What We Know For Sure
A few weeks ago, one of my best friends and I quite accidentally came up on the topic of letting go. There really are no accidents so let me correct that. We were discussing doing cross promotion of her and her husband’s radio show and this blog. Beverly Sukie-Martin and her husband are no strangers to these virtual pages as I have featured them in an earlier post on “A Love Like This.”
Their love story has inspired me from the first time that I heard it and its spark continues to light up my days, especially when I wonder whether it is too late for me to find a love like theirs. Another thing that has cemented our friendship is the lessons we all have learned about letting go.
The Gift of Goodbye – Letting Go
It was no surprise then that as we discussed my guest appearance on Talk It Up Radio Show and Beverly joining me after to do a Blab that the chosen topic was letting go. We named the show and the blab event “The Gift of Goodbye,” a suggestion from me, as that is exactly what letting go has come to mean in my life and experience.
For most of my life, saying goodbye to people, even the ones who have caused me great harm, teaching me some really hard and harsh lessons had been a most difficult thing for me to do. Preferring to hang on to the “known,” I grew comfortable in my discomforts – whether that was physical or sexual abuse, mental degradation – oftentimes of a subtle nature, feelings of unworthiness or simply not being wanted any longer.
Letting go and restoring my self-esteem, independence and stepping out alone into the world, whichever one that was dominant at the time, was a lesson that I only consciously started the class after two failed suicide attempts and near bankruptcy. Ending another marriage just as it was about to enter the domestic violence level was the kick in the butt moment that allowed me to think, “I can do this!”
Letting Go Roundup
This week’s roundup posts, comments and even private messages tell me that there are many of you who might be tethering, dying to break the chains that have you tied to the “what is,” but knowing that it is time to say goodbye.
Reviewing the blog statistics for this past week (Saturday – Friday), as always most of you find and visit us through search engines and Facebook. Thanks to all my fellow bloggers who visit and share our posts on their social media sites as well as leave comments, always helping us to improve. I am most grateful to the many first-time visitors and more so to the returning visitors. The latter group confirms for us that we are doing something right, we are talking (or writing) what they want or need to hear.
To my mind, it is no accident that the top three posts of the week are all about letting go. If there is only one subject that I know well and that in my view is essential to your leading a life filled with inner peace, it is this one. Again this week, all three top posts were written by me and two were installments of a three-part series I did on letting go. The third was more of a “how to” and discussed one of the essential tools you need to release all that would sap you of your joy. Starting in reverse order:
#3. Clarity From Chaos: Free Yourself was the last installment in the letting go series. It is a very personal story of mine that is set at the time of the year that has become the most transformational for me – Fall. The story started in October 2006, the series is based in October 2009 and just for the record, the impetus for me needing to learn to release baggage, hurt and pain, to stand in my power – my daughter – was born in October 1987.
#2. Memories Don’t Leave Like People Do is the title of a song that I used to hear on the radio growing up. My mother loved Tom Jones and it is that version that I grew up swaying to each time my young heart was broken (sigh). I borrowed the title for what is the second most read post of this week. You might want to start reading from the beginning of this short story series to better understand the sentiment of this follow-up.
#1. Emotional Filters: 4 Simple Life Hacks – I have never done one of these before, at least not concerted, although they seem to be quite popular among bloggers and self-help motivators. This was my first formal “life hack” post and it turned out to be the best read post of the week. It is in essence the “how to” post of this letting go movement that we seemed to have inadvertently started here. What this particular post does is to outline for you four areas in your life that you can apply the brakes to and separate the “moving me forward” elements from the “need to say goodbye” to people and situations. [tweetthis]Need to let go of something or someone? Check out this blog post for some useful tips![/tweetthis]
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