Men Seem Not To Know
What do women want in their relationships with men? So often some men can be heard lamenting that they have no idea what women really want.
Writing from a woman’s perspective, guys tend to believe women want too much. I vehemently believe, without reserve, that some men clearly do not understand our intricacies and complex mental makeup. That is it! But women, as stubborn and hardcore as we can be, we yearn for a few sparks in our relationships. We do not want much, but we do need these seven things from our men. This post is directed at both – the men who do not know and the seven things that women want them to understand.
7 Things Women Want From You
I Want The Cheddar
Who does not want cash? Ladies…please show a raise of hands. I bet none went up. The reality is, regardless of how handsomely paid a woman is at her employment, she needs something extra from her man. Frankly, this has nothing to do with greed. Men, are you not ecstatic when you receive a gift from a loved one? Are not you reassured that they are thinking about you and your wants? Exactly! That is how women feel. We want to proudly lift our heads and say, “My Johnny bought me this,” or “My Johnny bought me that.” It is just that simple.
Guys, there is nothing ulterior to it. Not in most cases.
A relationship is not solely based on romance. However, it is really an intricate piece to a relationship’s survival. A little warmth does not hurt. Frankly, I am an emotional being. I imagine that most women are the same. We anticipate and fancy that our men will lavish us with tenderness. We crave that affection and tenderness to thrive and feel reassured. Would you welcome a meal prepared with love? I can assure you, without rendering affection to your spouse, every meal is one done with regret.
Guys, heads up. In addition to showing affection to your spouse, simply telling her how cute or dainty she looks when she dresses will suffice. Men often play it safe when asked about their woman’s garment. Often they lie, just to dodge a fight about their spouse’s dress or grooming. If you think a dress looks shabby on your woman, let her know. She might be upset initially but she will come around. She prefers to be told by you that she looks trashy in an outfit, rather than someone on the outside.
Undivided and Unhypocritical Attention
Guys love a day or night out with the friends. However, when she is around, she expects that you will give her undivided attention. By that I mean all eyes and ears! Do not nod affirmatively, trying to shut her up! That is a killer and will only cause trouble. If you are thinking about killing time on the couch sucking up some good old soccer, invite her to join you. Most women do not want to sit around all day playing games, but if it is the ideal way to spend some time with you and get some attention, she will.
The Daily “I Love You,” Etc.
If you are like me, you track how often your spouse says “I love you.” I’m not a fan of Math but when it comes to affection and how many times the “I love you” has been uttered for the day, I get straight A’s. If a day passes and those words are not said, I would be writing my book of lamentations. Many women love assurances. They want to be told how much they are appreciated and loved. It also does a world of good to show it. Men can do small gestures or things around the home to show they are considerate and looking out for the interest of their women. Wash the dishes sometimes, pick up your shoes for a change and do not leave your shavings all over the bathroom – that does wonders for your woman.
A Strong And Confident Man
We are not expecting you to be ‘all macho and conqueror’. However, women want their men to give emotional, physical and psychological support. Though it is true that some women would give anything to have a man looking like The Rock, we are not all about physique and good looks. There are very many women, real women, who are not shallow, preferring to marry or date someone because of who they are, against their abs or flabs. A man should be strong mentally and flooded with confidence, not the egotistical or “I’m all that”type. A man should be willing to speak out when necessary but doing so even-temperately.
A Great Communicator
Ladies, I do not know about you, but I love the idea of relaxing with the good ole’ hubby, sipping on something while relishing a good dialogue. We are not asking for a brainiac, but we are simply asking for our spouse to make time to communicate about pertinent and significant life events. We do not mind talking about football, especially if we are fans of the game, but if there are more burning issues, those should be priority, not what you are wearing to the club tomorrow.
Someone Willing To Take The Lead In Making Amends
Speaking for myself, I am probably the worst at settling disputes, especially face-to-face. My solution is to avoid and pretend that the person does not exist. With that said, I really do appreciate how much my husband makes an effort to amend things. That should not always be the case, but it does a world of good for me. If you discern that your wife is not quick to settle disagreements when they arise, take the initiative to. It is not that they do not want to set things straight, but women have egos too and when slighted, it is hard to pull up her panties and be a woman about it. Sometimes you, as the man in her life, have to pull the bull by its horns and make amends.
Is there anything else that you want from the man in your life? What about you men, did you know these things that women want? Are there anything else that women want that we might have missed? Share your thoughts in the comments section below and let us keep the conversation going on these issues that are vital to having healthy intimate relationships.
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