Yesterday was my birthday and most of it was spent with an almost 20 month old toddler, however, that is not the reason weaning was on my mind. On the eve of my 50th birthday in 2015, this subject was uppermost in my thoughts – how the weaning process is relevant to your and my life.
So, instead of a Tuesday Thought© – a short video normally shared on the second day of the week, I thought to republish the following a day after my 51st birthday – one celebrated with my small family around a dinner table in a restaurant here in Edmonton, Alberta.
Weaning Is The Thing…
Weaning is something mothers do when their babies get to a certain age and/or has too many darn teeth and have bitten their breasts once too often! Personally, I do not have too much practice in that area – being the mother of only one child and breastfeeding was an art that was not mine to learn or experience for too long. Maybe that accounts for my slow progress with weaning in my life?
The more popular and closely related phrase might very well be “letting go.” However for me, on this day and as I approach my birthday, the more appropriate word is weaning for what is in front of me. As usual, I am sharing this part of my journey publicly because I can and because maybe just one person might glean something from it.
Dictionaries define “Wean” as a verb, and similar in meaning to ‘Accustom’ “(someone) to managing without something on which they have become dependent or of which they have become excessively fond.”
Over the years and as is natural, I (we) become accustomed to certain things, places, situations, types of people and behaviours among other things. As we grow older and Life teaches us a few lessons, especially the really tough ones, we have to be weaned off the old and learn new ways of thinking and being.
Approaching the anniversary of my birth and through recent experiences and recollections, it has become necessary and imperative that I start the weaning process in areas of my life. There comes a point in life when no mother or teacher can do this for you.
This is more than likely the last half – possibly quarter – of my walk here on Earth. This will be the best years of my life – I am naming and claiming it to be so! And what I know is that essential to my experiencing the next one, two or few decades in bliss is my creating the circumstances for my life to manifest and unfold as such.
So off the “baby milk” I go. No more drama, no more fair-weather friends, no more users and abusers, no more poverty consciousness, no more hiding of my talents, no more work/job that dehumanizes clients, my co-workers or me, no more relationships that need me to be anything but who I am!
Claudette (and hopefully you, the other one who this is written for) has been weaned to a life of pure, positive energy, people, circumstances, career/calling and relationships. Anything, person or place that does not make my heart sing thinking about it or being around it must go and never revisited! Simple.
Who was it that said that “an unexamined life is not worth living?” Socrates and boy was he right! The past many years of mine has been spent in reflection, making mistakes, correction and reflecting some more. Now, the last leg of my journey will be spent in aligning with Source.
The other person who this is for – the invitation remains open.
Let Them Go
My 51st birthday has completed the weaning process that started just over a year ago. This might sound morbid to some but to others, and I hope you are one of them, I am not afraid of death. Actually, knowing and fully accepting my mortality was part of the weaning process. That knowledge has allowed me, and I hope you, to live the rest of my life in clarity, doing only what enhances my inner peace and that include hobbies, job and relationships.
Weaning means ridding your life of those whose only intention is to suck on you for as long as they can. That was an important step for me and as I sat around the table with my family, I am clear that the feeding is over. May it be so for you. With love and light – release what no longer serves you, your happiness, your peace and your life.
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