my life – and that she is. However, knowing from personal experiences with my own mother, I know that “as within so without.” This quote is one of my favourites on happiness:
“Ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you.”
Stop running and reflect on the true meaning of happiness in your life. Are you happy? Who in your life helps you to bask in your happiness? Share your thoughts with me in the comments below. What do you think about today’s “Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words?” Subscribe and not miss any of our posts and publications. It is FREE and your privacy is guaranteed.
Have a happy rest of the day!