Have you ever received advice from someone who you either do not know or did not ask for their opinion?
What do you do with unsolicited advice?
We each have our own way of doing things and being in the world. Yet some people have appointed themselves experts on everything. Then there are others who have excelled in their field (congrats) and now feel that no other course ought to be charted but theirs. Everyone must follow them or, according to them, you will not get too far.
Please, Bugger Off!
Today is the official end of our week and so I do a roundup of the most read posts and/or the posts that engaged most people in conversation. It is also the end of an interesting week when it come to advisers, nosy-parkers and experts.
Came across a few of these advisers who approached me with their opinion about this blog. Now, I am a person who is quite open, very transparent and even more supportive of my fellow human beings. However, as mentioned in a recent post, one that received overwhelming support and comments, I do not offer my advice. I speak when I am spoken to.
It is a great thing when some of what you put out into the world returns to you. By that I mean the nice things. The not-so nice ones come back as well, and they seem to return more quickly. I am no different from anyone and do appreciate when “the goodness” that I give comes back at me – I very much welcome it.
What is not welcomed are people, experts, bigwigs and snobs, yes snobs, who think they know everything and that everyone in their particular field is in it for the same reasons that they are. In this case – to make tons of money. Y
Always Inspirational, Insightful and In-Depth
Claudette P. Esterine and the associated Foundation – Daughters of Sheba – are not money-making ventures. Unlike the focus of our recent and most popular article this week, “How To Deal With Sympathy Addicts And Attention Seekers, what we do here is not about fame, fortune, peddling sponsors’ wares or selling services.
The Contributors to this blog are either long-time friends of mine, freelance writers who have become friends and kindred spirits who support my mission and the vision that I have for the DOS Foundation. Our intention is to present information that supports the physical, emotional, spiritual and mental well-being of women and those who love them. Our most read articles since Sunday were meant to do just that:
- 7 Things To Do If Today Were Your Last Day
- Today’s Wellness: Summer Drinking, New Age Disorders And Parenting Skills
- Dear Parents, It Is Loving To Set Boundaries For Your Kids
We Don’t Do Boxes
Feedback is most welcome and the Contributors and I invite them in all our posts. What is not welcomed are the attempts to put us in a “blogging box,” and then ask for payment for the privilege?!!!
When the most celebrated blogger today – whoever that is – started their blog, I am sure they had no idea where it would lead but that person followed their heart. So much has changed with blogging and more so with social media since that time. The way we share content and gain followers has gotten much easier. I mean now it is possible to get free followers on sites like Instagram, without much effort. While it is good things are more convenient as time goes one, is this a wholly good thing?
Millennials, we are told, do not like long posts, they prefer pictures and videos – in other words, they cannot read. I refuse to believe that. A couple of our Contributors fall into the age range of Millennials and they most certainly write well and understand the English language. We will not be “dumbing” things down here to please marketers, experts and/or sponsors.
Middle-aged women, a large segment of our audience, we are told by some “expert” bloggers do not like to read short blogs or those that are not about fashion or – get this – ones that are on issues of substance. Not true for all. We are satisfied with the small segment who come and read what we share. This blog will not become a fashion piece, a cookbook, a homemakers’ magazine or a seniors’ place of rest to fit in any box.
Who We Are
We represent the beautiful mix of races, countries, genders, ages and lifestyles. As we grow, however slowly that may be, so will the mirror that we hold up to the world.
There are women and people all over the world – hello, North America is not the only continent people – who read this blog, follow me on Facebook and Twitter as well as on Pinterest, who are living and breathing the issues we cover. They are glad for someone, a space that tells their stories – the long version.
Tips I love but do not come disguised with supposed advice to get us to feel that we are not good enough and need to follow your path, your lead, need your endorsement or to take your course. The so-called new world was not “discovered” because Christopher Columbus waited on someone to chart a new course for him! Oprah or Arianna Huffington did not become the successes that they are today by not taking risks and not reaching out to their niche every day.
That is what we do here – write articles of substance for women (and those who love them) and as yesterday’s Contributor, Clara Brown wrote, we are Blooming Amazing!
If you got this far – word #890 – I thank you and hope you subscribe or simply bookmark this blog and return again and again, taking what you need to support you through the daily grind! Have a great Friday and catch you tomorrow!