It Is Inevitable
Writing a blog five days a week can become daunting and so several months ago a change was implemented here. With the help of Contributors, it was no longer dependent on one person to create posts for this blog. However, as the Owner, Lead Blogger and Editor here, it is still up to me to come up with the overall direction, themes, focus, etc for the month or months ahead.
Many of us resist change. That has never been an issue for me though. This ability to adapt and even foresee the possibility or need to change well in advance might have developed from my childhood. When it was happening, I could see neither the lesson or the humour in it but fast forward 30 years and the memory of relocating four times in one year, basically in the same neighbourhood, makes me smile. My mother’s fortunes ebbed and flowed throughout the 1970’s and with each lowering of the financial tides, our place of abode had to change.
True Change Begins In You
Almost two years ago, I took up my current position with a not-for-profit here in Edmonton, Alberta and one of my mandates was to lead a team that brings in a fair bit of funds for the organization. Several members of this team were in their positions for 15+, 10+ and 5+ years, and had become rooted in doing things a particular way. Here comes me on the scene, a bit younger than several, same age as most and different in many other ways. The worse part for just about every one of them was the wind of change that blew me in. To cut a long story short, I met great resistance from them, although the adjustments to the 20 year-old practices that I was implementing were approved and welcomed by my immediate superiors.
Working through this period of ill-feeling, ill-will, outright resentment by some, concerns by many others and, frankly, the goodbyes that were necessary with a few, I had to look back to my past experiences of change – the many relocations that we did, the job and career path changes over my life up to that point, the ending and changes in relationships of all types. The deepest reflection that I did however was looking within and asking myself, “What do I have to change to make this situation work?
Experience is a wonderful teacher, in many cases and instances it is the best university you can attend. You might have read one of my posts in which I shared that one of the many reasons that I could not become an adherent of the Catholic faith is my refusal to go into confession with someone who has minimal “real life” experiences. It is the same rational that delayed my finding a therapist at the darkest point of my journey. While I still would not convert to Catholicism, although I now know that not all who are “robed” lack the life experiences necessary to understand a woman with a past, I had to change my perspective a bit about not being able to find a therapist who would empathize with my journey. That story was shared in “Emptiness: Sign of Emotional Trauma.”
Watch this video on change and tell me whether you can identify why the most important step to changing anything – even the relationship between nations – must begin with you. Also, tell me whether you hear a suggestion about the key elements to changing your life, your community and our world.
You Are Not Wrong, But Become Much More
What I know because it has been my practice for years now and it is something that I have taught my daughter and have watched her in her quiet way carry out, is that our imagination and vision are the greatest tools that we have to make a change in our lives, affairs and world. There are many sage quotes on these tools that I could copy and paste here but I invite you to do the homework for yourself. You are also invited to take a few more minutes or even hours or days of your time and start imagining and envisioning the changes you can make to “much more:”
- Your relationships at home
- Your work or career
- Your finances
- Your circle of friends and/or your community
I say it quite often that I do not make New Year’s Resolutions or any longer set goals per se. What I do is to create a vision board for my year – sometimes several throughout the year. My boards usually have two focal points: (1) Source – that which I hold sacred and the operating Force of my Life and (2) Myself and my deepest desire or a couple of desires as to who and what I want to be in my world throughout the particular year. My focal points never change – as some would say, it is always God and “Me” first, in that order. The desires, intentions will depending on what I would like to experience, how I would like my life to unfold in the given year.
Take last year as an example, among my desires was to evolve my blog from serving an intimate group to a wider audience. With that intention at the forefront of my mind, this blog relocated from Blogger to WordPress with the help of paid web designers. This team has worked with me on a limited budget to create the space you are now visiting and they have continued to support my every wish to change and make it better. The audience has grown, have become more interactive and the mailing list receiving my free newsletter is steadily growing as well. To manage all this, I was led to even more change; adding Contributors from various parts of our world to bring daily posts to you but more so to help create a more diverse and welcoming space for open conversations.
Changing you first is sometimes mistaken to mean something is wrong with you. That is a mistake. We always have room to grow so in the case of my assuming a professional position that was crying out for change to remain viable, I had to also look within myself and see how I might change to be more compassionate to people whose lives and livelihood my actions were affecting.
Our life experiences today are clear signs of where changes are needed to have a different tomorrow. It is still early in the year – in fact it is never too late to check for those signs and ask yourself:
- How do I envision this ___________ being different?
- What needs to change to move this _____________ closer to my vision?
- Where do I need to start being the change that I want to see to have a different (better) experience in this ____________?
As always, should you need to talk this through with someone, you can always contact me. You could also sign-up for my monthly newsletter that includes an affirmation poster. Something new for Subscribers only this month is Weekday Wisdom. When you sign-up for my newsletter and open your first copy, you will start receiving a daily motivation email to help keep you focussed. Remember, when you join my mailing list, you must add me to your contact list otherwise you will not benefit for the information sent out to Subscribers.
“Be the change that you want to see in the world,” and have an awesome Hump Day!