A September To Remember For More Reasons Than One

Everything Holds Beauty

Maybe you have sung along with it, maybe you have never heard it but there is a song that says it all when it comes to beauty: “Everything is beautiful, in its own way.”

Forget any religious connotations, forget where you were born, forget anything you have thought so far about beauty and open your heart and listen to this song:

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Neelma Tashfeen

I thought of this song as we prepare to introduce Neelma Tashfeen to our readers today. Neelma is a woman who was born and lives in Pakistan. Today, she steps out more fully into our world, through this blog, to represent the beauty of her country.

She will be the voice of women we do not often read about – at least not in the context of beauty, freedom and living life as they create it. Most newscasts out of Pakistan that we in North America see, read or hear, paint a picture mainly of poverty, destitution, war, fighting, religious and spiritual practices that are alien to many and yes, people who are often in conflicts.

This is not a political blog, however, as I discussed with the women who took part “live” in my first Webinar on “A Practical Spirituality for the Busy Woman,” this past Sunday – politics is very much part of our being. If you missed it, you can watch the recording here – it is free.

In this vein and with Neelma’s help, I hope that readers will move with us to integrate all aspects of our lives as we learn and understand more about the women of our world.

Out of Many, One People

Growing up as I did in Jamaica, it was a struggle in my early years to have a full grasp of what really is beauty. Although we are largely a country of people of African descent, the Jamaican population has many people from different cultures: East Indian, Chinese, Lebanese, Europeans, and so many others that I have not listed. The country’s motto is “Out of Many One People,” and it is always a surprise to see the truth of that when you are in deep rural Alberta and come across a seemingly Caucasian man who speaks in a more heavily accented Jamaican patois that I do.

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Who is beautiful?

Despite that, the many-ness of the Jamaican people, as a child the images in magazines, on television that portrayed people of “beauty,”the special, kind and nice ones who were living a good life – they were of North American and European women, men and families. Now, I am not saying people of these backgrounds did not or do not continue to live a good life. What I am saying is that they were and are not the only ones. Women, men and families from every culture, every country, every race and in every part of our world are beautiful and are living good lives – as defined by them.

Success, prosperity and “good life,” have come to be equated with an American lifestyle. That is so inaccurate and myopic. Frankly, this idealization and beatification of the North American and then the European lifestyles as the “only” and the best way to live have caused many conflicts, strife and degradation of the human spirit across the globe where these images are beamed and primed as “If you are not like this, you are not living.”

Perception of Beauty

We discussed body image here a couple of times and I checked out this article in Shape magazine about an experiment carried out recently on this very subject:

“Design the perfect woman. That may sound like an impossible assignment, but that’s exactly what Perceptions of Perfection, a project launched by content marketing agency Fractl, asked graphic artists around the world to do. In order to see how different cultures view female beauty, they sent a full-body image of a woman posing in her underwear to digital whiz kids and asked them to photoshop her to look ideal according to the standards of their country.”

At the end of the project the surprising result and the conclusion drawn from it – at least to those doing the experiment, was that:

“…it seemed to reinforce the Western ideal of lighter skin and eyes, a slim build, and large breasts. Even the shrinkified Chinese woman had D-cups and white skin. And while it could have less to do with cultural ideals and more to do with the technical aspects of digital alterations, scrolling through the images makes quite an impact.

‘Widely held perceptions of beauty and perfection can have a deep and lasting cultural impact on both women and men,’ wrote the authors. ‘The goal of this project is to better understand potentially unrealistic standards of beauty and to see how such pressures vary around the world.'”

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29 thoughts on “A September To Remember For More Reasons Than One

  1. […] second most visited and read article this week was “A September To Remember For More Reasons Than One.” Mondays to Thursdays we have two posts each day – one in the morning that sets the tone for […]

  2. I like the thoughts behind this post. Well written.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much!!! πŸ™‚

  3. You are such a beautiful writer! I look forward to hearing more from you new contributor!

  4. sicorra

    Welcome to Neelma! Look forward to reading your blog posts πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you on her behalf! πŸ™‚

  5. She’s going to add a wonderful element to the writing on your blog. I’m looking forward to hearing from her.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, that is my thought as well. You can read her first post here, if interested, http://claudettepesterine.com/2015/09/wellness-and-pakistani-women-its-a-class-thing/

  6. Everyone is beautiful, but not all of us see it that way. This is a very interesting post.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are so right that we do not all see the beauty in all! πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! πŸ™‚

  7. Elizabeth O.

    Beauty empowers women. Not to sound cliche or anything but it should really be felt from within.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Absolutely and not cliche to me. πŸ™‚

  8. Love the perception of beauty… Nice to read

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! πŸ™‚

  9. It is so true that we are all beautiful, but many of us don’t believe it because of the ideals in the media. I hope this will change.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes you are correct but if more of us would think for ourselves the media would have less minds to control.

  10. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I love the perception of beauty point. It’s definitely all in the eye of the beholder.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed it is! Thank you for visiting. πŸ™‚

  11. This was a very interesting and enlightening post. I believe we are always prejudiced in some way through our (mis)conceptions and through the press. You have given me a lot to think about today.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are so right on that – that we all have these lenses that we see things and life through that makes us biased. Thanks for visiting. πŸ™‚

  12. Great read, thanks for the insightful post πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for reading and visiting! πŸ™‚

  13. This was an excellent read, I never really thought of a lot of things the way you do. Thanks for the insight!

    1. Ms Claudette

      And thank you for reading! Namaste πŸ™‚

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  15. This is a very interesting post and really got me to thinking! I just love your perspective πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and it is good to know it provoked some thoughts in you. πŸ™‚

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