The Year In Review
A lot has happened over the last year, which leads me to wonder at what age we will stop saying that. I am also thinking about the new year.
Anyways, my year was full of ups and downs as I am sure everyone’s was. It was my first year of marriage, and boy, was I in for a surprise. People always say marriage is hard but it is hard in a way that is indescribable. I also started a new job almost a year ago and began preparing to apply for PhD. programmes. It was an eventful year. Some parts were extremely painful and I also had moments of complete bliss. This year has pushed me more than, I think, any other year of my life. Looking back at who I was on January 1st of this year, I am stunned by the difference. Though I have another year that holds some very sore spots and dark moments, I look back very glad that everything happened and I am proud to say that I am a better person on this end of the year than I was at the beginning. I have recently begun a journey of resetting my self-worth and focusing on my self-esteem. While I am not anywhere close to my goal, I know that I am closer.
Bravely Embracing The New Year To Come
So on New Year’s eve of this year, I will do my best to bravely embrace all the positive and negative things from this year as steps to get me to where I want to be. I will proudly celebrate my progress. I will remember my mistakes with self-love but also with the understanding that I have things I need to work on. In an even harder feat, I will look back at my achievements (small as they may be) and tell myself that I am getting on the right track to who I want to be.
As I count down the seconds until the New Year, I will breathe in who I was and what I did in 2015 and, then, at midnight, breathe out the things that I cannot change. My first breath of 2016 will be full of hope and intention as I pursue my only new year’s resolution: to end 2016 a better woman than I was in 2015.
2016 – The Year of Self
Now some of you might be thinking that this description might be a little too critical of where I am at as a person. And I truly do not mean that I think I am an awful person or that I was an awful person at the beginning of the year. I am not saying that at all. But with another year under my belt, I can look back at my intentions and actions and see immaturity and some selfishness, as we all do, and can aim to be better. So for me, the new year – 2016 will be a year of self. Self-reflection, self-esteem, and fearless self-correction when needed.
I know you all probably have a ton of goals for 2016. And goals are good things. But if you are making your list of resolutions please remember that internal growth makes tangible growth a lot easier.
So when you are telling yourself, my resolution is to eat better and exercise more, maybe include the internal goal of knowing your worth and valuing your physical self. When you make a financial goal like paying off loans or buying a house, maybe include an internal goal of being more financially responsible with all of your purchases, big and small.
I guess what it all boils down to is that I hope you all embrace the New Year as a time to change the things in your life and in yourself that will make you truly happier. Material acquisitions and having a hot body will not make you happier in 2016 but being more financially responsible and taking care of yourself will give you a better sense of self-worth. Focus on what really matters.
Happiest of New Year to you all and I wish you all a year of incredible love and adventure!
Alexis Ali lives in New York and hold a Master’s degree in Linguistics. She is a freelance writer, sings and has a love for photography. Alexis is our main short-story series writer but her most recent post was “Dear Santa: My 3 Christmas Wishes.”
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