Is There Really?
Have you ever ‘lost’ so much that you felt that there is nothing else for you to lose and this is it? Well I have. Over and over again; and on one occasion 10 years ago, my loss could have been myself.
Loss is one of those words that gives me trouble or gets me in trouble with others. How? Simply because I have come to learn that there really is no “loss” so to speak. Some of my friends do not understand that and feel I am either in denial or cold. I am neither.
Lessons of Loss
Life has knocked me over so many times – and I have gotten up stronger. The lessons learned from KO’s often are some of the greatest. So why then would you call them losses? Yes, relationships end, money fly out the window, people walk away, employment terminates, loved ones show their real intentions and on and on it goes.
In and through all of this, if we are game and allow life to show its power you will gain:
- A sense of self beyond imagination
- Strength to grow through just about any ‘adversity’
- Wisdom to know and do better
One Other Thing
The greatest insight, however, that I gained from my KO’s is vulnerability!
Shame is not something that stymies me. I will cry, laugh, wet my pants wherever, when and for whatever reason that I feel moved to so do!
What happens when people open their hearts? They get better. Haruki Murakami
Through all of my adversities, my heart has opened more widely. With each crack, more light has entered and brightened my soul. Does that mean nothing is hard or challenging for me? If that is what you think, you would be very wrong. Only yesterday when this word was the Challenge for the day, I cried and embraced an experience or loss.
My view is simple, it can only be a loss if you allow people or situations to cause you to give up. Those of us who have had bouts with clinical depression and even have attempted or contemplated suicide, live every day the “visitations” of this very “friendly” condition. Depression is an insidious dis-ease and visitor who hates to leave.
In my experience, when challenged by persons and/or situations such as uncaring or insensitive people, I turn into – you guessed it – Me. If possible, I go to a mirror and do my work. I talk to myself, reminding the strong woman looking back at me of who and Whose I really am.
Life goes on – whether I chose to stay on the ride; and a ride it is indeed.
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Do continue to have a great day and remember, it is only a loss when you give up!