Change You First This Year

It Is Inevitable

changeWriting a blog five days a week can become daunting and so several months ago a change was implemented here. With the help of Contributors, it was no longer dependent on one person to create posts for this blog. However, as the Owner, Lead Blogger and Editor here, it is still up to me to come up with the overall direction, themes, focus, etc for the month or months ahead.

Many of us resist change. That has never been an issue for me though. This ability to adapt and even foresee the possibility or need to change well in advance might have developed from my childhood. When it was happening, I could see neither the lesson or the humour in it but fast forward 30 years and the memory of relocating four times in one year, basically in the same neighbourhood, makes me smile. My mother’s fortunes ebbed and flowed throughout the 1970’s and with each lowering of the financial tides, our place of abode had to change.

True Change Begins In You

Almost two years ago, I took up my current position with a not-for-profit here in Edmonton, Alberta and one of my mandates was to lead a team that brings in a fair bit of funds for the organization. Several members of this team were in their positions for 15+, 10+ and 5+ years, and had become rooted in doing things a particular way. Here comes me on the scene, a bit younger than several, same age as most and different in many other ways. The worse part for just about every one of them was the wind of change that blew me in. To cut a long story short, I met great resistance from them, although the adjustments to the 20 year-old practices that I was implementing were approved and welcomed by my immediate superiors.

winds of changeWorking through this period of ill-feeling, ill-will, outright resentment by some, concerns by many others and, frankly, the goodbyes that were necessary with a few, I had to look back to my past experiences of change – the many relocations that we did, the job and career path changes over my life up to that point, the ending and changes in relationships of all types. The deepest reflection that I did however was looking within and asking myself, “What do I have to change to make this situation work?

Experience is a wonderful teacher, in many cases and instances it is the best university you can attend. You might have read one of my posts in which I shared that one of the many reasons that I could not become an adherent of the Catholic faith is my refusal to go into confession with someone who has minimal “real life” experiences. It is the same rational that delayed my finding a therapist at the darkest point of my journey. While I still would not convert to Catholicism, although I now know that not all who are “robed” lack the life experiences necessary to understand a woman with a past, I had to change my perspective a bit about not being able to find a therapist who would empathize with my journey. That story was shared in “Emptiness: Sign of Emotional Trauma.”

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Watch this video on change and tell me whether you can identify why the most important step to changing anything – even the relationship between nations – must begin with you. Also, tell me whether you hear a suggestion about the key elements to changing your life, your community and our world.

You Are Not Wrong, But Become Much More

What I know because it has been my practice for years now and it is something that I have taught my daughter and have watched her in her quiet way carry out, is that our imagination and vision are the greatest tools that we have to make a change in our lives, affairs and world. There are many sage quotes on these tools that I could copy and paste here but I invite you to do the homework for yourself. You are also invited to take a few more minutes or even hours or days of your time and start imagining and envisioning the changes you can make to “much more:”

  1. Your relationships at home
  2. Your work or career
  3. Your finances
  4. Your circle of friends and/or your community

visionI say it quite often that I do not make New Year’s Resolutions or any longer set goals per se. What I do is to create a vision board for my year – sometimes several throughout the year. My boards usually have two focal points: (1) Source – that which I hold sacred and the operating Force of my Life and (2) Myself and my deepest desire or a couple of desires as to who and what I want to be in my world throughout the particular year.Β  My focal points never change – as some would say, it is always God and “Me” first, in that order. The desires, intentions will depending on what I would like to experience, how I would like my life to unfold in the given year.

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Take last year as an example, among my desires was to evolve my blog from serving an intimate group to a wider audience. With that intention at the forefront of my mind, this blog relocated from Blogger to WordPress with the help of paid web designers. This team has worked with me on a limited budget to create the space you are now visiting and they have continued to support my every wish to change and make it better. The audience has grown, have become more interactive and the mailing list receiving my free newsletter is steadily growing as well. To manage all this, I was led to even more change; adding Contributors from various parts of our world to bring daily posts to you but more so to help create a more diverse and welcoming space for open conversations.

Ask Yourself

Changing you first is sometimes mistaken to mean something is wrong with you. That is a mistake. We always have room to grow so in the case of my assuming a professional position that was crying out for change to remain viable, I had to also look within myself and see how I might change to be more compassionate to people whose lives and livelihood my actions were affecting.

reflectionOur life experiences today are clear signs of where changes are needed to have a different tomorrow. It is still early in the year – in fact it is never too late to check for those signs and ask yourself:

  • How do I envision this ___________ being different?
  • What needs to change to move this _____________ closer to my vision?
  • Where do I need to start being the change that I want to see to have a different (better) experience in this ____________?

As always, should you need to talk this through with someone, you can always contact me. You could also sign-up for my monthly newsletter that includes an affirmation poster. Something new for Subscribers only this month is Weekday Wisdom. When you sign-up for my newsletter and open your first copy, you will start receiving a daily motivation email to help keep you focussed. Remember, when you join my mailing list, you must add me to your contact list otherwise you will not benefit for the information sent out to Subscribers.

“Be the change that you want to see in the world,” and have an awesome Hump Day!


Claudette P. Esterine


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  4. Most people are scared of change but it usually just takes a wee bit more of courage to take the first step to something different and beautiful. It is human nature to be resistant to it at first but as you said it is inevitable – might as well embrace it, right?

    1. Ms Claudette

      Absolutely right, Russ! πŸ™‚

  5. great post I agree with you on so many points I believe we are given lessons in lNational Hot Pastrami Sandwich Day

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well, I would not have made that association so thank you for that. πŸ™‚

  6. This video was very motivating. A lot of time I feel like I’m always “waiting” for the perfect time for changes. I’m always waiting for “tomorrow”. This is something I will work on changing. Living in the now for a better tomorrow.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes! I am a firm believer that we create our future now – so better pay attention to now! πŸ™‚ All the best Marielle! πŸ™‚

  7. Eileen xo

    I am really focusing on bettering myself and to focus on short term goals to get me to my long term goal

    1. Ms Claudette

      Baby steps…sometimes, often times we all have to simply focus on taking it one step at a time. All the best Eileen! πŸ™‚

  8. I am open to changes and I believe there are a lot of things to be changed.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen! πŸ™‚

  9. I am so ready for changes but need to renew my commitment πŸ™‚

  10. This is a big year full of changes for me. I will just take them one day at time. I am excited for the new opportunities that have opened up for me.

    1. Ms Claudette

      And that’s all asked of us – to take things one step at a time. I wish you all the best with that Lisa! πŸ™‚

  11. We’re going to be making some changes this year to a point. I think you have to change in order to grow!

    1. Ms Claudette

      You indeed have to do exactly that! πŸ™‚

  12. dltolley

    β€œBe the change that you want to see in the world.” I love this quote! Change is hard. But so necessary!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Glad that you liked Diane! And, thanks again for visiting. πŸ™‚

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  14. Yes, change is a constant process and changes must begin with us…It’s a matter of changing a perstpective maybe :

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to that! πŸ™‚

  15. if we learn to believe in the things that we can do, i guess change is indeed inevitable.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I would have to agree with that Ria! πŸ™‚

  16. The day I realized I really was my own worst enemy was the day my life truly began to change for the better πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      OMG – what an awesome and enlightening and freeing day that is!!! πŸ™‚

  17. Elizabeth O.

    Change definitely starts from within. If you’re not willing to accept it, it’s never going to happen. So you can’t expect it from the things around you as well. Awesome message!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Elizabeth, for you visit and your endorsement! πŸ™‚

  18. victoria

    I need to change my career i think. because my income was not enough for our bills. Hopefully this year i have a new opportunity.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Go for it Victoria! We are standing in the gap for you and cheering you on! πŸ™‚

  19. I agree, true change begins in you and it is inevitable.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It most certainly does and it is definitely. As the saying goes, “the only constant in life is change.” Have a beautiful day, Lexie! πŸ™‚

  20. Change, something that we all must go through one way or the other but much resisted or even hated by many. I don’t mind change in the least…..I have learnt how to deal…

    1. Ms Claudette

      You do get the hang of it, eh? πŸ™‚

  21. I’ve changed at my career, I think every changes that happening, it has a lesson that we will learn.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Good for you Nicole and as we change together, I wish you all the best in 2016! πŸ™‚

  22. Those sayings on the rocks is just what I needed today. I am over whelmed with work right now.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am so glad that we indirectly supported you through that patch. πŸ™‚ Namaste

  23. I think change is important in order to become the person you want to be , I always welcome change even if I fear it at first.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am just like you – with butterflies in my tummy, I embrace the changes in my life. πŸ™‚

  24. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I am definitely not a fan of change, but you are right – it is inevitable.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I wasn’t a fan at points in my journey but learned that to resist is futile, Robin. πŸ™‚

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