Getting To Your True Self

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true selfOur mission on this blog and the intention of every post that we share are aimed at helping even one get to their true self.

There are many preachers, teachers, ministers, counsellors, gurus etc., widely available in every corner of the world. Motivational speakers are becoming a dime a dozen and some, in my opinion, are only worth that – a dime. While several of us have training in psychology, counselling, coaching, etc, the posts that we share are normally grounded in our life experiences. We share these experiences and what helped us to grow through them. Yes, we do from time to time offer suggestions and even tools that might prove helpful to you to get to your true self. However, they are just that, suggestions or as I prefer to say offerings on a banquet table and you take what you need and are comfortable using.

Yesterday I shared the top posts from the Contributors and while some of them were not presented as means to get to your true self, at the core of each is a seed for starting your excavation. Whether that is finding your community spirit and writing to your representative in your area about human trafficking, holding a mirror up and checking for signs of hurt and wounds that might be affecting your relationship with your children or bouncing back from physical or emotional trauma you might have suffered.

Best True Self Posts

We are doing two Best of the Year articles and this is the second. As promised yesterday, this is a roundup, we could say, of the three (3) most visited posts related to finding your true self that I shared since we relocated to WordPress last year. Bloggers cover many topics and so do we, however, there is a niche for this blog and it is women empowerment, not only in the way usually promoted but including and mainly conversations on those issues that often remain in the shadows. One thing my life, my training and my experience as a practical spiritual coach have taught me is that until we shed light on those dark places, we will not really begin the process of healing and leading a fully empowered life.

true selfAnother thing that is very important to me as the Lead Blogger, Owner and Editor of this blog and community is being inclusive. Everyone is welcome, all views are heard in this small chunk of the blogosphere as long you and your views are aired with respect, without proselytizing and without the pointing of fingers – political, religious, cultural or otherwise. It matters not where you live, whether you pray, what you consider sacred we all have our issues and it is the task of each of us to find our true self.

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During 2015, my aim was to share some information and strategies that worked for me to get to that place. Quite a few of you responded very well and these were the posts related to finding your true self that you visited and commented on the most:

“Enough: Is There In Your World?” was the #1 post of this category of “finding your true self” pieces. Coming out of the season of thanksgiving, gifts and celebrating, it might be a great time to re-read this particular post and answer that question. My feeling when it was first shared, one that remains true today, is that oftentimes we do not realize how much we really have and strive to get more “stuff.” The ‘more’ we have, the more our true self can get blocked by all that we have gathered. We cover up the empty places in our hearts. I particularly loved the comment of a visitor by the name of Rosey. What she said was to me the best answer to the question:

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“I have so so so much going on right now. I’ve virtually lost everything, including my car in a divorce situation that I didn’t even know was coming. It’s bad and then it got worse with an emergency medical surgery that went great but is keeping me from walking much. So from bad to ugly. BUT in my hospital room my roommate was dying from kidney failure. It put a lot into perspective for me. And she didn’t have anyone come visit her while she was there…and on her release day someone came in cursing about the long walk he had to take to come get her, and the long walk they’d have home. I think they stole the wheelchair to get her home. That lady is in my prayers. A lot. No matter what is going on, someone’s always got it worse, so I work on being grateful for my blessings and I work on being a blessing to others when I know I can!”

true selfThis year might be one in which you are hoping to find a mate. The second most visited post in this category is one that you could probably have a read before you post your profile to a dating site or go on the hunt. In “Wellness And Your Next Relationship,” I wrote: “We choose and enter into relationships based on the health of our esteem, confidence and identity. You might not want to admit it, but as I look back at my past relationships, it is now easy to see where the “connection” emanated from.” Until you are happy with who you are, until you can be alone with your true self and be happy with him or her, you might want to re-read or check out this post for the first time and check your “why” for wanting a relationship.

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You sweet talker!

As far as possible, my aim in all my interactions is to be uplifting. I do not always succeed. None of us do. The question in the third most visited true self posts “Are You A Power Talker Or Peddler Of Poison?” is one that I ask myself every day. It is one that lies on the table and you are invited to choose if you often find yourself in the middle of confrontations, confusion and chaos. “There is real truth and value in the biblical instructions to “guard your heart” as truly the issues of our lives do flow from it. Our “talk” with others is directly influenced by our heart, frame of mind and feeling of well-being.”


These were the top three posts in the group of finding your true self but there were several others, including those in our Letting Go section as well as the ones we published in the Emptiness series. Do check them out and sign-up to be a part of this community as there are exciting new things happening for Subscribers.

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That is it for our year in review posts! Catch you again tomorrow. Have a great day and do like me on Facebook to get my weekly video Tuesday Thought.


Claudette P. Esterine


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61 thoughts on “Getting To Your True Self

  1. Being true to myself is definitely something I want to get better at. The posts you shared sounded like really great ones!

    1. Ms Claudette

      We all have some movement to make on this and no one can do it for us. I wish you all the best with your movement. 🙂

  2. […] A recent comment on one of our posts stated that in the blogosphere many bloggers are not being true to themselves and therefore, in my estimation, they are not being real with their audiences. One thing you can rely on me for, and I dare to say just about all the Contributors here, are frank and honest conversations. When it comes to being single and loving life, what follows are my honest reasons why I love being single. Some of them you will not agree with, some you might find as “too much information,” and others you will see yourself completely in as if a mirror was being held up to your face. Some are self-explanatory so the ones that are not so much I will detail: […]

  3. Angela Milnes

    It has taken me a long time to find my true self and im still kind of on that journey. Thanks for your brilliant post. Inspiring.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I wish you the best of luck along the way. We are always here to support you. Namaste. 🙂

  4. In the blogging world, I know myself and others are sometimes less than completely true to ourselves, and that’s something I really plan on working on this year!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I hear you! You can see it when you read the posts who is making things up and who are truly living their talk. 🙂

  5. Being true to yourself is such a positive way to go about living. If you are not honest with yourself , how can you be with others?

    1. Ms Claudette

      Exactly the point Savvy Mom, exactly the point! Thanks for dropping by! 🙂

  6. It is so important to be true to yourself. I really dislike superficial or fake people. Just be you and be comfortable with who you are.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen, amen and amen!!! Enough said Jonathan! 🙂

  7. I have to say Claudette, your blog truly is inspiring! I’ve already learned so much from it and can’t wait to see what else you come up with 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Oh, Shaylee thank you so much for that. It gives me encouragement to continue. Namaste. 🙂

  8. It is rewarding to be always true to yourself, without any pretensions. It is ok to not be ok when you really are not.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are a smart one! 🙂 Thanks for sharing that powerful insight! 🙂

  9. That’s kind that you put my comment in there. And that kidney patient still causes unrest for me when I think about her. I’m here to wish you a Happy New Year.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Happy New Year to you as well Rosey! Your comment really resonated with me and I appreciate your visits. 🙂

  10. I can see why those were your top 3 posts. I love the Power Talker or Peddler of Poison, and will ask myself that going forward!

    1. Ms Claudette

      🙂 That’s the smile on my face reading your comment and seeing that we supported you in this small way. Namaste!

  11. I agree. U want to write more authentic posts to inspire and motivate people. I also want to document my journey and share it with other people via video..

    1. Ms Claudette

      Go for it! Now is the time to do what you are called to! 🙂 Thanks for your visit Victoria!

  12. dltolley

    Always feel recharged when I visit here, Claudette!
    And please let me not be a peddler of poison!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Something tells me you are not, Dianne! Thank you as always for your visit and kind words. 🙂

  13. It’s so nice to visit your blog and always get messages that lift us up and encourage positivity and good feelings.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Awww….that’s so kind of you to say! Thank you Liz! 🙂

  14. Being true to yourself is something we all need to learn. I have let too much negativity enter my life. This needs to change.

    Thanks for Sharing.

    John @

    1. Ms Claudette

      The first step to “healing” is acknowledgement so in my view, you are on your way! Namaste 🙂

  15. Being true to oneself is the only way to find peace. I don’t like Confusion that’s what you find surround negative people. Life isn’t easy why not make the most of our time here be happy. Grateful for founding your blog… laughter has kept me sane. Curious the lady…(The universe show us example in our life in an odd way. In your worries life stress found that others has it worse)

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well, we are happy that you found us! All the best for 2016 Patrice! 🙂

        1. Ms Claudette

          You’re most welcome! 🙂

  16. I am always true to myself. I remember all these posts and I’m looking forward to reading more great posts from you and your contributors.

    1. Ms Claudette

      And we look forward to sharing! Thank you for the visits. 🙂

  17. I love your goals and I hope that you will succeed. Goodluck!!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I don’t have goals – I haven’t set any in a long time. What I have are intentions. Thanks for your visit Jojo. 🙂

  18. Elizabeth O.

    I love that your aim is for self improvement and for finding one’s self. It’s one of the things we need for us to live a better life. It’s very inspiring!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Elizabeth – for this and all your other comments! 🙂

  19. victoria

    Getting true to myself sometimes it was hard. Because i had so many negative things in my mind

    1. Ms Claudette

      It can be a challenge, but take baby steps to eliminate the negativity in your experience and you will start to see the clearing to who you really are. Namaste Victoria! 🙂

  20. it is so important to get to know your true self and be comfortable with yourself before you can have a meaningful relationship and it is important that the other person finds their true self too. i know some people who could use some growth with reading the post on wellness and your next relationship

    1. Ms Claudette

      I honestly believe that you attract what you are, so if you are really true to yourself, a mate with the same qualities will be attracted to you. 🙂

  21. I always true to myself.. that’s how I find happiness.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Awesome! Happy New Year Rika! 🙂

  22. I think, getting true to our selves are hard, but my parents taught me that way, to keep true to yourself.

    1. Ms Claudette

      If I may say so, your parents were correct. Namaste Lexie! 🙂

  23. Yeah, I’m so proud of being true to myself, I always threw away negative and mean people around me and keep the positive people on my circle.

    1. Ms Claudette

      We have to know our circle otherwise we will get sidetracked by what does nothing for our greater “good.” All the best for 2016 Nicole! 🙂

  24. Love you outlook and I normally stay true to myself only way to be happy !!!

    1. Ms Claudette

      It truly is the best way to stay happy! Thanks for visiting Laci! 🙂

  25. Putting things in perspective really does help. Sometimes I think my challenges are hard and then I realize that there are others that suffer much more than I do.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I think that is true for all of us. One day at a time is what works for me. Thanks for visiting and all the best throughout this year! Namaste. 🙂

  26. I threw away negative talk a long time ago and do not entertain it from anyone in my circles. My friends and family have come to know me in such a way that when they talk negative they repeat the right thing before I even say anything and then we all have a good laugh. I remember how frustrated my daughter would be when I said “I can’t hear you” LOL…when she would go off on a negative talk binge. I don’t see the point in entertaining it because it does not help a soul and stress is not good for the body. So I try to laugh everyday and I mean really laugh. And I count my blessings even on not so good days….I realize that as bad as I think I am there are so many persons worst off than me and for that I am always grateful

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, we indeed ought to count our blessings at all times – even in the uncomfortable ones. It is in those moments, uncomfortable, that I personally have grown the most! Happy New Year again my dear! 🙂

      1. Amen and a fabulous new year to you too…

        1. Ms Claudette

          Thanks! 🙂

  27. My thoughts are with that poor lady who died without the people that she knew. Instead she faced resentment.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Life is a splendorous things as the song goes and it is also one that is very mysterious. I try not to judge and allow things to unfold. Thanks for your visit as always. 🙂

  28. I try to be uplifting in conversations. My mom always said if you cant speak nice then dont talk at all.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Your Mom was exactly right! Thamks for dropping by! 🙂

  29. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I am always true to myself. It is just the way I was raised – nothing fake and all honesty!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Wonderful! That’s a great way to be and to continue moving through life! Namaste. 🙂

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