3 Roadblocks To An Awesome 2016

2016 Boot Camp

Christmas has not arrived yet and Thanksgiving (in the United States) is still a week or so away. Then why have we leapfrogged to talking about the New Year? There are two reasons for that. The first is your point that we are 50+ days away from 2016 so there are many opportunities for you to achieve the intentions you set for 2015.

My second reason for using today’s conversation, which is usually wellness-related, to talk about 2016 is that this is a great time to start creating an awesome year. How do you do that? By making a wellness list for 2016. Recently, I published an E-Book that has suggestions, tips, and practical activities to help you through this two-step process – finishing up the current year on the best foot and lay the foundations for the next.

What this post adds to that e-book, Before The Year Ends, are pointers to a few potential setbacks that you could meet in any given year. There is a saying. “to be warned is to be forearmed,” and it sounds a bit ominous. However, it is crucial as you get ready to wave goodbye to this old year and ring in 2016.

If you had made resolutions or set intentions for this year and there are some that remain outstanding, here is aΒ  question for you – why? Did you:

  • Set ‘unrealistic’ goals? Those would be the ones that your heart was not all that into.Β  They really were the demands of others and you were merely hoping to please them. These are also the goals that – as the experts say – were not Smart, Measurable, Achievable, Result-Oriented and Time-bound (SMART).
  • Make the same resolutions that you have made since you were 21 years old? Lose 20 pounds, exercise daily, run a marathon or some other goals that required exerting effort that is beyond you.
  • Seek help and support that would encourage, motivate and keep you accountable? Or did you think you could do it alone, need no one or nothing to give you a swift kick when needed?

Have A Well 2016

Ring in the best year!

Wellness is about thinking smart, wisely and clearly. It is also about setting goals that enhances your life in all areas – yes, not just physical. In fact, let me put it to you that wellness actually begins in your heart, the ‘place’ or space from which your intentions flow. Your wellness is as good as the thoughts that you hold arising from or about those intentions (or goals) and they will affect how you go about achieving them. Moving into 2016, my suggestion to you would be this – clean up your intentions and your thoughts, check what outstanding goals you have for the year that is fast ending.

This is an exercise that I have done for a couple of years now. As shared before, my New Year’s Eve night is usually spent creating a vision board for the year that is opening. However, my intentions were formed in my heart long before December 31. It is after cleaning house, so to speak, for at least a couple of months that New Year’s Eve will find me visualizing the twelve months ahead. This is what I will again be doing for 2016 and that is what I am inviting you to do. The house or mind-clearing starts with the steps outlined in my free E-book that, again, you can download, print and work with over the next 50 odd days.

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The 3 Stop Signs

Put an end to these…

As you are doing your clearing, here are some things you might want to look out for and decide if and how they will fit in your life in 2016. Will they have a place or role in the New Year? Can these situations, people or behaviours help to move you closer to your intentions or hinder you? Here is a list of some of the dream-snatchers that you will need to clear:

  1. Stop Talking So Much – This might sound like a contradiction coming from me, a blogger and talker. However, it is advice that one of my professors in chaplaincy gave me years ago. The way she put it was, “exercise wise counsel.” It is advice that has caused some people to think of me as cold, although I talk so much and I am active on a public space such as this one, Facebook and Twitter. What I share is what I want you to know, have resolved and learned a lesson from. Michelle Hodkin says it well: “Sometimes, the biggest secrets you can only tell a stranger.”  Your deepest intentions and desires are often best kept secrets between you and your inner Guide.
  2. Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You – this is a big one for many and it is often at the heart of what holds you back from accomplishing your goals or realising your intentions. Here is the bottom-line: It is not selfish to take care of yourself first! You are of no use to anyone if you are so busy trying to be all things to all people and nothing for yourself. See that hand waving in the distance? That is mine. I used to be a big time worrier – more concerned about the welfare of all others before me. It got so bad that I walked away from many great opportunities – without regret – to support others. It was important for me to have them think good things about me, hold me in good favour. The fact that they did not and some still have not, instead they took me for granted or for a long and winding ride, was a big lesson. Through my worrying for those who did not worry about me, I learned that my life and intentions for my life will be permanently on pause for as long as I am busy trying to help or live someone else’ life. Some might read this and see the word “selfish.” Well, they would need to get their eyesight and hearts checked. This is about self-love and only when you have that you are able to worry less about people loving you and paradoxically be able to give more to others, when you are best able. That is at the core of wellness.
  3. Stop Waiting – The time will never be right. The love of your life will never come. The bestseller will not be written or the next great masterpiece for the Louvre will not be created. That great meal will not be cooked as long as you are waiting for: (a) permission (b) reassurance of others (c) external support (d) the money or anything else that stops you dead in your tracks as your muse whispers for you to come along. Over my 50 years of trial and many errors, this is what I have learned – you do not learn to swim by standing on the shore. Only after diving in the business waters, almost drowning in debt, loss, failures and false friendships – even familial relationships that planted my feet in cement – that today I can honestly say that although my life at this time is not palatial, I am so happy because I have stopped waiting on any of these things.
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To make 2016 a memorable, magical and momentous year, you have to start today. Waiting until the stroke of midnight on 2015 to announce your resolutions and then expecting them to magically happen is – sorry for the bluntness – silly.


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Did you notice a new thing on here that appeared over the weekend? For over a year now, my privately funded organization, Daughters of Sheba Foundation, has published an online newspaper. Due to the amount of activities that was on my plate, it went dormant for a bit. This past weekend, I decided to revive and re-brand it as “Claudette P. Esterine Weekly.” A link is now posted on the right of this page. Do check it out as it is replete with articles for and about women around the world, news stories that we all can relate to and that will enlighten, entertain and educate.


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51 thoughts on “3 Roadblocks To An Awesome 2016

  1. […] – In preparation for the New Year, we hope to support you and name “3 Roadblocks To An Awesome 2016.” Published on November 10, through this post and my E-Book, “Before The Year Ends,” we […]

  2. wow – how fast did this year fly by!!!
    This is a great post – my main one is number 2 – im a total people pleaser and im terrified that someone would think bad of me. In my head i KNOW i shouldnt but its that kind of place where it knows it, but it cant put it into practice..!!!
    Another great post, thank you!
    Lets hope 2016 is a good one!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, this year really went by quickly! In fact, the last 50 went by pretty fast for me! πŸ™‚ Yes, 2016 is going to be the best year yet! What I love about what you said about your being a people pleaser – is the fact that you acknowledge where you are at right now. That is always the first and most crucial step that many people fail to recognise! So good for you! Now, on to the next step – healing what causes you to think that other’s opinion of you really and truy affect the price of bread! I am here if you need support with that. πŸ™‚ Namaste

  3. My new years goals are always something that I was working on before anyway.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That makes a whole lot of sense! πŸ™‚

  4. CourtneyLynne

    I think it’s insane it’s almost 2016!!! Swear this year just flew by!

    1. Ms Claudette

      It indeed did! πŸ™‚

  5. I can neverstick to these lists of goals without being sidetracked.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I know! That’s why I focus more on my inspirations/intentions – while I make them tangible, they improve my entire life rather than take me to some goal that often seem unnatural to my true desires. Thanks for stopping by. πŸ™‚

  6. Great post, we did vision boards this year as a family and it was a blast. It was neat to see how we each expressed ourselves with images. We have revisited them a few times throughout the year.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is awesome that you made it into a family activity! πŸ™‚

  7. Great advice. So helpful. I need to do a vision board this year πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      It is a great exercise – I absolutely love doing them! πŸ™‚

  8. I think it’s great to encourage people to not talk as much and listen more. I think life is too short to worry about what people think. Great post!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Jonathan! πŸ™‚

  9. Stop waiting and start planning. I think I like it and I should start doing it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes and do keep us posted. πŸ™‚

  10. Ive found that making new year goals stress me out so I just just try to improve on whatever Im currently doing.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Girl, I so hear you on that. I don’t set goals either. I sit and listen to my heart and what She wants to do in the coming years. πŸ™‚

  11. Angie@chasingmyhalo

    This is wonderful! New Years has always been one of my favorite holidays. It’s such a reflective and intentional time. There are some great questions to think about!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Christmas is my favourite time of the year but come December 31, I live for the silence of my thoughts to start creating my new year. Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  12. Love this post. I am a Stop Talking person ! Very profound and thoughtful. I am sharing with my husband later – he is a worryer

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you so much Eileen! I do hope your husband likes it! πŸ™‚ Not that i am worried or anything! LOL

  13. The stop waiting really hit home for me. I tend to do the “safe” thing much of the time. I need to take risks.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Take them one step at a time and baby steps at that. You will get the hang of it and soon be ready to jump off a cliff of opportunities! :)Much love and blessings and adventure! πŸ™‚

  14. Great points! I think we all get wrapped up in always having an opinion we can’t seem to keep them to ourselves anymore!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I see that every day. My preference is to lay a table of my thoughts and whoever want whatever take. Going around and blasting people with your opinions is simply an indication of your own insecurities, things that you wish you had the courage to do. Everyone is an expert – but of their own lives and if only they would focus on that and stop trying to run other people’s life what a world we would have! Thanks for dropping by! πŸ™‚

  15. I absolutely believe in Setting “Unrealistic-Achievable Goals”

    Why do I say this?

    Because its in stepping out of our comfort zone that we leapfrog to our greatness. Its in having a goal way bigger than what your resources or even tools are taht will get you doing more, learning more and being more to that goal. So No I never set realist goals.

    That said…I absolutely agree wit you Claudette: I never bother anymore abut what other people think of me…thats their business.

    I take action today…The time is now, to set the scene for a new year, a new day. While definitely living in the Now, The Isness is My business…I love to live in the Now. Coz Guess what once gone, no second ever returned.So why not enjoy it …

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thanks for leaving such a detailed comment! πŸ™‚ Namaste. πŸ™‚

  16. I know, for a fact, if I could get those three stop signs down; my year will be better! Thank you πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome! πŸ™‚

  17. I agree on all of this. Stop waiting and start planning! πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      And then walk the plan! That is key. Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  18. Thanks! I need to stop waiting and keep trying. Great advice

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome! Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  19. victoria

    Next year i will be working so hard to have an own money and pay our bills. i’m almost 1 year in the house

    1. Ms Claudette

      Awesome!!! I look forward to hearing of your success! πŸ™‚

  20. danavento

    I think next year will be different for me. Going through so many personal changes that I know will impact my ways

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well, look to the sidelines, I’m there cheering you along! πŸ™‚

  21. Elizabeth O.

    This post made me reflect on the upcoming New Year. It’s true that a lot can change in year, so why make those changes something that you want and something that’s for the better, right?

    1. Ms Claudette

      Precisely! That is my plan at least! Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  22. platypus6

    I sometimes worry about what others think but I’m trying to quit!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, we are all better off when we can focus on what we think about ourselves – and making those thoughts the best ever. Let’s agree to do that together this coming year. What do you say? πŸ™‚

  23. My biggest bugbear is worrying what people think about me when I should focus on myself.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Ana, if I were to fathom a guess I would say that is just about everyone’s bugbear! We are so caught up with what others’ think about us and not what we think about ourselves. Let’s together look only within and see how 2016 unfolds. πŸ™‚

  24. looking forward to a an unroadblocked 2016

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yeah!!!! I love hearing that! πŸ™‚

  25. I have started to doing what I love this year and that is traveling more. I have several trips planed for 2016

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yeah for you! I am so happy to hear that! πŸ™‚

  26. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I generally speak before I think, so I end up in a lot of trouble that way.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Okay then. If that is working for you, then I would say keep on keeping on! πŸ™‚

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