Back To Basics: 4 Tips For The Journey

You Will Be Glad You Did

basicsToday we are going back to basics. No, not asking or suggesting that you give up the washing machine, microwave or any of your modern-day amenities and take to the hills.

The basics that I am on about today are some fundamental principles that you pick up as you walk this journey called Life.

Sharing four such principles with you in this short post. These are things people told me and I either did not listen initially or I bumped into them on my way up from falling flat on my face.

The Basics

Spitting dust out of my mouth I learned:

  1. What is, is alright
  2. Wipe the sweat and keep going
  3. Stop touching the hot stove
  4. It is really all about You

In short, what is staring you in the face is here and you cannot change that again. So, deal with it. Do not throw in the towel. Wipe the sweat (or the tears) with it and keep going – in a new direction, a more intentional one.

The Most Challenging Lesson

basicsThere was one principle that was very hard for me to get and that was to keep my hands off the proverbial stove. For the life of me, I kept putting it back; checking I guess whether it was really hot! Whether it was the men I chose to be in relationship with, the way I allowed some people to treat me or the financial decisions that I made – I kept getting burned!

Only in my 40’s did I get it! If it burns me once there is no value in putting my hand back on that stove. If he slaps me once, why wait around for him to knock my teeth out? If my so-called girlfriend is always too busy when I call to do anything, why call again?

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Finally, I got it that the trajectory of my life, my happiness with it and my sense of ownership of it begins and ends with me!

Which Lesson Are You Learning?

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Tracy Chapman has a song that I listen to quite often. It is not available on YouTube but you can look it up – “At This Point In My Life.”  It speaks to me in a very profound way. Life, as she sings, is for living as if only Love matters. I would add self-love first and foremost as these four principles are grounded in an understanding that you love You!

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Wherever you are now emotionally, whether single or hitched, spend some time going over these Four Life Basics and share with me how you are living them. You can contact me directly here or subscribe and receive an email update when there is a new post as well as Weekday Wisdom© and my monthly FREE newsletter.

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14 thoughts on “Back To Basics: 4 Tips For The Journey

  1. Aaaahhhh This post, I loved it then, I love it still…Imagine how I have gravitated back to it huh! Yeah I have since gotten rid of lots of deadbeat friends, I unsubscribed fro the drama and I am all the more happier for it! Hallelujah 🙂

  2. Tell you what, I learnt late in life hat ITS ABOUT ME…and that was through touching that hot stove many too often….I had to go with the later though because yup, you guessed it Clauedette, I keep doing the same. Calling that girlfriend who isnt bothered anymore. reaching out to help those who take and never give back. Yet you know what? These days I take it as charity, I dont expect anything back from the person…rather I give for the sake of giving….I wont be taken for a fool though! I love this blog!

    1. Ms Claudette

      We all have such a girlfriend, eh? 🙂 Thank you for the love. 🙂

  3. Nicole Escat

    Great advice! SStop touching the hot stove it is! Sometimes, I need to learn my lessons in the hard way.

    1. Ms Claudette

      The greatest and best learnings come the hard way Nicole. 🙂

  4. Such a wonderful read, I loved reading every part of it. I think we all get to spend lot of time for others to be happy, but rarely care for ourself & these are some great tips to stick to the basics to make sure you keep yourself happy & positive first!

  5. Elizabeth O.

    These steps definitely keep the pain and the stress out. I love how you compared these feelings to cooking, it’s spot on. Often times, we keep on continuing relationships with people who want nothing to do with us that we end up getting hurt instead. It would be nice to just be in control of your life and learn to let these people go.

  6. A lot of wonderful principles being shared here. I still feel I am always a work in progress and words remind there is still much to be done

    1. Ms Claudette

      We all are “works in progress,” my dear Andrea. Thank you for your visit and I do hope it will not be your last.” 🙂

  7. I’m the one that will call the girlfriend to go out to lunch, etc, but she’s ALWAYS too busy. I stopped calling. Of course, after months she calls to ask why I hadn’t called in awhile. Response…..laughter.
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  8. I enjoyed reading this. I spent years getting burned and focusing on making others happy instead of myself. Now I am focusing on me and what makes me happy.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am glad you liked it and that it resonated with you! We post inspirational articles three days a week and would be happy to see you again. 🙂

  9. Stop touching the hot stove. Now, that is something I did all the time as a younger woman, as if I didn’t believe it the first time. Or maybe the 2nd. All good advice today.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Thanks Carol, for sharing your experience and your kind words. Namaste

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