Is Old Age Really A Regret?

Or Is That A Myth?

oldEver since I was a child, I have been mentally trained and indoctrinated to view old age as something related to misery, grief, regret, disease and solitude. I was always scared of getting old and join the club of the desolate, wrinkled and miserable. I didn’t think they could do anything, but now I realise how wrong I was. My friend’s grandmother was able to enjoy some equity release, possibly through brokers similar to Lending Expert from her old family home to afford to go on holiday with her loved ones which has nothing to do with misery. It doesn’t matter that sometimes being old means that you might be slow. It doesn’t matter that you might need a step lift installed in your house to help you. Growing old is a beautiful thing.

The age-old idiom “Old age is a regret” (Benjamin Disraeli) always rang the alarm bells in my mind. I was never really comfortable with the idea of “getting old” until I started to and discovered the pleasures of “ageing” (this is what I call getting old now).

Magic Of Being Old

Beautiful were the days that I spent with my grandmother – about a year in total if I recall. It was a time that made me feel the “magic of being old.” My grandmother would narrate stories of the days gone by for hours on end. She talked so much sense with such serenity. That was the first time I felt that grace comes with ageing, coupled with framing and presenting your ideas with clarity of thought. I call it the “fine art of ageing.”

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Age we have to since our biological clocks tick all the time. We go through the phases of life; from a child to a parent and ultimately a grandparent in most cases. A lot changes in each phase of our life but one thing that does not change is the fact we are getting old with every passing day. We pass through various and varying experiences that shape our lives, ideals and perceptions.

oldThe older we get, the richer in experience we become. Every day that we live brings experiences, more to learn and how to make amends. These are the foundation for a better tomorrow, and avenues for us to be as good as we can. As we “grow in perception” with ageing, we become better human beings. This is not to be confused with ‘healthier human’. We become more understanding and more humble. As we intentionally “grow” with age, as we strive to learn and better behave with each other – that is what I call the “fine art of ageing.”

Could Old Age Really Be A Regret?

One of the most astonishing comments that I consider is “You haven’t changed a bit in the last 20 years!” Sometimes this is referring to physical conditions that the observer finds acceptable. However, if it relates to the mental state and behaviors, which is taken as a compliment by the receiver, then I strongly believe that the person never “grew up” and “never really learnt.” To me, that is a waste of precious years.

Old to me is an embodiment of richness of experiences, expression, graces and just about everything “positive” that is associated with the process of ageing.

You can be ailing; you may be going through social isolation and depression. BUT you have a beautiful memory lane to walk down. You can never be alone with your nostalgia and the richness of that feeling.

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Old age can never be regret if you living the fine art of ageing.

How to live this word “old?” Mentally connect with your physical condition and learn to enjoy your realities and not following your fantasies. I would end with one of my favorite, tongue-in-cheek quotes:

One of the best things of getting older: knowing someone is an asshole before they speak!”


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15 thoughts on “Is Old Age Really A Regret?

  1. I believe that we only regret the hings we didnt do atht we knew would have changed our lives for the better wither because of fear or doubt or whatever. Old age is a great time to reflec and share our wisdome and experiences with the younger. It is a privilege to be alive to do that s i my book Its Not a Regret at all. I embrace every age with enthusiasm, knowing I am blesse to bealive, healthy and wealthy!

  2. I find it funny what both children and our seniors have to say. I once heard a senior lady tell another that they are not sure why they had been blessed to live so long. The family was long gone and they were still there to live. They had awesome memories and often told stories but I wonder sometimes if they were a bit sad because they had no one left that shared those memories

    1. Ms Claudette

      Awwww….that’s such a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing it, Angie. 🙂

  3. I worked in a skilled nursing home for many years and I’ve seen old age, illness and sadly, death, more times than I’d care to see in a lifetime.

    One thing I noticed, though, the people who lived a full, meaningful life seem to embrace old age with a more positive attitude.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is so true Lalaine! In my time as a hospital chaplain, I too saw that – those who led the life they felt called to, however that looked, made their transition with grace and in peace. Thanks for bringing that forward. 🙂

  4. I say getting old is getting wiser. I love talking to “old” people. We just spent 2.5 weeks with my 94 year “old” grandmother. She gets around better than I do. Lol.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      94? WOW…don’t know whether I will be around for that long but if I do, hope that I am like her. 🙂

  5. Ryan Escat

    I love how my grandma talks about being old. I think she doesn’t regret it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Something tells me she doesn’t Ryan…I most certainly do not. 🙂

  6. Nicole Escat

    I think being old is a beautiful journey. As we go along with life, we have discovered many things and as we grow old, we have lots to treasure.

    1. Ms Claudette

      So true Nicole, so true! It is indeed a beautiful journey. 🙂

  7. Elizabeth O.

    I think growing old is one of the beautiful parts of life. With so much experience and wisdom, how can you not enjoy being old. The younger kids will celebrate your life and come to you for advice, how is that regretful?

    1. Ms Claudette

      Nothing to regret here! 🙂 I love this process and stage of life…everything seems so clear. Thanks for your visit as always Elizabeth. Namaste

  8. I hope to be able to say that I aged gracefully. I don’t want to be that bitter old lady that no one wants to come see. I am taking care of my father and I watch him every day being the strong, independent man that I remember from my youth. I want to age as he has, with dignity. Great Post!
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    1. Ms Claudette

      That is such a beautiful thought Renee! I really loved what you said about your father…it is inspiring to me at my prime “old age” of 51.

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