Direction And Stability
“The way I am running is not aimlessly; the way I am aiming my blows is so as not to be striking the air.” Setting relationship goals shows direction and stability. They create a sense of security and certainty. Have you differentiated goals within your relationship?
These relationship goals do not necessarily include material possessions but uncomplicated ways that will increase the longevity of your union and love for each other.
Six Relationship Goals For You
- Focus on being a better person
Prior to setting any other relationship goal, your focus ought to include developing you as an individual. Are there any attributes you could develop to make you a better mate? Do you have any habits that could be merrily flushed? Making regular self-assessments should afford you the opportunity to make the necessary adjustments.
Tip: Make an unbiased evaluation of who you are as an individual. If you need help, ask a close friend who is not afraid to spill the beans.
- Pay attention to your role in the family
Prior to the development of our society, men went to work in the fields while women stayed home to take care of the family. Subsequently, this arrangement changed and a woman was found in a man’s chair. However, this does not change the family arrangement. Each member of a family has their unique role to play. A woman is primarily tasked with beautifying the home and making it a haven for her family, while a man is focused on providing for the overall needs and welfare of his family.
This in no way insinuates that a woman should slave at home. A man should show consideration and help his wife where needed, just as a woman assists with paying the bills. By setting this as one of your relationship goals, i.e., taking care of one’s role, love and respect will flourish within the home.
Tip: Make a list of your roles as a husband and wife.
- Putting each other’s interest first
A relationship should not be based on selfishness. Couples should be willing to get things done for each other. Instead of putting your needs ahead of your mate’s, consider those of your mates first. Doing this, each of you will always be seeking new ways every day to make each other happier.
Tip: Before making a decision, consider how your spouse would feel. That will prompt you to discuss the matter with your mate, before making a decision.
- Improving communication skills
Communication is a vital ingredient to the success of a relationship. Lack of communication creates suspicion, insecurities, loneliness, and extensively infidelity.
A couple should make time to talk and discuss important matters within the family. Though each person may lead a busy life, it is not implausible to communicate during the day.
Tip: Try to eat a meal together every day. Technology has also made it easier to communicate so use that to your advantage.
- Willingness to compromise
Couples should learn to find solutions to challenges. Though not easy, compromising works hand in hand with “putting each other’s interest first.” Do not always try to have things done your way. Two different minds will not always agree but you can come to an understanding for the sake of peace and your relationship.
Tip: Figure it out!
- Being better listeners
This relationship goal is important. Without trying to listen, applying the earlier tips is futile, “a chasing after the wind.” Since there is a “time for everything,” make it your goal to listen when your mate is speaking. Do not wander in thoughts.
Tip: Be slow about speaking… Do not allow your mouth and your partner’s to compete. This isn’t Family Feud.
They Are Not Easy
Putting these six relationship goals into practice is not and will not be easy. They however are not impossible and can be done with concerted effort. Simply ‘trying’ will go a far way.
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