Sick To The Stomach
On the way to the office, my stomach did the flip-flops. As we approached the main entrance, the police officer exited the booth and came along the driver’s door. “What’s your business Ma’am?” he asked of the driver. She told him that she was just the chauffeur, dropping me off for duty.
I sat quietly listening to the exchange, too busy trying to control my need to puke to be disturbed by the unnecessary interrogation of the officer who was clearly new. For over six months now, this same car took me to work, we entered the same gate at about the same time so he was the difference – as well as my now uncontrollable desire to empty my stomach.
It was my dream job – politics and public relations mixed into one position. It was turning out to be my nightmare as well. Bittersweet is it not when what you desire changes into the one thing you need to get away from the quickest? Work anxiety was slowly eating away at my insides – boss-related stress and anxiety – and that morning it was ready to devour my entire gut.
Get To Know Yourself
Not sure now how much longer I stayed on that job but it was not more than a couple of months before I simply walked off. Back then, the economy of Jamaica was floundering and jobs were not easy to come by, especially ones where you rub shoulders with the country’s leaders and influencers. However, my nerves could not stand any more beating. Work-related stress comes with the double pressure of deciding whether to jeopardize your career path and what to do without an income, especially when you have no other job lined up. From an early age and stage in my career, I knew a golden watch was never going to be a retirement gift given to me, as I was unwilling to stay in an organization that long to qualify for it.
This would not be the last really awesome job that I would walk away from, there were at least two others. The difference, however, is that as I grew older and wiser (something that some would question) two things became very much a part of my personality:
- Speaking my truth, without fear and respectfully moving on
- Knowing exactly what I am willing to take, support or be involved with
Those two form the basis of my wellness and can do the same for you. Having work anxiety – in your relationship with an employer or coworkers or your career in general will not support a well life.
Found this very interesting wellness tip of the day that offers useful strategies that everyone can benefit from when anxiety threatens. Fast forward to 13:50 on the clip and listen:
Again, What Is Wellness?
As we continually remind you on this blog, wellness is more than being fit,
“Dr. Bill Hettler, co-founder of the National Wellness Institute, defines wellness in terms of six dimensions that are interdependent: physical, social, intellectual, spiritual, emotional and occupational.
Improved physical health, which many need, and yet struggle to achieve long-term, doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Sure, you might achieve your physical goals, but wellness suggests a commitment to an overall healthier lifestyle and the knowledge that we cannot segregate facets of our lives. They intersect.”
That was an excerpt from an article on Health & Wellness by Joline Atkins. She is a wellness coach and she gives her understanding, which very much coincides with ours, and her answer to the question, “What is wellness?” Read the full article here and share your thoughts in the comments below.
This afternoon, our featured post will be from Pakistan. Neelma Tashfeen will take us into the working lives of three women of her homeland for a peek at how class and society can impact our overall feeling of well-being. Catch up on her first post for us here and Subscribe to receive a daily email update when her article and those of the other Contributors are posted.
One thing that I know is that merely talking about my problems with others solves nothing and it most certainly does not improve my wellness. As I shared earlier on my Facebook page, “Speak to your problems, not about them.” That was a message I heard some years ago when my mouth was busy blabbing about all that was going wrong in my life. The difference between speaking to as against about my problems was at first lost on me. Not anymore, not for a long time now.”
What about you? Do you know the difference?
Have a great Tuesday! Be well, be kind and be focussed on what you wish to experience.