New Year, Better Woman

ContributorThe Year In Review

A lot has happened over the last year, which leads me to wonder at what age we will stop saying that. I am also thinking about the new year.

Anyways, my year was full of ups and downs as I am sure everyone’s was. It was my first year of marriage, and boy, was I in for a surprise. People always say marriage is hard but it is hard in a way that is indescribable. I also started a new job almost a year ago and began preparing to apply for PhD. programmes. It was an eventful year. Some parts were extremely painful and I also had moments of complete bliss. This year has pushed me more than, I think, any other year of my life. Looking back at who I was on January 1st of this year, I am stunned by the difference. Though I have another year that holds some very sore spots and dark moments, I look back very glad that everything happened and I am proud to say that I am a better person on this end of the year than I was at the beginning. I have recently begun a journey of resetting my self-worth and focusing on my self-esteem. While I am not anywhere close to my goal, I know that I am closer.

Bravely Embracing The New Year To Come

new yearSo on New Year’s eve of this year, I will do my best to bravely embrace all the positive and negative things from this year as steps to get me to where I want to be. I will proudly celebrate my progress. I will remember my mistakes with self-love but also with the understanding that I have things I need to work on. In an even harder feat, I will look back at my achievements (small as they may be) and tell myself that I am getting on the right track to who I want to be.

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As I count down the seconds until the New Year, I will breathe in who I was and what I did in 2015 and, then, at midnight, breathe out the things that I cannot change. My first breath of 2016 will be full of hope and intention as I pursue my only new year’s resolution: to end 2016 a better woman than I was in 2015.

2016 – The Year of Self

new yearNow some of you might be thinking that this description might be a little too critical of where I am at as a person. And I truly do not mean that I think I am an awful person or that I was an awful person at the beginning of the year. I am not saying that at all. But with another year under my belt, I can look back at my intentions and actions and see immaturity and some selfishness, as we all do, and can aim to be better. So for me, the new year – 2016 will be a year of self. Self-reflection, self-esteem, and fearless self-correction when needed.

I know you all probably have a ton of goals for 2016. And goals are good things. But if you are making your list of resolutions please remember that internal growth makes tangible growth a lot easier.

So when you are telling yourself, my resolution is to eat better and exercise more, maybe include the internal goal of knowing your worth and valuing your physical self. When you make a financial goal like paying off loans or buying a house, maybe include an internal goal of being more financially responsible with all of your purchases, big and small.

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Happy New Year!

I guess what it all boils down to is that I hope you all embrace the New Year as a time to change the things in your life and in yourself that will make you truly happier. Material acquisitions and having a hot body will not make you happier in 2016 but being more financially responsible and taking care of yourself will give you a better sense of self-worth. Focus on what really matters.

Happiest of New Year to you all and I wish you all a year of incredible love and adventure!

Contributor, Claudette P. Esterine

Alexis Ali lives in New York and hold a Master’s degree in Linguistics. She is a freelance writer, sings and has a love for photography. Alexis is our main short-story series writer but her most recent post was “Dear Santa: My 3 Christmas Wishes.”

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37 thoughts on “New Year, Better Woman

  1. The new year is always when I look for changes within myself to change and improve. I don’t always succeed with those changes, but I start again the next year. lol
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    1. Ms Claudette

      All we need to do is to reflect, make new plans and take the first steps! Thanks for that my dear. πŸ™‚

  2. I’m excited for this year and I need to work extra hard to be able to share more blessings πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      You go for it Ayesha! πŸ™‚

  3. It’s great to take some time to improve our selves. I need to take better care of myself too in 2016. Happy New Year!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Happy New Year to you and yours Jonathan! πŸ™‚

  4. I definitely want to start taking better care of myself in the new year! I’m ready and excited for the things to come in 2016!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes! So happy for you Shannon! πŸ™‚

  5. I always make goals for the New Year but I want to try being more realistic this time around. 2015 was good to me. I hope and pray that 2016 will be just a great if not greater! Happy New Year to you dear!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and I am praying that 2016 will be wonderful for you Marielle! πŸ™‚

  6. wishing you the best of luck in 2016! Sounds like 2015 is not so bad after all.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Happy New Year to you! I think Alexis would agree that when all is said and done, it was a great 2015! πŸ™‚

  7. […] her personal review of 2015 and what her focus is for the New Year. For her, 2016 will be the Year of Self – a time when she will look more deeply within and walk into her world from that point.Β  Her […]

  8. I wish the best for you in the coming year. let your experiences in 2015 be your guide πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      On Alexis’ behalf, thank you very much Jojo! All the best to you and yours in 2016! πŸ™‚

  9. If you’re able to look back at those ups and downs and find the learning experiences in them, they become valuable. Life does really test us sometimes though. Here’s to hoping 2016 is better!

    1. Ms Claudette

      And the same to you and yours, Liz! πŸ™‚

  10. Well done hun you have done so well and should be proud of what you have achieved! I started a new job, completed my third and final year of university, worked full-time hours while studying and ended up having to quit the job due to illnesses which have affected my quality of life. I graduated from university, met new friends and got rid of old toxic ones, started my blog, moved home, started two new jobs and next year I am hoping to have a good one.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Wow, I am tired just reading your schedule! You are amazing, young lady (says Claudette)! I am sure Alexis is grateful for your commendation! We all here wish you the best for 2016! πŸ™‚

  11. You go girl! The beauty of year-end posts is that it gives a good chance to look back and reflect at the year that has gone whether things went well or not – as these would help us set new goals for the coming year. Despite the few struggles you have had to make this year, I’m sure that you learned a lot from it and you’ll definitely come out a better version of yourself.

    I wish you a great 2016 ahead. Stay strong and enjoy the journey of married life πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      On Alexis behalf, thank you very much Russ and all the very best to you in 2016! πŸ™‚

  12. Elizabeth O.

    There’s no better time to embrace change or to start over than the New Year, although we can always do it at any time of the year, it’s just more symbolic, I guess. Thanks for the wonderful post.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, you are right – it truly is very symbolic when started at the beginning of the year but possible anytime! Thanks for your visit as always! πŸ™‚

  13. Wow our 2015 sounds almost the same…I migrated to the USA and started the process of transferring my Phd from Jamaica to the USA….still going on but I am seeing some light at the end of the tunnel. I definitely am not the same person I was at the start of the year…I believe I am stronger in so many ways

    1. Ms Claudette

      So you have much in common with not just me (Claudette) but Alexis as well – the author of this post. πŸ™‚ You know what they say, “what doesn’t kill you make you stronger.” πŸ™‚

      1. Yup….it really does…you live, you learn and you #keepitmoving

        1. Ms Claudette

          Indeed you do! πŸ™‚

  14. i think we can work on being better to ourselves in 2016 how we think of ourselves, value ourselves and think about our finances

    1. Ms Claudette

      I could not agree anymore!!! πŸ™‚

  15. another year has come and gone and a new one is on the approach. I pray that we make the most of it

    1. Ms Claudette

      We so join you on that! πŸ™‚

  16. Congrats on surviving 2015 πŸ™‚ Surelyall of us have been through so many things and we should be thankful for it whether it is, good or bad. There’s a reason for everything that happened and I know God is only preparing us for the next year’s surprises.

    Happy New Year to you and to your family!

    1. Ms Claudette

      On Alexis’s behalf, thank you very much! All the best to you and yours! πŸ™‚

  17. The new year is a fresh start to do things in a new way. Almost here!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Almost here!!! πŸ™‚

  18. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I definitely need to start taking better care of myself next year. I need to eat right, drink more water and workout more.

    1. Ms Claudette

      We will all have to do that together! πŸ™‚

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