Emotions Can Run High At Christmas

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Nothing expresses the emotions that we feel like the songs we listen. Whether it is new or lost love, songs will always be able to tell the joys or the angst that you are feeling. In the opinion of some, our emotions are reflective of our thoughts while others believe that emotions are the driving force

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde

Whatever your view, Christmas is one of those times of the year when emotions run either high or low.  This past week in our posts we covered this issue of emotional management during the holiday season – pointedly as well as indirectly.  Judging from the post that was most visited, it would seem that you our readers understood this and the importance of enjoying the season or at least getting through it with your emotions in balance.

Best of the Week Emotions

emptyingIn our most visited post, “Emptying Yourself This Holiday Season,” while there was no sub-title declaring the underlying topic as emotions management, introducing and discussing the word “kenosis,” the practice of daily self-emptying was highlighted. Readers were invited to check themselves and their understanding of the “reason for the season” as they go about their Christmas activities. What is the driving force for the purchases, the gifts you choose to give or the way you celebrate the season? Knowing what emotions are leading you into the holidays and beyond is a great way to make sure that your spending and celebrating are really from a balanced place and not to impress others. Check out that post if you will and share your thoughts in the comments below.

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…” ― Nicholas Sparks

emotionsIt was very interesting to read the comments you left below our second most visited post of the week. “Music To Your Ears This Christmas,” was intended to be just that – a lighthearted conversation about songs at this time of the year that lift our emotions. What really impressed me about the comments is that some of you admitted not being too fond of Christmas music at one point or another in your lives.

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Personally, as you might have figured by now, Christmas is the “most wonderful time of the year,” to me. However, there have been years that Christmas was not welcomed as it bore reminders of happier ones and my emotions were on the lower end. Thankfully, even then some songs, like Santa Baby by Eartha Kitt, always broke through my despair and brought a smile to my lips. Have a read of that post, if you missed it, and share with me some of your emotions when you listen to Christmas songs and carols.

“I think there is something beautiful in reveling in sadness. The proof is how beautiful sad songs can be. So I don’t think being sad is to be avoided. It’s apathy and boredom you want to avoid. But feeling anything is good, I think. Maybe that’s sadistic of me.”  ― Joseph Gordon-Levitt

As someone said in the comments below the third most read post of the week, “Reduce Christmas Stress: Hug A Dog,” it really is ironic that the holidays can be the most stress-filled time of the year as well – at least for some. Those who have experienced loss of any kind can find the holidays extremely stressful and so we had a simple suggestion – visit with the best stress doctors in town – at the animal shelter.

Coming Up…

Next week at this time, those of us who do celebrate Christmas will be in the middle of our hustle and bustle of the big day. There will be no round up post to cap the week but what we will most certainly have next week is a new Contributor in our midst.

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Mardene Carr, Fashion Contributor

Fellow blogger and laugh-master (or should that be mistress or madam?), Mardene Carr, will join us here as our fashion guru. Mardene is a tech-savvy Librarian with over 15 years experience in library services and research. She has advanced knowledge of Integrated Library Systems and in-depth understanding of collection analysis, library instruction, library automation and general library operations. While she is currently pursuing a MPhil in Pastoral Counselling, her role here will be as an Image Consultant. Mardene runs a blog of her own but we have agreed to collaborate in this area – as it is one where I am completely lacking.

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Have a wonderful weekend! Be wise as you do your last-minute shopping and catch you next week. You can keep in touch over the weekend through my Facebook page, Twitter and my Weekly online newspaper.


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39 thoughts on “Emotions Can Run High At Christmas

  1. […] the trendsetter and many retailers followed along. Those for who this time of the year is a Blue Christmas, the shopping frenzy must be […]

  2. I totally agree that during Christmas emotions run high … but all throughout the year there are other events and situations that calls for unexpected ones too. Thank you for sharing this … and hopefully we can all have a merry and bright holidays.

    1. Ms Claudette

      i had a peaceful Christmas, so I got my wish. What about you? Now to 2016! Namaste. 🙂

  3. I love that Oscar Wilde quote. How I wish I could dominate my emotions a little bit more. And the Eartha Kitt version of Santa Baby really is the best 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and yes, we all have to continuously work at managing our emotions better – it starts with understanding what they mean or are calling us to. Hope you have a wonderful holiday!

  4. Rosey

    I’ve got a lot of stress right now, but it’s not holiday related. I’m trying to let the holidays soothe me, and it’s working too because the kids are so happy. That’s what really matters.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Isn’t that just wonderful – that the holidays is helping to relieve your stress! Bring on more holidays for Rosey!!!!

  5. This year for us has been blessings after blessings. A bit stressful in the last few months but I always remind myself how fortunate that I am. To me the best stress reliever is cuddling with my babies.

    1. Ms Claudette

      They are indeed the best stress reliever, especially when their tummies are full and they are laughing! Congratulations on a great year! 🙂

  6. What a wonderful addition to the blog. I enjoy what she puts together every day, so it will be fun to see that here.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, and she has an infectious laughter that I just could not resist, even if I can stay away from the high heels! 🙂

  7. The holidays can be stressful, but I don’t let the negative emotions win. I always celebrate it with a positive attitude. Merry Christmas Claudette!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Merry Christmas to you my dear!!!

  8. Emotions can run high during the holidays I try to spend it with the people that matter most so those emotions are good ones.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is a great strategy! 🙂

  9. emotions can run high at christmas but i’m glad that Santa Baby can make you smile. i’ve felt some stress this season but nothing that actually had to do with the holidays which is a blessing

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, that song never fails no matter how “downers” threaten! I do hope you are feeling better.

  10. katrina g

    It’s true your emotions go everywhere at any holiday.

    1. Ms Claudette

      They indeed do. 🙂

  11. I try to celebrate the holidays with positive attitudes and be happy. I wish my family live close by

    1. Ms Claudette

      Aww sweetie, i know how you feel about not having family close by. I do hope you will find company in Peace, Love and Harmony. Namaste. 🙂

  12. Because... I'm cheap

    The holidays can be so stressful. And not just with gift shopping. I’ve been feeling the pressure, so it’s a good for me to remember to take a breath occasionally.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, take as many breaths as you need my dear. Too many people make the holidays into some kind of weird competition and that only causes stress. You enjoy yourself however you choose when the day comes. Namaste. 🙂

  13. Nobody should be “forced” to spend time with people you don’t want to spend time with. I think the worst thing is to be in a room full of people and you don’t really want to be there. I find that friends and family sometimes want to hold us hostage (because that is what it feels like) during these times. Acting as if something is wrong with you because you do not wish to be in a house full of people. We must be cognizant of the people around us and get to know our friends and family so that when they say I am not going to be there, you just leave it at that….

    1. Ms Claudette

      See, that is exactly what I try to get people to understand about me. Are you sure we are not sisters??? I am very much an introvert when it comes to social gatherings. I only like to be with my daughter, granddaughter and her Dad for Christmas. That’s it but people don’t understand that and think you are anti-social.

  14. I guess for me, gone are the days for some stressful coming Christmas season thinking of what gifts to buy, preparations and all 🙂 I would just like to enjoy the moment with my family and savor the memory 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      I could not agree with you more! I have not bought Christmas gifts in a few years but then came my granddaughter last year and changed that. So I went out today and got her gifts – books, as I believe that is one of the best gifts I can give to her, the love or reading. Other than that – that is it for me. Merry Christmas when it comes Jen!

  15. The holiday season can spark lots of different emotions between the overwhelming expectations and being surrounded by family. I embrace it as it comes and try to stay in the moment when I’m feeling frustrated. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is the best way, I think. I remember the days when I was surrounded by in-laws and their extended family and being the semi-introvert that I am, it was quite daunting! 🙁 Have a wonderful Christmas. 🙂

  16. I look forward to seeing what you come up with next! Have a great Christmas x

    1. Ms Claudette

      I will be sure to tell you when I find out myself! LOL! Thanks for your visits Ana! 🙂

  17. victoria

    Hopefully we have a good and peaceful Christmas. But the other side i am sad to those people was affected by typhoon.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, while one part of the world is “making” merry, another side is experiencing great challenges. It is important not to forget that even while we celebrate. Thanks for that reminder, Victoria. 🙂

  18. Elizabeth O.

    I really enjoyed that post, the one about emptying yourself! I think it was a really awesome read. Thanks, I’m looking forward to more posts but first, Happy Holidays!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! Happy Kwaanza – just have a happy rest of your life, Elizabeth!!! Much love and blessings! 🙂

  19. I’m hoping for a relaxing and peaceful Christmas this year – hopefully stress free. I hope you enjoy the holidays too x

    1. Ms Claudette

      I know I will! Do hope you have a great Christmas as well, Claire! 🙂

  20. I have to watch my emotions during this time. Growing up my parents always fought during the holidays.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It is good that you know that you can be triggered at this time of the year and so be more mindful at this time of the year. All the best to you over the season, Tara! 🙂

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