Letting Go: A Roundup Of How To’s

What We Know For Sure

A few weeks ago, one of my best friends and I quite accidentally came up on the topic of letting go. There really are no accidents so let me correct that. We were discussing doing cross promotion of her and her husband’s radio show and this blog. Beverly Sukie-Martin and her husband are no strangers to these virtual pages as I have featured them in an earlier post on “A Love Like This.”

Their love story has inspired me from the first time that I heard it and its spark continues to light up my days, especially when I wonder whether it is too late for me to find a love like theirs. Another thing that has cemented our friendship is the lessons we all have learned about letting go.

The Gift of Goodbye – Letting Go

It was no surprise then that as we discussed my guest appearance on Talk It Up Radio Show and Beverly joining me after to do a Blab that the chosen topic was letting go. We named the show and the blab event “The Gift of Goodbye,” a suggestion from me, as that is exactly what letting go has come to mean in my life and experience.

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Short Story Series: Letting Go

For most of my life, saying goodbye to people, even the ones who have caused me great harm, teaching me some really hard and harsh lessons had been a most difficult thing for me to do. Preferring to hang on to the “known,” I grew comfortable in my discomforts – whether that was physical or sexual abuse, mental degradation – oftentimes of a subtle nature, feelings of unworthiness or simply not being wanted any longer.

Letting go and restoring my self-esteem, independence and stepping out alone into the world, whichever one that was dominant at the time, was a lesson that I only consciously started the class after two failed suicide attempts and near bankruptcy. Ending another marriage just as it was about to enter the domestic violence level was the kick in the butt moment that allowed me to think, “I can do this!”

Letting Go Roundup

This week’s roundup posts, comments and even private messages tell me that there are many of you who might be tethering, dying to break the chains that have you tied to the “what is,” but knowing that it is time to say goodbye.

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Reviewing the blog statistics for this past week (Saturday – Friday), as always most of you find and visit us through search engines and Facebook. Thanks to all my fellow bloggers who visit and share our posts on their social media sites as well as leave comments, always helping us to improve. I am most grateful to the many first-time visitors and more so to the returning visitors. The latter group confirms for us that we are doing something right, we are talking (or writing) what they want or need to hear.

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Release, Retrieve and Restart

To my mind, it is no accident that the top three posts of the week are all about letting go. If there is only one subject that I know well and that in my view is essential to your leading a life filled with inner peace, it is this one. Again this week, all three top posts were written by me and two were installments of a three-part series I did on letting go. The third was more of a “how to” and discussed one of the essential tools you need to release all that would sap you of your joy. Starting in reverse order:

#3. Clarity From Chaos: Free Yourself was the last installment in the letting go series. It is a very personal story of mine that is set at the time of the year that has become the most transformational for me – Fall. The story started in October 2006, the series is based in October 2009 and just for the record, the impetus for me needing to learn to release baggage, hurt and pain, to stand in my power – my daughter – was born in October 1987.

#2. Memories Don’t Leave Like People Do is the title of a song that I used to hear on the radio growing up. My mother loved Tom Jones and it is that version that I grew up swaying to each time my young heart was broken (sigh). I borrowed the title for what is the second most read post of this week. You might want to start reading from the beginning of this short story series to better understand the sentiment of this follow-up.

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#1. Emotional Filters: 4 Simple Life Hacks – I have never done one of these before, at least not concerted, although they seem to be quite popular among bloggers and self-help motivators. This was my first formal “life hack” post and it turned out to be the best read post of the week. It is in essence the “how to” post of this letting go movement that we seemed to have inadvertently started here. What this particular post does is to outline for you four areas in your life that you can apply the brakes to and separate the “moving me forward” elements from the “need to say goodbye” to people and situations. [tweetthis]Need to let go of something or someone? Check out this blog post for some useful tips![/tweetthis]

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Do check out these posts and share your thoughts in the comments section below each. I would love to hear what you think about this week’s roundup and where you are in the process of releasing anything from your life, it could be a food item, that is no longer serving your highest good.

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Claudette P. Esterine

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  4. It’s hard for me to let go of things, memories, old relationships. I’m super sentimental I guess.

    1. Ms Claudette

      As long as holding on isn’t holding you back from moving into the “allness” of you then hang on m dear. L) Thanks for stopping by.

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  6. katrina g

    letting go is hard

    1. Ms Claudette

      It absolutely is! But is is doable – over time.

  7. It’s getting easier and easier for me to let things go the older I get. I’m not sure if it’s because of life experience and maturity or if it’s because I’ve left those things further behind with the passage of time.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It might be a combination of both as well as aging/maturing. You get to that point when you only want/need what’s making you happier. πŸ™‚

  8. […] was ready to handle. As the process got more complicated she called me. My suggestion to her was, “Let it go.” Thankfully, she did and this morning she is happier than ever, things are falling into place as she […]

  9. Melissa

    Letting go can be hard. This is a great round up.

  10. I also find it difficult to let go. I obsess over the small things and often lose sleep over it. Thanks for sharing this post! I really identify!

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is the was the worse part for me – when you cannot sleep, obsessing over stuff. I was fortunate to learn to play relaxing meditations, etc and I find that they help me let go and go to sleep!

  11. Like everyone else here says, letting go is not easy. But it is only when you let go that you can move on and grow.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to that! πŸ™‚

  12. Letting go is hard to do. There is someone – a friendship – that I need to let go. It’s been a year since she hurt me badly, yet I think about her often. I really want to let go so that the healing can begin.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are correct in saying that only when you let go will you be able to step boldly into “what next.”

  13. The #1 Life Hacks really stood out to me. That was a really great article. This is a great roundup!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Jonathan, I really appreciate your comment. πŸ™‚

  14. CourtneyLynne

    Letting go can be super hard, but once you do… OMG your energy will just be so much better.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are absolutely right about that! πŸ™‚

  15. kleebanks

    It seems that letting go is a sometimes unpleasant, challenging, but necessary part of life- and death. Whether it’s letting go of possessions, pets, people, or dreams – we just have to let go, while also realizing the void can often be filled with another fulfilling opportunity.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Exactly! As the saying goes, Nature abhors a vacuum so once you let go of whatever, something or someone else will come along – eventually. Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  16. I had to let go of some friends and friendships when the twins got home from the hospital. It wasn’t easy, and to this day, I still think about those people. However, I know it’s for the best. Memories can be wonderful, but they can also hurt too.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Of course the memories sometimes hurt, especially when you did not have the proverbial “closure” on the friendship. I know that is true for me. All the best and thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  17. Erik Miller

    Great thoughts on letting go. It’s so important to remember that hanging on only causes more pain. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Not a problem, my pleasure! And thank you for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  18. I tend to be on the other side of the spectrum. I sometimes let go too easily. I

    1. Ms Claudette

      I totally hear you on that Chanelle! I can be like that as well! Temper – we have to learn to temper ourselves. πŸ™‚

  19. I kinda came to a conclusion years ago when I was dealing with some persons that it is not doing me any good to hold on to grudges. I trust God completely when he says vengeance is his so I just keep it moving…

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to that!!! πŸ™‚

  20. Never too late to find love…trust me on that one (smile)

    1. Ms Claudette

      I will trust you! πŸ™‚

      1. Hahahahhhahahahahaha…we will talk

        1. Ms Claudette

          I look forward to it. πŸ™‚

  21. Sometimes letting go allows us to grow as an individual. Even though it can be hard.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are so correct on that! πŸ™‚

  22. Letting go isn’t easy.. Especially if we’re still around the problem/person

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is is when it is especially hard as you might have to severe ties completely. Each situation is different.

  23. Eileen xo

    So true – letting go is the hardest to do

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, it can be but it is also doable. πŸ™‚

  24. victoria

    I know this feeling. Letting go was really hard especially the person that you will be love

  25. I think that the older you get the easier it is to let go

    1. Ms Claudette

      I know for sure that that is true for me. πŸ™‚

  26. Elizabeth O.

    Letting go, in all aspects, is something that we can’t easily do. But we all have different ways to do it. I’ve learned a lot from myself while in the process of letting go too, that, I’m actually thankful for.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am so happy for you as the learning is transformational. πŸ™‚

  27. Letting go is hard but we all have to try

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed we must! Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  28. just1mommysopinion

    I think letting go is something every single person struggles with. It definitely is a struggle for me.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I would agree with you on that. With time, practice and willingness it does get “easier.” πŸ™‚

  29. I want to just let go of the memories of horrible people. They just don’t go

    1. Ms Claudette

      They cling to you like a bad BO! πŸ™‚ I know the feeling but it is doable. Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  30. Letting go is hard. You think you have let it go until you see that person.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Oh lord, yes!!! Sometimes all it takes is a photograph and the emotions come or threaten to come flooding back! I hear you! πŸ™‚

  31. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I seriously struggle with letting go. I hold on to grudges for a life time.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That can really eat away at your “insides” Robin. πŸ™

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