Magical Or Miserable Life?

What Do You Think?

magicalRomantic I am. At least I think so. Maybe my exes would not agree. I do believe in things magical though.

“Romanticizer” of life – not guilty on that score either. Wine me, dine me, make coffee for me and, best of all, have intelligent, witty, thought-provoking conversations with me and you will have me eating out of your hands. Well, metaphorically. You will at least have my keen interest. Tell me that all that glitters might very well be gold, that there is milk and honey paving the streets or that a knight in shining armour will come one day soon for me if I remain hopeful and you will lose me.

Somewhere smack dab in the middle is where you will find me. In my books, life is experienced on a spectrum and whether it is miserable or magical, mundane or miraculous is totally dependent on perspective. Your own.

Magic or if you prefer, miracles happen every day, everywhere and for everyone. The same is true of misery or mundane experiences. Some believe that those living in North America have a magical life. Others believe that those in Africa or other parts of the developing world (hate that label) are in misery.

Magical Life? Whose?

magicalHaving lived in both “worlds,” I know that these opinions are not only generalizations but incorrect, ignorant and uninformed.

Tell the person sitting in a prison cell in Canada, as I have attempted to do, that life is good and you might get more than a colourful earful. Hungry, feeling bereft of opportunities to make a decent living and marginalized for many reasons, some resort to crime as the only viable option. They too wanted the magical life that they heard exists in North America.

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Then there are those who seemingly have it all but cannot stop to enjoy it as they are in constant motion to get more. This is very similar to those in their country or in other parts of the world who have much less than they do but are in the same motion to acquire.

Observing this, it left me with the question, “Who or what determines quality of life?” The multi-Me have come up with an equal amount of responses:

  1. The romantic in me responds that quality of life is measured by the relationship one is in and whether you are happy within it.
  2. The practical, rational me says that quality of life is higher when you own a house, enough cars to serve the household, an income to satisfy all your needs, at least six months savings in the bank and after all that still have disposable income to spend however you want.

The me who has walked part way along both the roads of poverty and the one leading to high income responds, “Neither of the above by themselves.”

Who Determines Quality?

Quality of life is about having a great relationship, in fact great relationships of all types and, money to lead and afford the kind of life you want.

Quality of life is determined by the only person qualified to do so. You.

What I have come to learn, after many years of jumping through hoops, chasing stuff, burning bridges and having my heart broken is that it matters not where a person lives for him/her to experience their “best life.”What matters is where the heart is.

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moneyToday, the 109th of 2016, my quality of life is rich and expanding! Single, with several very close friends who are family and some family members who are dear friends, on a new career path, a growing social media audience and coaching business, enough money to meet my few needs, I am happy, well and full of joy!

What about you? Where are you experiencing life in our world and what is the quality of it in your view?Β  Send me an email if you prefer sharing privately or leave a comment below. Subscribe and join the community here and let us together continue to improve our lives’ quality. I can also be your personal life coach – without the bells and whistles , Check out my services here.

Do continue to have a magical day!

Claudette P. Esterine

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12 thoughts on “Magical Or Miserable Life?

  1. Interesting post Claudette. Thanks for sharing

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and that you for visiting! πŸ™‚

  2. As a cancer survivor quality of life is being healthy and determination to keep it that way. Thanks for sharing this post Claudette πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am always grateful when you share your perspective Stephanie! Namaste. πŸ™‚

  3. As a man I think the question about quality of life will not only differ from person to person but will also differ from gender. It’s true what you say about quality relationships vrs material provision but I find most men find a higher quality of life in the latter.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Interesting take Andy. Some might have said that it is women who would be more materialistic. Very interesting. Thanks for that. πŸ™‚

  4. Hmm your reference to a man n Prison posed with a statement that life is good is poignant, yet Somehow they got into Jail by the power of their thoughts, desires or being in the wrong place at the wrong time, meaning choices…either way we are responsible for our life choices and can change them one day at a time. So if one can still have a positive mind while incarcerated…they are halfway out of there!

    Magical exists along with all things beautiful, just as all things dark do exist…Miserable is an inner job πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      They both are inner jobs. πŸ™‚ And you are right, it is our choice to to either one. πŸ™‚

  5. What a thought-provoking post Claudette. I was a social worker for many years and have seen what you are talking about regarding the man in prison in Canada — and the bigger question: Who determines quality of life. We determine our own — or hopefully we do. As I read today in someone’s blog, I do not want somebody else’s version of my own mind.

    1. Ms Claudette

      “I do not want somebody else’s version of my own mind” – I really love this!!! Yes, each of us must and ought to determine what we consider quality, as well as a successful life. Thanks for the visit and comment Carol. πŸ™‚

  6. Quality of life is being healthy…not having to pay over half my salary in medication on a monthly basis is a blessing in my eyes. We can only speak for ourselves when it comes to what quality of life is because each person will see it differently. On the general level quality of life is being able to afford the basic things in life, food, shelter and clothing

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed, we each determine “quality” for ourselves…just as “success” is relative. Thanks as always for your comment and visit.

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