You Are More Than Capable
“Once you start recognizing the truth of your story, finish the story. It happened but you’re still here, you’re still capable, powerful, you’re not your circumstance. It happened and you made it through. You’re still fully equipped with every single tool you need to fulfill your purpose.” ― Steve Maraboli
How I love those words of Steve Maraboli! This morning especially. Woke up with this thought on my mind – telling your story yourself – and wanted to check in with you, our readers, how you are doing on this score. Admittedly, this post did not come out of the blue but was inspired somewhat by my feeling of annoyance. You might have had or are having similar experiences yourself. It is an experience that is not enough to get you off your game, resolutions if you made them, or your intentions. Well, it ought not, however, it can be as annoying as heck as you are busy focussing on writing your story.
As You Write Your Story
Have you noticed that the more focussed you seem to be in your life, doing what you need to do to get to where you want to be, burning the proverbial midnight oil to write your story and starting to make some headway the more people crawl out of the woodwork:
- Claiming association with you?
- Needing you to support and endorse their efforts?
- Wanting you to do one favour or another for them?
- Needing to borrow money, shoes or cups of flour or sugar?
- Trying to distract you from your mission?
What is comical about it is that, on the larger scale of life as we know it, you are not one of the reported 62 people who basically own the world! Here you are, in your very tiny, minuscule corner, sharing your story to a few but engaged people who are wanting to hear more and these energy-vampires, as I like to call them, come calling.
The very same friends who thought you were nuts to be putting your business out there. Your uncle, aunt, sister, cousin, in-laws maybe even partner who thought you were losing it when you decided to set up a blog and write your story. Those very same ones are now sending you “Page Like” requests on Facebook, as you now have a following and so they decide to create their own page to sell their craft. They are bombarding you with questions about your social media strategy, how you created your YouTube channel or where do you find those “moving pictures” for Instagram. Your Twitter engagement is envied by them and they want to jump on your bandwagon.
Don’t Be Discouraged
Some people have been discouraged by the lack of support they have received from friends and family for their ventures. Read somewhere that the least reliable people you can have when you start a business are friends. There are many stories online about that as well as advice what to do when it happens to you. We all know that word-of-mouth promotion of your venture by family and friends is such an important thing for a start-up but often it does not come. So, when your page, blog, store, etc starts to take off and the people who would not put in a word for you, even like or share your blog start claiming association with you or worse yet, copying your efforts, do you get angry, hostile and tell them off, reminding them how they did not support you when you were starting out? Ignoring their requests, blocking or deleting them from your Facebook page because they continually steal your content and parts of your story is another option. But will this make a difference? Are you simply being just like them – envious, mean-spirited, bitter, jealous, lacking imagination and originality?
This has happened to me and continues and quite honestly, I had a mix of these responses. One thing that I most certainly have not done and ask you not to be tempted to do is to stop telling your story in whatever form that you do. Whether it is a blog, an actual store or an online business, here are some things that will help you throughout this year to keep your faith, keep it moving as our Fashion Contributor, Mardene Carr, often says and keep growing:
- If your plans were made on the assumption of having the support of your family and friends, Revise it. Use the data of the past however long that you have been “working” your ideas and adjust accordingly.
- Anything that needs done in your business, on your blog, etc make sure you can do it yourself, or you can find people to help you. In other words, Out Source. One resource that has been very useful for me is Fiverr. My budget is limited and through this resource, I have found really good help at a reasonable price. Yes, there are “crooks” everywhere online so do your research, check their credentials and reviews and do your homework before agreeing to anything.
- You get what you give – always remember that so do not return to those who were not supportive of you the same treatment. However, if they bring negativity to you such as “this is not going to work,” “why are you wasting your time with this blog?” or any other statements or attitude like this – Limit if you can their time and space in your ear. The last thing you need are naysayers while you are trying to tell your story.
- Always remember that Anything Is Possible and often all it takes is an open window or a crack to let the light in! Your success is not dependent on any specific person. There is great truth to the statement that nothing happens before its time so do not give up. Adjust, revise, get freelance help if you must but do not give up on your dream!
It Will Make You Stronger!
We are social beings. We are created for relationships – in the broadest sense of the word. Our growth comes through our interaction with all that surrounds us and that include people, Nature, and situations that we face. The one thing that is constant in our relating is what we bring to the encounter. We can stop telling our story when faced with the challenge of lack of support by those we thought would be the most likely to support us. That would be the easy way out, but those who succeed in any way will tell you it was along the less travelled road, the ‘lonely’ highway that they experienced the best of themselves.
So, do not stop sharing, do not stop posting, do not lose faith! Keep it moving and keep telling your story! Have a wonderful Monday! Be sure to sign-up and join this community and receive your Weekday Wisdom every Monday through Friday. It is a dose of simple tips to walk with you throughout the day. As well, you will get a copy of my monthly newsletter and it is all free!