Roundup Rant: Unsolicited Advisers, Please Bugger Off!

Unsolicited Advice

Have you ever received advice from someone who you either do not know or did not ask for their opinion?

What do you do with unsolicited advice?

When Someone Decides To Give Me Advice, I:

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We each have our own way of doing things and being in the world. Yet some people have appointed themselves experts on everything. Then there are others who have excelled in their field (congrats) and now feel that no other course ought to be charted but theirs. Everyone must follow them or, according to them, you will not get too far.

Please, Bugger Off!

Today is the official end of our week and so I do a roundup of the most read posts and/or the posts that engaged most people in conversation. It is also the end of an interesting week when it come to advisers, nosy-parkers and experts.

Came across a few of these advisers who approached me with their opinion about this blog. Now, I am a person who is quite open, very transparent and even more supportive of my fellow human beings. However, as mentioned in a recent post, one that received overwhelming support and comments, I do not offer my advice. I speak when I am spoken to.

Feedback Always Welcome

It is a great thing when some of what you put out into the world returns to you. By that I mean the nice things. The not-so nice ones come back as well, and they seem to return more quickly. I am no different from anyone and do appreciate when “the goodness” that I give comes back at me – I very much welcome it.

What is not welcomed are people, experts, bigwigs and snobs, yes snobs, who think they know everything and that everyone in their particular field is in it for the same reasons that they are. In this case – to make tons of money. Y

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Always Inspirational, Insightful and In-Depth

Claudette P. Esterine and the associated Foundation – Daughters of Sheba – are not money-making ventures. Unlike the focus of our recent and most popular article this week, “How To Deal With Sympathy Addicts And Attention Seekers, what we do here is not about fame, fortune, peddling sponsors’ wares or selling services.

The Contributors to this blog are either long-time friends of mine, freelance writers who have become friends and kindred spirits who support my mission and the vision that I have for the DOS Foundation. Our intention is to present information that supports the physical, emotional, spiritual and mental well-being of women and those who love them. Our most read articles since Sunday were meant to do just that:

Claudette P. Esterine
Inspiring one woman at a time

We Don’t Do Boxes

Feedback is most welcome and the Contributors and I invite them in all our posts. What is not welcomed are the attempts to put us in a “blogging box,” and then ask for payment for the privilege?!!!

When the most celebrated blogger today – whoever that is – started their blog, I am sure they had no idea where it would lead but that person followed their heart. So much has changed with blogging and more so with social media since that time. The way we share content and gain followers has gotten much easier. I mean now it is possible to get free followers on sites like Instagram, without much effort. While it is good things are more convenient as time goes one, is this a wholly good thing?

Millennials, we are told, do not like long posts, they prefer pictures and videos – in other words, they cannot read. I refuse to believe that. A couple of our Contributors fall into the age range of Millennials and they most certainly write well and understand the English language. We will not be “dumbing” things down here to please marketers, experts and/or sponsors.

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Middle-aged women, a large segment of our audience, we are told by some “expert” bloggers do not like to read short blogs or those that are not about fashion or – get this – ones that are on issues of substance. Not true for all. We are satisfied with the small segment who come and read what we share. This blog will not become a fashion piece, a cookbook, a homemakers’ magazine or a seniors’ place of rest to fit in any box.

Who We Are
People of the World
One Love, One Heart

We represent the beautiful mix of races, countries, genders, ages and lifestyles. As we grow, however slowly that may be, so will the mirror that we hold up to the world.

There are women and people all over the world – hello, North America is not the only continent people – who read this blog, follow me on Facebook and Twitter as well as on Pinterest, who are living and breathing the issues we cover. They are glad for someone, a space that tells their stories – the long version.

Tips I love but do not come disguised with supposed advice to get us to feel that we are not good enough and need to follow your path, your lead, need your endorsement or to take your course. The so-called new world was not “discovered” because Christopher Columbus waited on someone to chart a new course for him! Oprah or Arianna Huffington did not become the successes that they are today by not taking risks and not reaching out to their niche every day.

That is what we do here – write articles of substance for women (and those who love them) and as yesterday’s Contributor, Clara Brown wrote, we are Blooming Amazing!

If you got this far – word #890 – I thank you and hope you subscribe or simply bookmark this blog and return again and again, taking what you need to support you through the daily grind! Have a great Friday and catch you tomorrow!






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26 thoughts on “Roundup Rant: Unsolicited Advisers, Please Bugger Off!

  1. This is a great blog and a amazing mission indeed that you have for women. We need to know how important we are to everyone in our life and beyond. I totally love this post. I am so glad they are many like you. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and yes, if each of us help/support one, women would take a giant step ahead. Namaste. 🙂

  2. so true.. they need to stop give us advice if they dont know what they’re talking about

    1. Ms Claudette

      My poiint exactly and further we all have to learn our own way. I for one will ask for advice if I feel stumped. Thanks for dropping by! 🙂

  3. I jut yes people and politely smile! 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yup, that’s the easiest way! Have a great rest of the day! 🙂

  4. ALL the time about my personal life! I have gotten to some points where those people I avoid them entirely!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Another great strategy! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  5. I hate unsolicited advice. My daughter suffered a very severe traumatic brain injury when she was a baby and it, of course, has left her with permanent brain damage, physical & cognitive disabilities and volume of advice I get is ridiculous. I had a lady walk up to me (a complete stranger) try to give me unsolicited advice and I just looked at her with a “WTH” look on my face and she said “What?” and I just replied, “I don’t recall asking anybody for any kind of advice… do you?” and she turned really mad. Told me to F off and stomped off. Bye.


    1. Ms Claudette

      I hop she “F-ed” off? Good for you! 🙂

  6. Oh unsolicited advice. I just smile and nod or if it’s really bad it am very blunt and honest.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Way to go! Thanks for dropping by! 🙂

  7. I think it’s a common habit most people have, give unsolicited advice. I’m sure they mean well, but sometimes, I just don’t need it. I usually just listen politely and thanks them for their advice.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, we all fall into the trap. I know I do with my daughter. Thanks for dropping by! 🙂

  8. Elizabeth O.

    No really every like unsolicited advice, but somehow, people love giving it. Lol. It’s always better to just make them feel acknowledged and if you don’t like the advice then just ignore it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I acknowledge it like, you said, and continue along my way. Thanks Elizabeth 🙂

    2. eliz frank

      Pardon the typo… It was meant to say – No one really likes unsolicited advice. True. Acknowledge the bearer of advice and follow your heart’s prompting. 🙂
      Eliz aka Elizabeth O

      1. Ms Claudette

        Pardoned 🙂 I think I am getting to know you well enough to understand what you meant. Namaste

  9. Ha! Love this. I’m not a millennial, so I still made it all the way to the end. I hate unwanted advice too. Thanks for the post, and have a great weekend.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Same to you! Hope you have loads of fun and no unsolicited advice! 🙂

  10. Now that I am older now and can handle the unsolicitied advice. When I was younger, it was harder.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am with you on that – handling it better. In my younger days, I would not be so polite. 🙂 Namaste

  11. Interesting blog post ….Get this a lot on twitter guess i am naive to think they want to follow me but in a few second they want to sell stuff so I understand.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, you think they do but they really are trying to peddle their workshops, courses, etc.

  12. BWAHAHA! I hate unsolicited advice. that’s the worst!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I feel you Rachel! What annoys me is when they come with the advice PLUS you have to sign up for some programme, product, prayer group or course that they are peddling that guarantees success!!!

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