Wanna Have A Baby?
We have all seen that look that flits across a woman’s face when she sees another woman and her newborn baby in the park and her thoughts goes to having a baby of her own.
For men, it is a little different. Becoming a dad takes a lot of thought and every man has fears that need to be smoldered before he can take that step to fatherhood. Why do men fear becoming dads? Most of the fear stems from the lack of a role model to guide them on how to be the father they need to be.
Usually, parents and non-parents are equally inclined to be concerned about the things that are beyond their control. Parents more-so tend to be predominantly frightened about the vivid and astounding dangers they hear about and see in the media or from friends and family. It is typical to be fearful and uneasy about becoming a dad, but no particular reason supports lingering in those worries perpetually.
Why Men Fear Becoming Dads
Some of the top fears or concerns of a modern-day dad are merely myths that are effortlessly discredited, where others have a mind-set and fixed opinions, that might take some adjustments to trade-off the fears for a more positive outlook.
Nonetheless, the top two fears and concerns around becoming a dad today are:
Financial standard can be a big limiting factor for future dads. The need to provide for his family trumps every other issue for most men. Some of the major costs that are attached to fatherhood includes being able to provide money for: food, diapers, child care, bicycles, braces, allowances, and most importantly, college.
Money is a necessary concern for modern dads but with the right planning one that is easily allayed.
To overcome this hurdle, the would-be father or new father reading this because his partner shared it with him is advised to make a list of his income and expenses. With the help of your partner decide what is compulsory and what can be put on hold. Major budget expenses like college are a long way of and you can save up money through the various options that are available on the market, such as, saving accounts, bonds and stocks and so on.
Loss of Freedom
Some men today fear that becoming a father would put an end to their youthful tendencies.
In conjunction with the concern of taking on the role of a “responsible grown-up” is the worry that he will not be able to do any of the social activities he enjoys presently such as, hanging out with friends, eating out and taking road trips. He is afraid that he will not be able to have fun when he wants.
My view and experience when it concerns this fear is that being a dad does not mean you lose your freedom. It is still possible to go out with friends and have a social life. With just a little more scheduling and effort dads can keep in the loop of life. On the other hand, one of the many rewards of being a dad is experiencing life in a whole new way.
In the end, being a modern-day dad is not the end of a man’s life as he has come know and love it. It can take him a long time realizing that it is more than possible to be grown-up without being old but when he eventually realizes the promises in a new way of life, many men an develop an improved energy and embrace their new status.
If there is a man in your life who is hesitating to take the plunge, share this post with him and discuss the matter as partners, rational adults and come to a decision not based on fear but what works best for you both. Leave a comment below with your thoughts on this or any other issue on this blog.
Robert Turner is a Dad and lives in Georgia, U.S. He enjoys a healthy debate as much as the next guy and writes short stories or inspirational books in his spare time. Check out his most recent article – “5 Things Every Son Wishes His Mom Understood About Raising A Man.”