Update Your Life In 4 Steps

Starting With Your Passion

updateIt was love at first sight! My eyes were glued, my heart skipped several beats as my fingers explored the seeming wonders. “You’re just too good to be true, can’t take my eyes off of you… .” And for sure I did not for the 25+ years since. It has been my longest, dearest, most enriching and fulfilling relationship. Every update, upgrade and new possibilities we have explored together.

Funny enough, I have never given my long-term mate a name. Strange?  Yet, our relationship has and I am sure will stand the test of time.

As I age, this relationship with my computer has evolved. When we first met, he (yes, for me computer technology is referred to in masculine terms) was chunky, big and had a black background with orange typeface. With the passage of time, most of my time is spent with his modernized version – Android – either in the form of my current Nexus phone or my Samsung Galaxy Tablet.

Relationship Update

As with cars, I am always upgrading my computer, phone and my general knowledge.  A few years ago, my understanding of relationships, particularly those with men, got an update. Steve Harvey was actually my first real tutor on this with his book “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.”

Truth is, I am a lifelong learner. Challenges and risks are my forte. Tell me I cannot and I will prove you wrong.

My daughter and closest friends have heard me say and know that I am quite serious that, when I stop learning, the day that (or if) my mental capacity is so diminished that I cannot think for myself and grasp knowledge enough to try new things – take me out back and shoot me!

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This is why you will never hear me curse winter or the general changes in weather. It might be cold or inconvenient but necessary for growth and for evolution. People who refuse to learn new things amaze me. I shake my head, smile inwardly or, to be honest, die with laughter when the excuses and/or ignorant comments are offered about changes in technologies or even the times that we live in.

updateIt Takes Courage To Change

It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.  Alan Cohen

Some might suggest that you are fickle, unstable or even ungodly because you roll with the flow or truly welcome learning and change. They see your ability to move on after a breakup without rancour, welcoming being back on the dating scene as a sign of a promiscuous nature.

Your willingness to accept a lower paying job, start on an entirely new, less high profile career path is deemed as unambitious or that you have lost your game.

No you have not. At least not in my case. You might simply have accepted the consequences of your or other people’s choices that have affected your life in this way. You then decide to grow and learn fully from the experience and update your mental state.

Your job, marital or financial status is not a sign of success. Your attitude of gratitude to whatever circumstances you find yourself in is!

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Update You In Your Relationship

changeAs we close the month of March and our reflections on intimate relationships and the often less examined areas of them, this republishing of a post that I wrote a year ago is appropriate. If you take away one thing from the posts this month, I hope it would be to challenge yourself to update your inner software.

We suggest these four ways to update yourself and as a result your intimate relationship. They can, in fact, be applied to just about any area of your life:

  1. Identify at least one area of your relationship or life in general where stagnation is setting in.
  2. Seek information about updates (courses, counselling, books, etc).
  3. Learn even one new thing, method, a technique that will upgrade your view, approach, feeling, response on the issue.
  4. Start intentionally practising the update.

It is my promise to you that if you purposefully follow the above updating procedure, your relationship, your career and your life, in general, will begin to change in ways previously unimaginable.

Browse our posts for March for more conversations on this topic. Type in “Intimate Relationships” in the search box to the top left and all the posts will come up. As well, join our community and receive Weekday Wisdom©, my FREE monthly newsletter and affirmation poster among other things. We discuss this and many other issues related to practical living in these materials.

Have a great rest of the day and a happy new month when it begins!


Claudette P. Esterine


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7 thoughts on “Update Your Life In 4 Steps

  1. […] we have taken along the path of intimate relationships. Over the last several weeks, we have been looking at how to be and give of the best of ourselves in our […]

  2. Great post Claudette. When I was younger I hated change. I guess I was just comfortable where I was but as I become older and hopefully wiser, change can be a good think and it also makes us grow more and learn more as human beings now I embrace whatever changes happens around me and just go with the flow instead of fighting it. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Getting older is a wonderful thing, especially when we embrace it and the wisdom that comes! Thanks for your visit and comment Stephanie. 🙂

  3. I’m with you. I want my tombstone to read “She was all used up”. How many 76 year olds do you know learning social media marketing. I am constantly challenged by your boyfriend Mr. Computer, but never give up. I came from being a technophobe to doing ok with some blips.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I love that epithet! Can I use it too? I am self taught as well with the computer from day one and every day I teach myself something new…following the prompts and various guides. I just don’t want to be one of those old ladies who curse technology.

  4. First of all you have one of my favorite songs there….then you touching on so many things that scream “Miss Mardene” today…LOL. I am all for updates because without them the program won’t run as intended. That means it can slow down or stop working until the upgrade is installed…..hahahahahahahhahahaha…work with me here. Yes..Yes I will stop learning the day I die…until then I will learn as many new things as I can. The person who does not embrace change or who does not want to learn new things don’t work well with me at all…IJS

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, I am working with you! LOL! You are too funny! Sometime last year, in a meeting a colleague of mine told me she hated changes. It was so bad that we got into it as we needed to change to survive as an organisation. Eventually she came around and we met halfway. But it is really hard to work or be in relationship with someone who resists changes of any sort tooth and nail. 🙁

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