Best Of Me
It is the beginning of a new month, April, but it is also the end of a journey we have taken along the path of intimate relationships. Over the last several weeks, we have been looking at how to be and give of the best of ourselves in our relationships.
The conversations never ends, however, as we must – and I deliberately use that word – always try to be and give the best of who and what we are and continue to become.
Monday through Friday mornings, I email members of this community Weekday Wisdom© which are tips and motivational messages to help us all create the life that we truly want. Many measure success by the amount of money they have in the bank, the types of clothes they wear and car(s) they drive and the size of their houses. Here, the best description of success is living as you truly want and how makes you happy. Simple.
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Intimacy And The Emerging You
Here are excerpts of the five affirmations for this week. They are evergreen so you can use them at any time.
Closing this exploration of intimate relationships, we turn our attention squarely yet again on the one who will do the most to create the type of intimacy you want – You. Are you giving the best of yourself in your relationship? It is no secret that most couples argue at some point. However, it is how you handle yourself in those situations that matters. Furthermore, there is no harm in reaching out to a counsellor or relationship expert if you need some professional guidance. Nicholas Sparks had this to say about relationships and being the best of you in them: “Don’t take my advice. Or anyone’s advice. Trust yourself. For good or for bad, happy or unhappy, it’s your life, and what you do with it has always been entirely up to you.”
“The best of who I am is all that I offer.”
“I am healed and healing. My healed, loving, trusting and respect-filled self is all that I present to my partner, my family and in my world.”
If you give the best of you, are you losing? Should we not be keeping the best of anything for ourselves and not be giving it away? That is the question that some might be asking. The flip side of that question is – should I not be getting the best of my partner to be able to return the favour? All fair questions and would love to hear your response. Giving and getting are not mutually exclusive, one does not cancel the other. To get you must give – that is simply one of the “laws” of Life and we affirm this in our relationship today by repeating this as often as required:
“Giving or better said sharing the best of who I am with my partner attracts to me the best of what he/she and in fact the world, has to offer.”
In a recent post on the blog, I wrote: “…But loving wastefully means loving all people, all experiences and in all circumstances, without blaming others but being blessed by them.” Offering the best of you is to love wastefully – without thought whether it will be returned, in what measure and when. It is a willingness to be vulnerable, to be open and receptive to what your partner has to offer, no matter how its size, shape or price tag.
“I am giving the best of me without strings. The absence of strings means the presence of Love.”
We always end the weekly messages with a video and this one not only puts a cap on our conversation on giving your best in your intimate relationship but leads us perfectly into our conversations for this month. Our focus in April will be on various life challenges and practical ways to overcome and grow from them.
Our main man and Contributor on resiliency, which is at the core of overcoming life challenges, Michael H. Ballard return to us this month. His post on “Consciousness and Road Blocks,” will be published on Monday, April 4. Make sure to subscribe and receive your daily email update when this is published!
Closing with this affirmation: “I love…I let go. What I give away will come back,” do watch the video and have a fantastic weekend: