You Can Be Right Now
Woke up around 4:15 a.m. and, as is now a practice of mine, I rolled around in my bed, rubbing my feet back and forth along the Egyptian cotton sheet, hugged a couple of pillows tightly and snuggled under the comforter and said, “I am happy, blessed and grateful for everything and in every way today!”
Yes, it might sound corny, trite and even trivial to some of you reading this but happiness really is your choice. For so many years of my life, in fact more than half of my life, happy is not a word anyone would use to describe me. Smiles would be plastered on my face but they were merely covering deep-rooted pain. So many spiritual teachers, ministers and gurus will tell you that happiness is your birthright and that it is one of the many ‘gifts’ from God or The Universe if you prefer. Yet, until seven or so years ago it seemed to be that I was the ‘bastard’ child, the outside kid that this gift was never handed to or meant for.
You Can’t Fake Happy
Being happy was hard work and often times you are just too lazy to try. Whether you care to admit it I know it is the truth for some. Misery and being miserable feels way more comfortable and there is such a ‘fun’ crowd available, always on tap, to whine, bitch and complain with. Not to mention the tasty beverages, food, drugs and credit cards that you can indulge in to get a boost. Nothing like a drink, a binge, a hit or a shopping spree that you cannot afford to give you a good, albeit temporary dose of fake happy. When it is over, your best pal, misery, returns and you feel right at home.
When the healing of my most devastating heartbreak took hold and the thought of being single for the first time in my adult and conscious life was no longer scary but exciting that was when I had my first taste of happy. Although I lost touch of it that was temporary. The thing with being happy is that once you know it, you will no longer or at least not for too long settle for less than it. That is what happened in my case during my last marriage. The moment I openly acknowledged as a beer can whizzed past my head that I made a mistake and had lied to my true self, I knew I had to get my happy back and never let it go again.
At the end of another short-lived relationship almost three years ago, my return to the centre of my happiness is complete and from it I swear I will never wander again. The sense of peace, contentment and certainty even in the most uncertain and disconcerting time is so profound and deep that why would anyone wish to be anything other than happy?
Get To Your Happy
So today, I invite you to seek out your own brand of happy – the kind that will be with you through the rough times, the sweet moments and the in between. It cannot be found, bought or stored. No one but you can give or even lead you to this happy. I know that sucks, especially for those of you looking for it in your marriages, relationship with your so-called ‘better half’, through your jobs or even in your volunteer activities.
The happy to which I refer can only be found from that sweet spot within you – your heart. For those of you who prefer to hear this in scriptural terms, happiness flows from your heart so guard it as “from it flows the issues of your life.”
Have a beautifully, happy day – no matter where you are, the circumstances surrounding you or the job that you are doing. Decide that this is the day that you will let happiness in to your inner chamber. Clean out the space and make room for it.
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