Relationships And Men
Today and tomorrow, business on this blog will be handled by our men – Robert Turner and then Michael H. Ballard. Both gentlemen will be looking at “R” words, coincidentally. Michael will give us another look at Resiliency tomorrow when he shares a story of one of his earliest teachers on the topic.
Robert will turn his attention and bring ours to the male perspective on relationships, specifically dating. With more and more people in the United States, and I think it would be a true assessment of Canada as well, opting or being pushed into the single life, online dating has become the leading way of meeting a potential partner. Add to this mix the fact that many older women who have been single for some time or who even recently left a relationship are using online platforms to search for a mate, a husband, or a one night stand. Of course, there’s no reason to be ashamed by this at all, and this can actually be quite therapeutic for many women. If you’re a single lady interested in this kind of relationship, here’s a good read you might want to check out that could help you learn more about this kind of relationship.
Do not be shocked by this – it might not be your way but it is most certainly the option for many older women who are affectionately or not so much so, called Cougars. These are women with a preference for younger partners and there are many to be found online. Richard will share his thought on this growing sector and those who are helping it to thrive.
Your Relationship With Food
The only relationship on my mind today is the one that I am having with food. Seems it is also on the mind of the writer of a very interesting article on Huffington Post – Jennifer S. White – who shares six tips what my and your relationship with food says about the relationship with yourself.
Before diving into the article this must be said – it is a good overview of how my relationship with myself have evolved over the years. As you read it, if you are true to you, the tips might prove useful in helping you figure out or at least point to the relationship that you are having with yourself. The second thing of note is that while this article is not meant to replace the advice of a physician, therapist or nutritionist, it opens the door for a conversation with all three or even one of them.
Years ago, I weighed close to 210 pounds and was in complete denial about my size and my eating habits. I loved food and still do. Jamaican cooking is my preferred but since moving to Canada, going on 14 years now, I have gained a serious appreciation for Eastern Indian and some Middle Eastern dishes. Junk food was never really a problem for me, aside from my former weekly Friday treat of KFC. When I was diagnosed with diabetes, my eating habits did not change much. Again the denial.
Many years later, after a serious illness that the after effects have remained with me, a breakup of a long-term relationship and deep soul-searching, with the help of spiritual counsellors, a therapist and mostly by myself – my relationship with food has changed. Then I lived to eat. Today, I eat to live.
Tip #1 from White sums up the you/food relationship conversation in my view and experience:
The simplest conclusion that I’ve come to on this journey to be a healthy eater or rather, a healthy individual for whom food is both nourishment and satisfaction, but not an over-indulgence, is this: Our relationship with food says a ton about our relationship with ourselves.
If we are restricting food, we are restricting self-love. If we are over-indulging in food, we are craving more self-love. This is an obviously overly simplified version of this concept, but I find it to be true again and again in my life.
Fad dieting, supplements or meal replacements, and everything external to the real issues affecting the relationship with food will not make you healthy. This goes back to the concept of what does wellness really means and here on this blog it is more than a sexy and fit body, it is the much hackneyed mind/body/spirit connection. To that, I would add “world” – your relationship with the world. Read the full article here and share your comments below on your relationship with food and the wellness of your connection.
Long-term Relationship Hacks And More
Are you in a relationship with another human being? Has it been “going on” for a while now? How is it going – could use some pepping up? Well, here are 12 long-term relationship hacks that you might find useful. Check them out here and do Subscribe to receive updates when Contributors post here.
As well, have you checked out the details of my upcoming course at Learn It Live? It starts on Sunday, August 16, and if you want to create and walk your own practical spiritual path to inner peace, healthier relationships with food, humans and all living things then you will want to take this course! As a Subscriber to this blog, you will receive a 50% discount code so sign up today!
Have a Wonderful Wednesday until later when Robert joins the conversation.