A Peek Into The Daily Lives Of 3 Pakistani Women

Why We Need To Know

You might be wondering how and why it matters to know about the wellness and a day in the life of Pakistani women. Let me give you a little background.

Ms Claudette (the amazing woman running this blog), very sweetly invited me to write an article for her readers related to the women of Pakistan. She said she wanted to introduce her readers to the depths and breadths of the lives of women around our world. I did that article  – “Wellness And Pakistani Woman: It’s A Class Thing.”

Discussing sometime later follow up articles, we decided to dig a bit deeper into the lives of Pakistani women to give our readers a better insight into the social dilemmas and virtues of Pakistani women. We decided to do a sequel. So,  this is the second article in that series.

The sum of a Pakistani woman’s life is dependent upon the social class in which she is born. That was the basic theme of my first article. Over the next few articles, three women will narrate their life stories, complete with their joys and sorrows with the social class that each represents as the backdrop. Each woman is named in the pattern followed by the group.

You, the reader, can easily name the social class, whatever your view, from the following stories.


Meet The Women

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Out shopping (Source: N. Tashfeen)

 

Michelle

I am Michelle,24 and I live in a palatial mansion in the high-end suburbs of Islamabad. I did my schooling at the Convent of Jesus and Mary. My father gave me great ideals about life and helped me follow them by sending me to Oxford for my university education.

Now that I am back in Pakistan, my life is not as exciting as it was overseas.  Still, I have to find something interesting to do every day to make it “happening.” I am very particular about my health and fitness. So getting up well after sunrise, I have a hearty balanced breakfast of cereals, fresh fruit juice, boiled eggs and grilled sea food prepared by our expert butler. A long swimming session with my friends keeps me in shape and energized.

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Returning home later in the day, I have light snacks and a power nap to keep me fresh. About four days a week, my social life and circle are filled with evening gatherings and shopping sprees with my friends. My fiancée is working overseas (after his education there) and we are planning a dream wedding for this December. Life is as simple as that.

Ayman

Hurrying to get home (Photo source: N. Tashfeen)
Hurrying to get home (Photo source: N. Tashfeen)

I am Ayman and I am 28 and live in a small house in the city of Multan. I studied at a government school. My university education was on a scholarship and now I am working in a private bank.

It is possible that I would not be doing this job if I did not have to support my ailing father and a large household of eight (my parents and five younger siblings).  I wake up early in the mornings, prepare breakfast for my family, help my younger siblings get ready for school and then commute by public transportation to my work place.

Every day, I carry a lunch box since the commercial food is expensive. My working conditions are not particularly comfortable since the system is not truly conducive for female employment. On my way home from work in the late afternoon, I do grocery for my family every second day. I hurry to get home to prepare dinner for my family.

Around 10:00 p.m., I drop dead on the bed to start an early day again next morning. I have stopped dreaming of marriage with so many responsibilities to shoulder.[optin-cat id=”6744″]

Razia aka Rajjo

I am Razia aka Rajjo. I am 18 years old and live in a village in the desert of Thar. I have been married for about two years and a mother of two children. My husband is a laborer and works on a kiln for about $2 a day.

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Living in the sands (Photo source: N. Tashfeen)
Living in the sands (Photo source: N. Tashfeen)

My day starts well before sunrise when the other women of my clan and I set out to fetch water in our earthen pots from a well some five kilometres from our village. We get back around sunrise and I light up a wood fire to make breakfast for my family which is usually onion curry and bread.

Soon after my husband leaves for work, I set out to gather fire wood and graze our cattle in the desert. My mother-in-law takes care of my children while I am away. Usually there is nothing much to eat for lunch so I return in the evening when my husband gets back with something to cook. That is our dinner time, around 6:00 in the evening.

Milking the starving cows is a great challenge since they hardly produce any milk living on the dry brush of the desert as they do. I have never been to a city or a town and my children were born in our straw hut under the watchful eyes of my mother-in-law.

Their Lives, Their Stories

These women tell the story of the class makeup of Pakistan in general and share a brief glimpse into their lives with this limited coverage of daily activity. The sorrows, ideals, joys, frictions and aims in life are individual and specific but the general outlook is pretty much same.

The commonalities are many so are the differences but a woman in most cases does not define her destiny in Pakistani society except for a very few brave ones.


Neelma Tashfeen
Neelma Tashfeen

Subscribe and receive a daily email update when Neelma posts her next article on Prostitution, Pakistani Style. This will be another chance to learn more about this country and the lives of the women populating it from someone who lives in the midst of them. Neelma brings a different flavour to the banquet here. She is  freelance writer and lives in Islamabad, Pakistan.

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  7. VICTORIA

    I always love and enjoy learning more about other cultures and their traditions. How they were able to adapt in the fast pace of modernization. For me the end all be all goal is to get along well and respect one another, since we are all the children of GOD.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I could not agree more with you Victoria! Thank you for reading! 🙂

  8. It is incredible that their stories are so different – I love hearing their stories first hand!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am glad that you do! This was Neelma’s idea and it seem to be working out quite well. Thanks for visiting. 🙂

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  10. So great that you’re helping shed life on other cultures and women’s roles in those cultures. Keep up the good work.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and we most certainly will continue to do our best to open the windows. Namaste 🙂

  11. dltolley

    Riveting reading! I find people fascinating and this brief glimpse begs more. My heart goes out to Razia aka Rajjo and her hard life. Already a mother of two at the age of 18! And scraping a living out of the desert for herself and her family. After reading this, I am humbled and appalled by the excesses in my life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Mission accomplished — not through your being appalled but that we as women are getting to know more about each other. Our hearts we lead us into the next step. Namaste. 🙂

  12. RonRon

    Thanks for sharing this info around the internet. It’s time for the world to know how they manage to live out there.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome and that is our intention. Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

  13. I heard that women are often taken for granted in Pakistan. It’s so nice to read about the stories of these three women. Thanks for featuring them here.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome! Women everywhere are taken for granted in some way, shape or form. I know I have been right here in Canada. Yes, seeing and knowing how each other lives will, I hope get us to better support each other. Namaste 🙂

  14. Women go through a whole deal in different parts of the world. You can really feel the unequal treatment in most countries. I feel for these women. I hope one day we are finally free from discrimination.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, women everywhere, including in North America, have their trials and until that day comes when equality is the norm, then that will continue to be the case. Namaste. 🙂

  15. rebekah

    Thank you so much for sharing these ladies stories. I think it’s important to have a worldview perspective, and to truly try to understand what others are experiencing to the best of our ability.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I completely agree with you Rebekah! It is one thing to travel but it is another to do so with an open heart and eyes. Namaste 🙂

  16. I love learn about how other ladies live. I feel so blessed when I hear about their troubles

    1. Ms Claudette

      It makes you that more grateful. It also humbles me when I read that not everyone who is not living in North America is living in destitution. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  17. Great insight on these women’s lives. It is very intriguing to me to see how other cultures live.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It indeed is, especially if you cannot visit everywhere, right? 🙂

  18. I have a friend who is from Pakistan. She has really enlightened me to a lot of things.

  19. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    It’s interesting to hear how they live in other countries. Especially the middle east.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I could not agree with you more, that’s why Neelma and hopefully others from other parts of the world is part of my blog team. Thank you for stopping by. 🙂

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