Why is that so? Is it because they think the conversation is going to be painful, boring and possibly repetitive? Are you in the habit of causing harm with your words or talking about the same thing over and over? Are you a power talker of peddler of poison?
I used to be like that but with time, training and a true desire to have meaningful interactions, I learned to watch not only my words but my body language. It is still hard for me to not show some feelings through my eyes – so if you want to gauge what is going on at a more deep level during our interaction, check them.
A version of this article was first published in June 2o14 on my former blog. The decision to revamp and republish here arose out of some interactions that I had a few days ago on my Facebook page. Dissatisfied and in disagreement with my position on a woman wearing niqab to participate in the citizenship swearing-in ceremony here in Canada, one man in particular became extremely rude, hostile and racist in his comments. Not a thin-skinned person, I was nonetheless somewhat affected and amused by his quick dive to racial slurs, even after I asked him to let us agree to disagree.
Yesterday, I restated my position on the matter, not out of fear, but to also publicly comment on the lowering of politeness in our societies and my observation at how some men, it seems, would like to return women to the proverbial kitchen. Watch and share your thoughts with me on the issue discussed in the comments below.
Power Talker or Peddler of Poison
Back to the article and this matter of being a power talker of peddler of poison talk, another thing that has become very important for me is to take care of my inner space. There is real truth and value in the biblical instructions to “guard your heart” as truly the issues of our lives do flow from it.
Our “talk” with others is directly influenced by our heart, frame of mind and feeling of well-being. People will enjoy speaking with you, even those you supervise/manage and to whom you have to offer not so great feedback, if your tongue is not poisoned. What do I mean by that?
When our heart space is cluttered, darkened and/or riddled with despair, hatred, envy or any feeling other than good, it is near impossible for us to offer conversations that will leave people doing the happy dance.
Yes, it is possible to “fake it” for a while and offer “nice” sounding words but our body language oftentimes tells a different story – the truth. Have you ever watched the television series “Lie To Me?” I recently came across it on Netflix and am almost about finished watching the three seasons. Like Ria Torres, Dr. Lightman’s protegé, I am a “natural” at reading body language as a result of living in an abusive home, being sexually abused as a child and later being subjected to domestic violence in my marriage. I have become somewhat of an expert on the cues people give to me – a language that they often are unaware that they are speaking.
Get More People Wanting To Talk With You
Words are creative and especially so when fueled or energized with emotions. The acceptance rate of the invitation to “talk” or the number of persons seeking to have conversations with you is indicative whether your tongue is poisonous or power-filled. Here are a couple of ways to improve the conversion rate of people willing and gladly wanting to talk with you:
- Check your heart to see what is going on in your life. Are you happy or at least on the road to it? Is gratitude a resident there?
- Evict greed, jealousy and discontent (and their friends) from the rooms of your heart and see how many more meaningful and positive conversations start taking place in your life.
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