How To Be In Partnership With Your Mate

What Are We?

spiritual partnershipWhat is your understanding of the word “partnership” whether in a business or romantic context? The Free Dictionary has this definition for those in business partnership:

“An association of two or more persons engaged in a business enterprise in which the profits and losses are shared proportionally. The legal definition of a partnership is generally stated as “an association of two or more persons to carry on as co-owners a business for profit.”

Having posed that question, I did a Google search for the word. Funny enough the first many results related only to business partnerships in all its formulations. Then I attempted to find a definition for “romantic partnership.” The primary results came up with “romance,” “how to be romantic,” and various guides how to be in a relationship. Time did not allow me to go through the 9,590,000 results to see whether there was a result for romantic partnership.

Deciding to be more direct, I typed in “romantic partners.” While the results were less – 7, 280,000 – time was not enough to go through more than the first two pages. Still, there were mainly guides how to find a partner than an explanation or definition of partnership in the romantic context.

I went through all of this to make this point – so many of you are in relationships and whether married, common-law or long-term, many refer to their mates as “partner.” Those who prefer wife or husband still make reference to the person they married as their “marriage partner.” However, what does it mean? I am sure it include that fact that you share a home, a mortgage perhaps, split the bills, have children together or co-parent, among other things. Sadly, for some their relationship/partnership resembles the business definition of the word – “an association of two or more persons.” Not necessarily for profit but bonded, tied or joined simply to pay the bills, keep a roof over your heads and to maintain a certain lifestyle.

Weekday Wisdom© – Spiritual Partnership

wisdomSubscribers and members of this community receive Weekday Wisdom© – a daily dose of motivation to set the tone for our day. Each week, these Wisdom tips have a theme and is sent on Monday through Friday morning. This week’s was on Spiritual Partnership – a term and concept that was coined by Gary Zukav. For the month of March, we have turned our attention to intimate relationships. Most of our posts so far have highlighted various aspects of them. Our spiritual partnership conversation and affirmations this week were meant to guide you to retrospect and ask yourself – “Am I in a spiritual partnership?”

You can join in this and all our reflections through Weekday Wisdom© by joining our community or using the affirmations when they are posted on a Friday. Here are the affirmations for this past week ending.

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We each have our understanding of what is sacred or divine. Some find sacredness in the sacraments of formal, traditional religion. Others find it in Nature. And there are others who find It somewhere between. There are those who meet the Sacred in their intimate relationships. Within all these “groups,” the Sacred is where we all bask and are healed, readied to grow further.

Continuing our focus on intimate relationships, this week we reflect on the Sacred in the context of what Gary Zukav called “Spiritual Partnerships.” You are invited to begin this week’s journey by going to your sacred place – physical or virtual – and consider your relationship – is it a “spiritual partnership?”

“Meet me right here dear [ ____________ ] and help me see clearly and love more deeply.”

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“The underlying premise of a spiritual partnership is a sacred commitment between the partners to assist each other’s spiritual growth. Spiritual partners recognize their equality.” Gary Zukav, The Seat of The Soul pg. 124

We often consider our marriage or relationship as successful based on how much money we have in the bank, the size of our homes and how many cars and things we have. Whether we are growing spiritually as an individual and in the relationship hardly matters for many. As long as the wardrobe is full of designer clothing and the credit cards are available for frequent use, we are good. Zukav offers a different perspective on a relationship’s success – growth. Are you growing as a person and a couple? Is your partner supporting and even encouraging that growth. And, are you doing the same for him/her?

Honestly answer those questions later tonight after using this affirmation at intervals today:

“Sacred Love is a part of my life. It is loving me through my partner. I am secure in my relationship for my security lies within the Sacred in my life.”

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These words were written about marriage but are very applicable to long-term intimate relationships: “Marriage to be complete, must first be spiritual.” Jack and Cornelia Addington

Please, do not misunderstand the word spiritual to mean religious. It could and for some people they are one and the same. And that is okay. For our intents and purposes, and how the word ‘spiritual’ is used here is referring to inner and soul living, growth and purpose. As well, ‘complete’ is understood here as complement and today’s affirmation, adapted from the Addingtons, is aimed at the meeting of whole individuals in an intimate relationship:

“I share my own inner peace and joy with my partner. Our happy relationship reflects the unity within my own mind. The Sacred is loving me through my partner.”

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“Spiritual partners  are able to see clearly that there is indeed a deeper reason why they are together…” Gary Zukav

When you see your relationships as more than food, shelter, clothing, transportation and sex and live from that view, your bond goes deeper and is continually evolving. Should that not be the case or if you are not sure, here is an affirmation that will guide you to a deeper understanding:

“I believe my relationship is more than our finances and material resources. I want to recognize my partner’s purpose and support him/her in this as he/she supports mine.”

As you can see from Monday to Thursday’s affirmations, a spiritual partnership is deeper – and wider I would venture to say – than a marriage. Can you be married and still be spiritual partners? Absolutely! Today’s affirmation puts the cap on what spiritual partners ARE for each other. Watch this interview with Gary Zukav and affirm about your relationship:

“I am rocking your boat because I want to swim with you.”

Have a beautiful day and an even more beautiful weekend with your spiritual partner! You can connect with me on my Facebook page until Monday and be sure to subscribe to start receiving Weekday Wisdom © via email.


Claudette P. Esterine

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14 thoughts on “How To Be In Partnership With Your Mate

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  3. jen

    Interesting read,. I never call my husband my partner however he is in a sence. We really balance each other out and respect each other. I think that is the true value in any partnership.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thanks for your comment Jen, your perspective and joining the conversation. Those are indeed some very important aspects of a living partnership. 🙂

  4. I actually very often call my husband my partner, he is my partner in crime haha Some great tips

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are too funny! Thanks for your compliment and comment. 🙂

  5. I think we all strive to have a partnership in our marriage. Somedays are easier than others. I appreciate your tips!
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    1. Ms Claudette

      I hear you Doran about some days being easier than others – and that is how we grow, on the not so easy days. 🙂

  6. Having a partnership means sharing tasks. My husband is my partner in life. He and I together care for our family. He also knows me better than anyone else. That to me is a spiritual partner.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      We each get to define what works best for us, our mates and our families. Thank you for sharing your understanding and how you are living the word Heather! 🙂

  7. When I think of the word partner in a relationship I think of the fact that we know what is going on with each other so there should be no surprises if one of us pass away. Too often (women especially) allow the man to be “responsible” for the finances and lo and behold she is left out in the cold if he passes before her. Just as how you would want to examine the books when you have a business partnership, same way I feel about the romantic partnership.
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    1. Ms Claudette

      Those stories/accounts of women not knowing what is going on in their family finances until “it is too late,” are too many and very sad! Women need to see their relationships more than an act of submission in every sense of the word. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  8. I always reffer to my husband as my husband or hubby. I rarely call him my partner even if he is truly my partner in so many ways other than marital. I like to think its a partnership in spirit, physical, social, economic and enterprise. Partner in parenting and bringing up the gifts of our union, our children…I could go on waxing lyrical about “My Partner” shall we just say I appreciate this post ans the effort you tok to research for it…what! 7+million posts lol you are dedicated 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      I enjoy when you share your thoughts and perspectives Julie – so wax on! 🙂

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