Is This It?
Monday night my world went dark. Two weeks after my second eye surgery, my new lens were acting up and the pain over my right eye was excruciating. A call earlier in the day to my surgeon’s office resulted in an emergency appointment. Granted, their idea of urgent was different from mine as he does clinic in the afternoons only. Hardly able to see, knowing that whatever was the problem it would not be seen to until the next afternoon and having popped more painkillers than is normal for me, going to bed early was the only option left. Worried that I would not be able to post the Christmas greetings from some of the Contributors, I prayed that morning would bring relief. Am I going blind? Is that the Christmas gift that is mine this year?
Christmas Gift List & Greeting
The meaning of this season has been much debated across the blogosphere, and it is one that I have not engaged in. But now, I am starting to ponder what it means for everyone. For my daughter, it is about getting everyone personalized christmas gifts and having a good family time. What has been true for me is that a Christmas gift is not the uppermost thing on my mind. Yes, as a joke I told my daughter the three material things that I would like for Christmas and in order of priority:
- The Sims 4 game
- A vacuüm cleaner
- A slow cooker
Alexis Ali shared with us earlier this month a most interesting post – Dear Santa: My 3 Christmas Wishes. One of the three wishes was a material item. The other two were desires of her heart – to be somewhere special and with someone special. Have a read of that post here and share with us what would three such things or one Christmas gift be, one(s) that you really would like to have this year.
I will share mine but first, here is a Christmas greeting from Contributor, Clara Brown:
The lyrics of the popular Christmas Song is very fitting for me as I greet you all, my friends. Hugh Martin (Composer) and Ralph Blaine (Lyrics) had a tremendous idea when they put this popular song together. No doubt, Christmas meant to them what it means to me: Friends, family and all this:
“Have yourselves a merry little Christmas
Let your heart be light.
From now on, your troubles will be out of sight.
So have yourself a Merry Little Christmas JOY
I know that for a lot of us, we started the year with friends and loved ones who have since left us. In leaving, there are empty chairs, empty place-settings at our tables but we are still here. Our mandate is to continue to live and love. Commit during this Yuletide Season to make it purposeful, full of joy-giving and joy-getting. I greet and wish you much Love, Peace and Yuletide Joy.
My Christmas Gift Of Choice
Back to the Christmas gift. Notice it is singular and not plural. Unlike my dear friends and Contributors; and despite naming three items that I would have liked for Christmas, there is only one thing that I need. Having spent so many Christmases alone, without any sort of gifts and watching others receive simple things as their Christmas gift, I have come to learn that I need only one myself.
At 50 years of age this year, about seven Christmases were spent with me, myself and I for different reasons, including the end of a long-term relationship, living in a new city by myself and my daughter choosing to spend Christmas Day with others with whom I do not have a relationship. I am somewhat of a loner and so these experiences of the holidays, although a few tears were shed, were learning moments for me, opportunities to reflect on my journey to each point and appreciate what graced my table.
Although my childhood was not necessarily an happy one, Christmas was the only time of the year that there was ever a sense of family. As a result, I have grown to be very protective of that memory and therefore unwilling to water down the experience in the company of those who are not family – by blood or by choice. I would rather spend Christmas alone with what I consider my Source than in the company of people just because.
So, to follow in my colleague’s footsteps, as we approach the big day, regarding my Christmas gift, my Dear Santa letter would go like this:
All I want for Christmas this year is Peace for my family members, my granddaughter especially, for my friends wherever they are and for the world. I know that people pray for Peace daily in different parts of the world and for different reasons. I know that many things are done in the name of Peace as well. Yet, the Peace that I ask for is one that abides in a heart that is accepting that “all things are indeed working together for good” and knowing that there is truly enough for us all.
Santa, I know there are people without a place to call home. I visited one this week and saw men and women laying on cots in dormitories. There are people this year Santa, that a Christmas gift is the last thing on their minds, much preferring a guarantee that they will not be bombed or maimed in a bombing. Then there are the people who seem to have everything – a house, furnishing, plenty of food, a family, a job – but they do not have Peace. They are in desperate search for it, buying even more than they need or can really afford; cursing and judging others for what they have or the “god” they worship. Some are in so much distress (which they will not admit) that they are killing others, abusing their man-given power to target and denigrate those they consider inferior by race or religion – even politics.
Santa, if you could help us all to find this Peace that “passeth all understanding,” the one that would help us to be more understanding, caring, considerate, respectful and tolerant if not completely accepting of each other, I know you would need not leave your home another wintry night in December. That is the Christmas gift that I would like – Peace, not on Earth, but in all of our hearts. Then it will pour out into the world.
Thank you Santa!
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Have a blessed holiday!