My Living Shall Not Be In Vain

When We Were Young

livingAre you living the life you consciously created? When we were young we were told that we could be anything we wanted if we just worked hard enough. I believed that probably more than anyone and held on to that illusion desperately for longer than I should.

My first big dream was to be an archaeologist. I would dig in the sands of the Sahara, uncovering the secrets of ancient Egypt. Even now my heart skips a beat just thinking about that life. I wanted it bad, actually I still want it. But I gave up on that pipe dream a long time ago. It was too hard to accomplish. Even with the passion and intelligence that God gave me, I still could not do it. It is incredibly hard to get into.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and I can remember countless times asking God to do what is best with my applications. So this must be his best. I must be living it now if I can hold that thought. Sometimes I think about the future and it is a gray haze. Sometimes, I feel certain that I will find my way through the uncertainty and find something that I am good at, that I love, and that I can make a living with. I am still straining my mental vision to see what that is. Perhaps it is writing… maybe I can touch people with my imagination and empathy through written words. Maybe it will be something I never thought of before. All I know is that I am meant for something. Maybe not something great in the eyes of the world, but something great to me.

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Living Through The Uncertainty

I am lucky though. I have a very supportive husband who continues to encourage me. He constantly reassures me that I will find it. The thing I am meant to do. He is giving me the time and space to find that. So I want to give that to you. If you are in a similar situation, please take a moment to feel the pain of letting go. It is hard, and you might have to do that every day until you find the next path.

livingBut forgive yourself for whatever negative feelings you have towards yourself. If you are like me, those feelings are shame and failure. Feel it then let it go and know that even if you took a tumble, you can still stand up again. You can find your purpose just like I will find mine. Ask for advice and suggestions from the people who know you best. My husband and friends have been very helpful and encouraging through this and yours will be too.

Question Everything

Changing visions can be awful. Honestly, they should be if you really had your heart invested. But it also teaches us. So learn as much as you can and be gentle with yourself and, when you are ready, take the next step and devote yourself to the next dream. Just do not do it blindly. Look at every angle. Ask yourself these questions about each:

  • Will it make me happy?
  • Can I live off of the income?
  • Does it fit in with the rest of my life goals?
  • Can I realistically plan to get to the finish line?
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The truth is, in my view, we cannot be whatever we want. I know, it sucks! But we can find a purpose that fulfills us.


ContributorAlexis Ali, is our short story writer and go to woman on just about any topic having to do with life, love, changes – her Best of The Year post in 2015 was Adele’s Pattern: Journey To Redemption. It shone a very bright light on parental abuse, perpetuated by mothers. With every post, Alexis take readers on a stroll along the rocky path of single parenting, stress management, personal choices, domestic violence against children and healing. This is her first post of 2016 and she is welcomed back as a Contributor with us for another exciting and interesting rest of the year.

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37 thoughts on “My Living Shall Not Be In Vain

  1. […] my case, as I have shared before, my earliest professional aspiration was to be a medical doctor. My earliest role models, two […]

  2. I also believe that everything happens for a reason. I have a very different dream of what I do right now. I may have not gotten my first dream, but I am happy with I do now.

  3. Someone told me once to just take one foot forward and once you did, you’d be ready for the next step. I found that to be good advice to get busy living. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      It most certainly is great advice Rosey!

  4. Ana

    I have accomplish so many thinks and there are several more goals i want to do. Thankfully I have the support of my family and friends which are always with me and my goals

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are a fortunate woman to have a supportive family!

  5. I always wanted to teach then I became a teacher and hated it. For years now I have floated not knowing what I really want to do but knowing that I want my life to mean something. Let’s hope this year I find that thing I am meant to be doing! 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      I knew someone like you…went to university for seven years and graduated but still not knowing what she wanted to do with the rest of her life. She didn’t know until she turned 44 years old. The point I am making is that it will come…relax and live. 🙂

  6. Very inspirational post love the way you write I really try to follow and live my dreams

    1. Ms Claudette

      Good for you Amy! We will stand in the gap for you! 🙂

  7. My first dream was to be a nurse but my wanted me to study computer science, so I did then with the help of my brother pursued nursing. Now I spend a lot of time on the computer so I’m happy that I pursued both!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Good for you! It is awesome when that happens that you get to do the need to and the love to. Thanks for sharing that.

  8. Whatever I have to do I just put on my big girl panties and get going. I don’t allow distance nor naysayers to rob me of doing what I think is my dream or aspiration. Sometimes what you are pursuing though is not really your dream but someone else’s. The sooner we realize that and change courses the better off we will be.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is the key right there – knowing what is yours and what is not. Thanks for sharing that Mardene.

      1. Yup very key…know when to fold, know when to walk away and when to stay

  9. victoria

    I have so many dreams that need to achieve. I’m so glad to have a family was always there for me

    1. Ms Claudette

      As I said to someone else, it is indeed an awesome thing when you have such wonderful supports. Glad for you Victoria! 🙂

  10. Live to be Loved.

    The reason we live is to know that we exist In other peoples hearts, That our presence crosses their thoughts every once in a while, and that we can find a way to be the cause behind their happiness.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I don’t know that that is “the reason” we live but it is indeed a wonderful feeling to share presence. Thanks for that Sargas. 🙂

  11. I had a lot of dreams to pursue, and I’m glad that I have a very supportive family that push me to achieve this no matter what happen 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Isn’t that a wonderful thing, when you have strong supports? So happy for you Nicole. 🙂

  12. Elizabeth O.

    That’s a beautiful post. Very inspiring too. We don’t really know our purpose and we don’t always find out at the soonest possible time. The trick is to just keep living life the best way you can.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to that Elizabeth and thank you as always for the visit. 🙂

  13. My first dream was to be an astronaut! Great post about pursuing your dreams

    1. Ms Claudette

      That was a very “high” place to be in your dreams! 🙂

  14. I try to live my dreams now as best I can. Very nice post.

  15. I know I always dreamed on being a writer but more on the poetry side. I feel like if I can do anything with writing then I would be happy. But as of right now I can’t live off of it so I do it as a pass time and I work my full time job.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I (Claudette) think you are ding a wonderful thing – doing what you need to right now and still writing in your other times. I am taking it that you share your writing on your blog?

      1. I have in my other blogs my current one my poetry doesn’t quite fit : )

        1. Ms Claudette

          Oh, I see…what’s the link to that one?

  16. It makes me wonder if I am really living the life that I consciously created and the answer is no. Sometimes we set unfinished goals and unfinished life ambitions and I think that sometimes things are not meant to be and new chapters are opened just like with you x

    1. Ms Claudette

      Alexis is the author of this post and the views are therefore hers. I, Claudette, agree with most of it but I must say that I also agree with your point, Ana that sometimes things are simply not meant to be. Regarding setting unfinished goals and life ambitions – that is where I differ. Maybe I should write a follow up on that topic. 🙂 As always, thanks you for joining the conversation. 🙂

  17. Pursuing your dreams and aspirations is always easier with someone to support you.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is very true Laurie! Thanks for your contribution to the conversation and your visit. 🙂

  18. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    My husband is very supportive, too. It’s great when someone has your back no matter what.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to that Robin! 🙂

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