The Three Blessings Of Loss

Is There Really?

lossHave you ever ‘lost’ so much that you felt that there is nothing else for you to lose and this is it? Well I have. Over and over again; and on one occasion 10 years ago, my loss could have been myself.

Loss is one of those words that gives me trouble or gets me in trouble with others. How? Simply because I have come to learn that there really is no “loss” so to speak. Some of my friends do not understand that and feel I am either in denial or cold. I am neither.

Lessons of Loss

Life has knocked me over so many times – and I have gotten up stronger. The lessons learned from KO’s often are some of the greatest. So why then would you call them losses? Yes, relationships end, money fly out the window, people walk away, employment terminates, loved ones show their real intentions and on and on it goes.

In and through all of this, if we are game and allow life to show its power you will gain:

  1. A sense of self beyond imagination
  2. Strength to grow through just about any ‘adversity’
  3. Wisdom to know and do better

One Other Thing

lossThe greatest insight, however, that I gained from my KO’s is vulnerability!

Shame is not something that stymies me. I will cry, laugh, wet my pants wherever, when and for whatever reason that I feel moved to so do!

What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.  Haruki Murakami

Through all of my adversities, my heart has opened more widely. With each crack, more light has entered and brightened my soul. Does that mean nothing is hard or challenging for me? If that is what you think, you would be very wrong. Only yesterday when this word was the Challenge for the day, I cried and embraced an experience or loss.

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lossMy view is simple, it can only be a loss if you allow people or situations to cause you to give up. Those of us who have had bouts with clinical depression and even have attempted or contemplated suicide, live every day the “visitations” of this very “friendly” condition. Depression is an insidious dis-ease and visitor who hates to leave.

In my experience, when challenged by persons and/or situations such as uncaring or insensitive people, I turn into – you guessed it – Me. If possible, I go to a mirror and do my work. I talk to myself, reminding the strong woman looking back at me of who and Whose I really am.

Life goes on – whether I chose to stay on the ride; and a ride it is indeed.

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16 thoughts on “The Three Blessings Of Loss

  1. Nicole Escat

    I remember when my aunt died, the pain still remains. It is really hard to cope up with the pain of losing someone dear.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It is hard and it takes time and patience. My suggestion would be to find a way to release the pain and hold onto the memories. Much love and blessings.

  2. Loss is never easy to take unless it is one of those things that you were sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for it to leave…LOL..

    Aaaaaaaaaaaaanywho…we have to learn to deal with loss because if we don’t it can really knock the sails out of you.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are always so funny Mardene – and wise. Thanks! 🙂

  3. I agree with Elizabeth and Carol. Loss is part of life’s lessons. It allows us to be aware of what we are doing, gives us the opportunity to try to do something about it and helps us grow from the experience.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You all are wise women Glenda! Thanks for sharing your perspective and for the visit! 🙂

  4. In 2010 I learnt the hard way that from Loss arises newness, new beginnings like a Phoenix rising out of Ashes. We lost everything we had accumulated over the years in a house flood. I lost my job, I was in a bad place….I cried lots, I wished I was somewhere else…But out of it arose a stronger Me, A new home and a family that is way stronger. I know now that it was meant to create a new me! So Loss is a way of the universe brinign neweness into our lives!

    1. Ms Claudette

      That’s what I am talking about Julie – the newness that loss can bring to us. Thanks for sharing that.

  5. Elizabeth O.

    There will always be days when we feel like giving up, however it’s what we do next that changes us. Do we choose to have this feeling drag us down or do we choose to make something better out of it? It’s all about perspective. I would often turn to the support of my loved ones but ultimately, I turn to me.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am very much like you on that Elizabeth – the turning inwards/Me to find your perspective. Thanks for that. 🙂

  6. Good read, I have found that only God can help in difficult times ,when I am weak, He is strong.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      I am glad that you have your way of getting/growing through what you call your moment of weakness. Why all have to find what works for us. 🙂

  7. Jessica

    Trying to get past the hurt of loss is tough. Especially if there is any guilt involved.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, it can most certainly be tough but not impossible. 🙂

  8. I think it’s great that you gave this such deep thought. Loss is part of life for us all, but understanding how to not let it cripple us is key.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to that Carol, amen! 🙂

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