Weaning Is Not Just For Babies

Another Beginning

weaningYesterday was my birthday and most of it was spent with an almost 20 month old toddler, however, that is not the reason weaning was on my mind.  On the eve of my 50th birthday in 2015, this subject was uppermost in my thoughts – how the weaning process is relevant to your and my life.

So, instead of a Tuesday Thought© – a short video normally shared on the second day of the week, I thought to republish the following a day after my 51st birthday – one celebrated with my small family around a dinner table in a restaurant here in Edmonton, Alberta.

Weaning Is The Thing…

Weaning is something mothers do when their babies get to a certain age and/or has too many darn teeth and have bitten their breasts once too often! Personally, I do not have too much practice in that area – being the mother of only one child and breastfeeding was an art that was not mine to learn or experience for too long. Maybe that accounts for my slow progress with weaning in my life?

The more popular and closely related phrase might very well be “letting go.” However for me, on this day and as I approach my birthday, the more appropriate word is weaning for what is in front of me. As usual, I am sharing this part of my journey publicly because I can and because maybe just one person might glean something from it.

weaningDictionaries define “Wean” as a verb, and similar in meaning to ‘Accustom’ “(someone) to managing without something on which they have become dependent or of which they have become excessively fond.”

Over the years and as is natural, I (we) become accustomed to certain things, places, situations, types of people and behaviours among other things. As we grow older and Life teaches us a few lessons, especially the really tough ones, we have to be weaned off the old and learn new ways of thinking and being.

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Approaching the anniversary of my birth and through recent experiences and recollections, it has become necessary and imperative that I start the weaning process in areas of my life. There comes a point in life when no mother or teacher can do this for you.

This is more than likely the last half – possibly quarter – of my walk here on Earth. This will be the best years of my life – I am naming and claiming it to be so! And what I know is that essential to my experiencing the next one, two or few decades in bliss is my creating the circumstances for my life to manifest and unfold as such.

Claudette P Esterine
Valentine’s Night 2016 with my granddaughter

So off the “baby milk” I go. No more drama, no more fair-weather friends, no more users and abusers, no more poverty consciousness, no more hiding of my talents, no more work/job that dehumanizes clients, my co-workers or me, no more relationships that need me to be anything but who I am!

Claudette (and hopefully you, the other one who this is written for) has been weaned to a life of pure, positive energy, people, circumstances, career/calling and relationships. Anything, person or place that does not make my heart sing thinking about it or being around it must go and never revisited! Simple.

Who was it that said that “an unexamined life is not worth living?” Socrates and boy was he right! The past many years of mine has been spent in reflection, making mistakes, correction  and reflecting some more. Now, the last leg of my journey will be spent in aligning with Source.

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The other person who this is for – the invitation remains open.

Let Them Go

My 51st birthday has completed the weaning process that started just over a year ago. This might sound morbid to some but to others, and I hope you are one of them, I am not afraid of death. Actually, knowing and fully accepting my mortality was part of the weaning process. That knowledge has allowed me, and I hope you, to live the rest of my life in clarity, doing only what enhances my inner peace and that include hobbies, job and relationships.

releaseWeaning means ridding your life of those whose only intention is to suck on you for as long as they can. That was an important step for me and as I sat around the table with my family, I am clear that the feeding is over. May it be so for you.  With love and light – release what no longer serves you, your happiness, your peace and your life.

There are several articles here that discusses this question of letting go, change and yes, weaning in many ways, so please browse the archives as well as become a member of this growing community and receive Weekday Wisdom©, my monthly FREE Newsletter and all other resources shared with subscribers only.


Claudette P. Esterine

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44 thoughts on “Weaning Is Not Just For Babies

  1. Such an inspiring and uplifting read! It is always best to try and focus on the positives in life.

  2. I think this is a great way to approach the later years of your life. I’d love to have less stress and focus more on what matters.

    1. Ms Claudette

      May I ask, what is blocking you from doing that?

  3. I’ve never been really good at letting go lol Maybe that is why I tend to hold grudges for a long time. I know it’s not good and it is something I have been working on. lol

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am not going to lecture you as clearly you know the effect of not being able to let go of stuff. My suggestion would be to try it in small bits and see how you like the sense of freedom. Thanks for dropping by Marielle. 🙂

  4. Weaning is essential in our life and we should do this from time to time. Happy Belated Birthday Claudette!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you so much for the birthday wish and yes, weaning is a lifelong process.

  5. I really like what you wrote. For the last year I have been working very hard to let go of things and people that take away from happiness. It has been hard because some people don’t get what I am trying to do. It has been a wonderful thing because I love not having the drama in my life. I just hope I can remain strong because those same people keep trying to suck me back in.

  6. Ana

    What i love about your post is that you are always so positive about life. It makes me go out and face every problem with the best of me. Thnks for this!

    1. Ms Claudette

      What I love about readers like you is that you encourage me to keep talking, keep sharing. Namaste Ana and thank you so much. 🙂

  7. Weaning and pruning and weeding are essential. I do not have the head space for any drama with a soul…not even myself. We have to know when to do the weaning because too early can be just as detrimental as too late.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are absolutely correct about timing, Mardene! Funny that you should reference pruning and weeding as gardening is the essence of my post tomorrow. Great minds. 🙂

  8. What an uplifting post I have read today. The picture of a mom and a child really melts my heart. I myself is waiting for that right moment to e a mother.. and hopefully that is soon.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I smiled as I read your comment about the picture. It is actually a pic of my granddaughter and I. 🙂 Nevertheless, I am so happy that we were able to uplift even a minute of your day and I will be standing in the gap for your regarding your desire to be a mother. 🙂

  9. You’re always so positive and your posts are so inspiring! Enjoy reading! I wish you all the best and always be optimist! Happy birthday 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much for your kind words – I am most encouraged by them Eugenia! 🙂

  10. Lexie

    What a great post. Thank you for making me inspired

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome Lexie. 🙂

  11. Love your possitive attitude and reading your post everyday really helps me to start my day motivated as i try to emulate this wonderful attitude you bring with all your posts

    1. Ms Claudette

      You truly honour me with that comment. 🙂 Thank you so much Amy! Namaste

  12. I like the idea of being weaned off toxicity and surrounding yourself with positive rather than negative energy!

    1. Ms Claudette

      It is really a wonderful thing Ana! 🙂

  13. Elizabeth O.

    Happy Birthday, Claudette. I can imagine that you had a good one this year. I totally agree with the weaning process. Because it’s something that makes you grow as an individual. It must be done, and as often as possible to keep yourself moving and improving.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes. I had a wonderful birthday, thank you Elizabeth! 🙂 You are spot on with your observation about weaning. 🙂

  14. Such an inspiring post. Happy birthday dear 🙂

    Mhaan | http://www.mommyrockininstyle.com

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome! 🙂

  15. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I weaned someone negative from my life about a year ago and it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Good for you Robin! Very proud of you! 🙂

  16. Love your attitude. I did the “spring cleaning” version of weaning. Clear out the stress and drama.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That’s another great way to describe the clearing that we all must do to move to the other levels of our journey. Thanks for the comment and visit. 🙂

  17. I love everything about this blog post! Thank you so much!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for your visit and comment – I love it! 🙂

  18. This is a brilliant analogy! I’m with you – off the baby milk I go!

    1. Ms Claudette

      LOL! Yes, there comes a point when you just have to say, enough is enough! Thanks for stopping by Kristen. 🙂

  19. I weaned out a few friends (3) a few years ago. At first I thought it was a lot and that I would be lonely, etc, but within a week I realized that my stress level was down.Not listening to one friend who constantly whined about her relationship (when she – from my POV – was the one ruining it) was in itself a quieting relief

    1. Ms Claudette

      Funny, as I just commented to another visitor that my circle of friends have narrowed as I continue to wean! Like you, I am not lonely at all! 🙂

  20. The older I get the less time I have for those who suck the positivity from life, I love this blog post!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am with you on that Claire, so much so that my circle of friends has so narrowed! LOL

  21. I like your positivity about getting old. I need to feel more like that.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well the first thing that I do not say is that I am “getting old,” not because of denial but the negativity associated with that phrase. 🙂

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