Successful Boat Building
We each model success according to the ideals we hold for our lives and against the standards set by the community, society and even country that we live in. Success is most often defined, delineated and described in terms of material belongings, what you are able to gather, how much you can spend, where and with whom you party and the job title more than the real function.
If that “floats your boat,” as an old saying goes, then the last thing on my mind is to sink it. My intention, as my strategy for this blog continues to evolve, is to support those whose boats have not left the dock. It is also to help you navigate life changes.
As the lead blogger and practical spiritual coach, it is my duty and responsibility to define success for Claudette P. Esterine dot-com. This blog started as a hobby of mine over a decade ago, a virtual journal as most blogs were back then. It evolved and changed homes a couple of times now, the longest place of residence being Blogger.com, but relocated to WordPress in June of this year. Since then, I have defined, fine-tuned and refined our content and with the help of friends and strangers who have become friends and Contributors, seven days a week we offer content that we hope will support women around the world build their boats, take them to the dock and set sail.
Being a woman who is sailing on the high seas of life, just about every story is personal to me. What we write tells a tale that the particular author has some personal knowledge and experience with or have seen the situation first hand in someone else’ life. To now, Mondays to Thursday we have posted twice a day, however, as we are always evolving that will change as of today. There will only be two posts on the days that a Contributor is featured. I will set the tone with a morning post and then the featured post will be published at the usual time in the afternoon (EST).
Define Your Brand Of Success
This change is like every change implemented and embraced in my personal life – it will make good greater, it will focus us more and it will make me as the Editor more happy. More important, I hope it will mean greater success for the blog and future endeavours.
Business aside, today’s conversation is about success and how to define it and get there. At the heart of defining success, it is my belief that you must ask yourselves two questions:
- Am I happy? Not in the bubbling, giggling, delirious sort of way – which nothing is wrong with being – but in a constant, steady, always at the core of your emotions kinda way.
- If I am that kind of happy – what leads and keeps me in that state? If I am not, what can lead me to my happy?
What follows is an excerpt from a previously published post. It discusses how to get to your happy. Read on and do leave your comments below:
Leading Questions To Happiness
Are you happy with your life? Is your job somewhere along your desired career path? Does your relationship bring out the best in you? What kind of friends do you tend to attract?
Sometimes I go off on a retreat to a park, by a body of water or just sitting on the floor in a quiet corner of Chapter’s book store. I find myself needing this when life seems to be bringing me way more than manageable for me.
In these “by myself” moments, I ponder these questions:
- How do I really feel about what is happening, all bull crap aside?
- The negative emotions that I am having, what are they trying to tell me?
- Does anything need to change for me to feel good again? If yes, what?
By the end of this talk with myself, followed by intense listening, a plan is in place. There are times when the plan will come quickly, at least a first step. Other times, it takes a few hours, days or even months.
What is immediate, however, is being washed in a feeling of optimism. Read and posted this ‘letter’ on my Facebook page:
Dear Optimist, Pessimist and Realist:
While you guys were arguing about the glass of water being half full or half empty. I drank it.
Being a positive thinker is equal to having a Pollyana mentality in some people’s opinion. The Opportunist has gotten a worse reputation of being selfish. Too bad. [optin-cat id=”6744″]
The Joys of Positive Thinking
Looking back on my life and assessing my current standing, I grew into optimism coming out of a very dysfunctional single-parent home. There were many odds stacked against me and no one really to encourage me that all things work together for good. Literally, I motivated myself. Defining success and finding what creates the deepest feelings of happiness is often – if not always – connected to maintaining a positive outlook on life. Here are my three suggestions to get you started:
Want to be happier? Think positive thoughts about your life right where you are in this moment. Right there on the cot in the back room of your friend’s house. Know that all the food you need now is in that bowl of macaroni and cheese!
- Want a job that uses your gifts, talents and passion? Be thankful for the one you have now that will give you a good reference. Recognize the skills you gained doing all those seemingly deadbeat jobs.
- Want a more life-enhancing relationship and genuine friends? Well, first express your gratitude to those who helped you to know what you truly want. Write them letters. No need to mail them but the act of sharing a blessing with them will improve your sense of freedom to choose again.
“Drink from Life’s glass instead of complaining about the colour of the container! The more you appreciate the contents of your cup, the more and greater will be added unto you.”
The bottom line in boat building is first defining the shape, size, and type of your boat, then build it. Others will want to pitch in with their suggestions but then that would not be your boat to happiness. This is a job for you and you alone. When you get it done, then you can offer rides to those who are good seamen and who want to go where you are sailing!
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