Children: 4 Wisdom Tips For Their Success

21st Century Children

“I believe the children are the future, teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they possess inside. Give them a sense of pride to make it easier. Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be.” Whitney Houston

The 21st Century is marked by a myriad of complexities with rapid and mind-boggling changes. It is vastly different from the era during which many of you and most certainly I grew up. As a parent of a 21st century Tweenager, I am aware of the reality that my spouse and I are his primary teachers. We have the responsibility to make decisions that will guide his next steps.

There is no doubt that if he is to set and meet his personal goals, aspirations and visions for his life, our child will need some pretty awesome thinking skills outside of those catalyzed by his use of technology. Today’s children need to be forward-thinkers and develop the ability to recognize problems and their solutions almost simultaneously. Without this ability, the ‘fix’ might become obsolete in a flash.

Teaching Children Old Rules In A New Era

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Ground rules for a new world

In addition to the ‘head-spinning’ rate of changes that characterizes this century, children today must be able to adapt wisely. With a constantly moving goal-post, gone are the days when people waited to meet face-to-face to  communicate. Long gone as well are the days when we were able to apply specifics from the proverbial ‘rule-book’ and stick to or reference them as infallible truths. That rule book has been thrown into the trash or placed in the infamous ‘File 13’. Wisdom is the guiding stick for today’s children and it is up to parents to teach them how to befriend her.

As an example of how times have changed and how we all will need to adapt our thinking about old rules, recently a work colleague of mine suddenly tendered her resignation and it caused a ripple. Sudden as, instead of giving the required 30-days’ notice, she gave eight days’.  Back in the day, your time and mine, an employee quitting his/her position must first consider the repercussions of basically walking off the job. To give less than the required notice was tantamount to walking off. In fact, a new employer would not make an offer of employment unless they are satisfied  that you will be free and will be following the proper protocol of ending your previous employment.

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When I asked my colleague about her sudden departure, she told me that her new employer required her to start in 10 days and if she did not accept that, the offer was off the table. To my mind, this was unconscionable but that is the 21st Century, an era in which former social protocols no longer apply.

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My question then is, “How do we prepare our children to have respect for or pay homage to these protocols and rules of engagement when societal norms and practices are rapidly changing? Will this be an effort in futility?

4 Tips For Children In This New World

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This might help you

Here are five wisdom tips that my spouse and I have taught our son that might be useful to your children in these times:

1. Practical Honesty:

Our children constantly keeps us honest. You might have heard or use the saying, “What is good for the goose is also good for the gander,” and it is one that is practiced daily in our house. We follow some conservation measures such as turning off the light in the room as we exit. If Dad or I inadvertently leave a light on and our son happen to notice, not only does he turns it off BUT he makes sure to “call us out” on the infraction. He keeps us honest –  our words and actions must match.

2.  Learning Never Ends:

No one is infallible. We constantly make errors of judgement, misquote someone or Scripture, make references that may be irrelevant to the particular conversation, etc. When this happens, we have to show our children that it is okay to make mistakes by apologizing and not become defensive. It shows them that learning is a life-long process.

3. Effective Communication:

Irrespective of the era, communication has always played a vital role in living and learning. From generation to generation, the ability to effectively communicate – verbally or non-verbally –  has always been crucial. Encourage your child/children to express themselves clearly, concisely and appropriately. Teach them to use their “voice.”

Recently, while on vacation with my son we were discussing how to budget. I tried to explain making wise purchases but he held a contrary view. I asked, “Why do you think like that?” His response was, ”Because I am an independent thinker, Mom, just as you taught me to be.”  A bit taken aback but I could not entirely ignore his position after that.  He spoke his feelings, clearly, concisely and in language proper to a mother/son dialogue.

4. Thinking Globally:

My son started high (secondary) school this month and during his preparation for the entrance exams, I was amazed at the ‘wide-net’ information that they were required to study. Back in the day, we did these topics at the university level. Today, children are required to start thinking globally earlier than we had to; they are 20 years ahead of us.

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Today’s children are connected

It is therefore incumbent on parents to expose their children to other cultures, languages, international issues happening around them. The space has become more compact.

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Another parent told me recently that her daughter’s best friend lives in Holland. This was a ‘wide-eyed’ moment for me and my first question was, “What do they have in common and how do they communicate?” Her response,“They have a lot in common. They communicate through Skype, Viber, Whatsappp, Facebook and they meet at least twice per week and have a great relationship.”

That was me schooled on connectivity and today’s children.

Raising Smart Working Children

As children, you and I were taught to believe that whatever we get out of life is a result of what we put in. If we worked hard enough, we would reap real and valuable rewards. Putting it crudely, my mother used to say,”There are no free lunches.”

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Encourage their smartness

Now, as we raise our children, it is important that we stress the importance of hard work. However, we cannot stop at that; not in this century of technology, reality television and globalization. Hard work is still essential, practice still makes perfect but we also need to encourage and show our children how to work smart.

Today’s high-achievers, millionaires, people making a difference around the world not only work hard, practice their craft, hone their skill set with rigorous training and upgrading but they do so smartly. They know their strengths and they understand the importance of identifying that of others and delegating tasks accordingly. These achievers scour the world for the best talents and use them to maximize the productivity and profile of their businesses.

Our children should believe as well that they can use the available resources locally and globally; and apply conscious effort to their vision. That is what my spouse and I try to do daily – help our son step into his dreams through hard work (homework assignments, sporting activities, chores, etc), making available to him the tools he needs in this technological age to make the connections and encourage his development of people skills to bring it all together.

Time will tell how well we did.


 

Proud Mother, Clara Brown
Proud Mother, Clara Brown

Clara Brown is a longstanding member of Claudette’s Daughters of Sheba Facebook group, a friend, an Insurance Executive and a very wise woman. She holds a Masters in Business Administration and lives in Kingston, Jamaica with her spouse and their son, Jared. Check out her most recent article, “Tap Into Your Gratefulness Force In 3 Steps.”

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34 thoughts on “Children: 4 Wisdom Tips For Their Success

  1. […] and the importance of imparting wisdom over material to our youth. In her best post last year, “Children: 4 Wisdom Tips for Success, Clara pointed to tried, tested and proven strategies that she and her spouse use to raise a future […]

  2. I think these are great tips and lessons to teach children.

  3. Ashley

    As a homeschooling mom, one of the major things I’m trying to teach my son is to learn HOW to learn, so he can be successful in anything he chooses to do. Learning never ends, and learning from our mistakes is certainly a great lesson for kids!

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is a very important lesson you are teaching your child – one that has been missed by many, including school teachers. We are teaching children how to mimic and copy instead. Thanks so much for bringing that perspective! 🙂

  4. A very thoughtful post and a lot of great tips and advice. I always wonder however if all parents feel this way – about different situations, things, subject matter of course, but all times seem to have been times of change. Regardless your post is excellent for these times.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Joely! We really appreciate knowing that we are hitting the right nails! Namaste 🙂

  5. I LOVE the #3 tips. I think it is the best for me. Communication is very important for our kids. We have to make sure we talk to them to their eye level and no screaming.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Absolutely no screaming. I hear so many parents screaming at their children and I want to shake them. I screamed at my daughter a couple times before I got it. I have even learned not to talk to much as she/they will simply tune you out. Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  6. These are four important things that we should teach our children. It’s also very important that we communicate with them all the time. Be honest and learn to admit when you have done wrong.

    1. Ms Claudette

      So true! As a parent, i know you know this! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

  7. There seems to be so many things to teach them each day to hep them succeed. It’s a tough job, being a parent.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It indeed is and some days can be so overwhelming but one has to keep teaching. thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  8. More and more children are being raised without these important lessons.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Isn’t that the truth? Sad truth. 🙁

  9. I definitely think learning is life long. It is what keeps you young.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is one way of looking at it – a great one to boot! 🙂

  10. dltolley

    I realize I was born into just the right time period for me. This new world just makes me dizzy! 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      LOL! I hear you Dianne! 🙂

  11. Elizabeth O.

    I think that no matter what era we’re in so long as we communicate with our kids and be honest with them, we’d be able to build a trusting relationship with them. In return, we earn their respect and vice versa, this makes parenting more effective since there is trust. They will have a deeper understanding that you just want the best for them.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Very true! As always, thank you for visiting! 🙂

  12. I am teaching my kids to be kind and empathetic. We travel a lot so they see the world and have seen first hand the poverty & need in other countries. We have a few volunteer vacations planned this year …

    1. Ms Claudette

      That is absolutely awesome! Thank you for sharing that! 🙂

  13. Yes to thinking globally! So important!!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed it is! Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  14. I always loved that song by Whitney Houston-it resonated with me when it first came out and still does. I have no children but my friends do–and of course then there are my nieces and nephew and grand niece. My Mom (93 years young) can not understand why or how a 1 1/2 year old can already use an ipad and correctly-nor why she needs one. I have to keep reminding her that that is the world these kids are growing up in. Honesty should alsways be taught at home –As for the changing workplace–well–if the bosses don’t care about the employees–then the employees are not going to care about them!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Your mom is 93? That’s amazing! She is right about the children using Ipads. I am guilty of encouraging my 14 month old granddaughter with technology. Her parents bought her a baby tablet and she no longer has any use for it as her grandmother (me) has her using my tablet and an old laptop. She knows the difference with a touch screen versus the button thing they had her playing with. It is indeed a different world but core principles such as honesty will survive. Thanks for such a comprehensive comment. Namaste…oh, and give your mom my love. 🙂

  15. Learning never ends is so true. My kids teach me things that they learn in school.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Of course they will and you have to keep up! 🙂

  16. sicorra

    Excellent tips for children. In regard to the 30 day notice to quit a job – is that specific to the employer your friend worked for? The longest notice time I ever knew of was 2 weeks notice, and that was even after working for a large corporation for 9 years. And mind you, on the flip side, if they were handing out notices to employees, the notice was more like you have 5 minutes to get your stuff and leave the building, simply because you are being laid off (not fired for cause).

    1. Ms Claudette

      You had me chuckling about the 5-miutes/get off our property bit! 🙂 I think what Clara is referring to is that many/most employers in Jamaica still hire and pay a monthly salary. As such, the notice period is a month. The practice in North America is to pay every two-weeks. It was something that I quickly adjusted to when we moved here 13 years ago. I love being paid every two weeks and so the notice period is 2 weeks. Hope that clarifies it for you. Thanks for visiting. Namaste 🙂

  17. Great post. It is true how much times have changed. As parents we need to adapt as well since our kids are growing and change with the world around them!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed we do – even us grandparents – as it is futile to resist. 🙂

  18. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    My kids are awesome. They are going to be awesome adults, too.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Love the confidence with which you say that because you know you have paved the way for them, taught them all you could so now they will fly to the heights! Love it! Namaste. 🙂

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