Valentine Or None: It Matters Not

If #1 Is Taken Care Of

valentineLove is indeed in the air as Valentine’s Day approaches. This is a double-dose of love for me as my birthday is the day after.

“Wait, I thought she was single, dateless and has no Valentine for a while now?” some of you are thinking. And you are absolutely right, I am all of that. Yet, those “conditions” will not cause me pain, distress or angst this Valentine’s Day.

Since the beginning of this still New Year, Members of this community receives Weekday Wisdom© in their inboxes Mondays to Fridays. This morning dose of motivation is delivered around 5:00 (EST) and is theirs to use as best suits their needs. The intention is to help you prepare for the day – to live your best life, one day at a time.  You too can receive this free “shot” of Wisdom by subscribing. This week’s Wisdom had as its theme “Loving Yourself,” and every message delivered shared the importance of taking care of and loving #1 first.

Valentine Wisdom

The fact that you have no Valentine is really no need to be as cynical as Dinesh Kumar Biran, who wrote:

February – the month of love..?!!
No wonder the shortest one in the calendar.


i love youheart

Love is always available and freely flowing and the best Source is from the fountain within you. So, whether you have an intimate partner to call Valentine this year or that day will meet you in the company of yourself, take these affirmations with you:

“Today, in every moment I will remind myself that I am Love. It is in and through Love that I live, move and have my being.”

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It is not selfish to love yourself first. Not talking here about conceit, arrogance or being superior to others. You have heard it before for sure but it is worth repeating – you cannot give what you do not have. So, here is an easy exercise for you. Do it as many times as you need to. Go to the washroom at work, go sit in your car and look in the rear view mirror and affirm:

” I love you.”
Love is sung about and millions of books have been written to tell us what love is. However, the heart really knows its own. Falling in love is a wonderful feeling but as you might have experienced, you get up after a fall. When the heart meets its own, there is no turning back or letting go and most certainly there is no falling.
“My heart will lead me to its own. There is no discomfort, no forcing and no pressure. I recognize what my heart truly wants with ease.”

valentine“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ― C. Joybell C.


“What I think of me is all that matters.”

Closing out this week’s affirmations on Loving Yourself, with or without a Valentine, as always with a video clip. This last Wisdom can and ought to be repeated every day. Be sure to join our community and get Weekday Wisdom© in your inbox. If you are already subscribed, do remember to add my email or name to your contact list and open your motivation on Mondays. That way you will get your following affirmations on time.
Have a great weekend and affirm:
“As I begin to love myself [more and more], I learn that ……”


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Claudette P. Esterine



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33 thoughts on “Valentine Or None: It Matters Not

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well thank you for that, Shannon.

  1. I think Valentines day is a great day to give self love and show anyone that you care for them! My parents usually give us Valentines gifts (still and we are in our late 20’s) to show their love 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      What a beautiful gesture! I think I will do that with my granddaughter starting this year – she is my Valentine if there was ever one. Thanks for that Shaylee. 🙂

  2. I imagine that I love you mirror exercise would start out being really awkward. I’m going to try it though, and I hope it actually gets easier and more heartfelt over time.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Don’t overthink it. Sometimes, I just as I am walking by the mirror and catch a glimpse of myself, I ust give Me a wink and say, “Love you chickie!” LOL!

  3. buahahah to the shortest month. Don’t mind me, I’m happy to be Valentine-free so it made me laugh. I don’t begrudge others who are in love. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      LOL! We are kindred spirits on that – happy to be single. 🙂

  4. RonRon

    You truly got me at this quote:

    “February – the month of love..?!! No wonder the shortest one in the calendar.”

    What a great read for me at this month of February.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am glad that you enjoyed! Do you observe Valentine’s Day? Thanks for the visit. 🙂

  5. It is very important to love yourself first before you can love others.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am saying a lot of Amens today! Amen! 🙂

  6. This year i am treating myself to a spa day. I do not need to have a partner to have a great day. I will be having a nice dinner with the kids and some movies after.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are planting a seed in my head re how to treat myself this Valentine’s Day! Thanks for that Ann! 🙂

  7. I am lucky to be spending my first Valentine’s as husband and wife with my best friend. It took me a long time to find me and I did have to learn to love myself first.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Loving yourself first frees you to love others deeply and unconditionally! Thank you so much for sharing that Rebecca and for your visit. 🙂

  8. I agree, I have no Valentine this year but for me it is a relief I was trapped in volatile relationships most of my life and I finally feel free. I don’t need anyone to make me feel happy x

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen Ana! I am so happy for you. 🙂

  9. Love is in your heart. Love is about loving yourself and others, it flows into your heart and fills it with bliss and happiness

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen and Amen! 🙂

  10. I think having a healthy balance of loving yourself and others is best~

    1. Ms Claudette

      I understand what you mean Shobha but for me there is no “balance” so to speak. You have to love yourself like no other and then and only then can you truly love others. That’s my experience. There is no compromise with self-love and I am not talking about being conceited or arrogant. Thanks for the conversation. :0

  11. Elizabeth O.

    It’s not selfish to love yourself first, of course! If you don’t love yourself how can you not love others? I think it’s fine to be single this Valentine’s day, there are tons of ways to feel love and to make someone feel that they are loved. I would rather spend it with my kids, to be honest.

    1. Ms Claudette

      More than likely I will be spending mine or a great portion of it with the best Valentine I have ever had – with my granddaughter! Thanks as always Elizabeth for your visit. 🙂

  12. I love the idea of taking care of #1 first. This is a great article.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much and thank you so much for dropping by! 🙂

  13. For V’day I always treat myself. No one loves me like I do and no one knows me as well. And no one knows how much I deserve a new pair of earrings.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You had me spitting my coffee all over the place with that earring bit Michelle – but you are absolutely correct! No one knows like me how much I deserve that bottle of perfume! 🙂 Thanks for dropping by and giving me a good laugh. 🙂

  14. “What I think of me is all that matters” this is really something that is hard to accept because so many of us do care what others think of us as well even if we say we don’t. I don’t have a valentine this year but I am just celebrating in the love I have with family and friends

    1. Ms Claudette

      Join the club Michelle of those without a physical Valentine this year. Yes, it can be such a big challenge to accept yourself as is but it is a wonderful feeling when you do. 🙂 As always, thanks for dropping by.

  15. Great post! Alot of little ways to make a difference in your life and in others.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes Bernadette, there are many small ways to make a big difference! Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment. 🙂

  16. Love is thinking of others first. You also need to love yourself to love others.

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