Throwback Thursday And Resiliency
“Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.” ― Elizabeth Edwards
On my Facebook page earlier, I mentioned that although today is not Motivational Monday we will be focusing on one of the most important inspirational conversations you can ever join in – Resiliency.
Michael H. Ballard, our in-house man of resilience, will lead this conversation with a flashback to a time in his life when one person boosted his ability to bounce back. Michael has shared several of these snippets and glimpses into his life with us over the months and we are most grateful to have him as part of the Contributor slate on this blog. Check out his most recent post here on “How To Bounce Back From Life’s Big Stuff Events.”
The Bounce Back Dance
Today, August 6, 2015 the people in the land of my birth, Jamaica, are celebrating its 53rd year of Independence. The country gained its status as a politically independent nation, out from under British rule, and ever since its people, including me, have been on a journey of resilience. As a nation and individually Jamaicans, like so many other people in our world right next door to you and across the street from you, daily do the “bounce back” dance from life’s challenges.
Often, when the word “resilience” comes up, what first springs to mind is a person who has lost a limb or two, their sight or has suffered and lived through a very visible and debilitating event. Indeed such persons are resilient but not everyone who has bounced back or in the process of doing so have experiences or lost a limb putting their challenges on public display. Not everyone is like me or the Kardashians for that matter, and live their lives openly and in view of all on social media.
Wherever and however people are bouncing back, most of us often do not know. Friends of mine, some of them supposedly close, had no idea that there was a point in my journey that I was homeless, for a very short time thank heavens, or the circumstances of my living. They did not know that many nights, I had only bread and butter or some crackers and sardines for dinner because it was rent week and most of my very limited income from my then job in Toronto, Canada could not cover accommodation expenses and food in one go.
How To Fall In Love With Pain
We all at one point or another go through “stuff” and we either get pulled down into a dark place of despair and stay there for a long time or we bounce back. Michael wrote a piece on this some time ago – about learning from pain. I came across this podcast, an interview with Eric Greitens, a Navy SEAL, a PhD, a Rhodes scholar and an author, about falling in love with pain. Have a listen:
Practical Tips To Bounce Back
Not going to take up too much of your time this morning as this is a subject that is best experienced than read. However, there are some tools and exercises we all can use when we are going through a period, a situation or a circumstance that has us buried in a not so comfortable place. From my toolbox, when faced with any such “pull down” moment, I grab:
- Stillness – as this is from where acceptance comes. It is important for any of us to first accept what is. Only then can we move to or even begin to imagine what is possible.
- Reflection – once you have accepted what is – and that does not mean condoning or excusing – you can remind yourself of what is important to you, revisit your mission for your life or begin writing one.
- Action – this comes only after you have opened yourself to inspiration which comes through deep listening. Inspired action is the most effective way to help you put legs on your dreams.
Others have said these same tools in different ways, including Dr. John Izzo, whose video on resilience and four tools that can help you with bouncing back I invite you to watch.
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