Life Is What You Make It: What Are You Making?

Good Morning Monday

Like someone telling “Good morning,” on a Monday, there are some catchphrases, quotes, lines, sayings – call them what you will – that can completely piss off a person. “Life is what you make it,” is one of them.

How can you tell the homeless, the hungry or the soon-to-be evicted family that they made the life they are living? Why would the woman who has been knocked up and knocked down make such a life?

Someone tried arguing with me recently about racism but they ended up debating themselves as I was not engaging. Of course I am fully aware that racism is a scourge of society. Yes, I have been held back, denied, outright refused jobs, promotions or entry into a group because of the colour of my skin. As Martin Luther King, Jr. so eloquently said, the content of my character mattered not to those who only saw the colour of my skin.

Social Media – The New Frontier

Take my social media adventure – and that is what I see it as, an adventure as nothing that I do on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Learn It Live, Clubhouse or anywhere else where I am active is for anything else but the pleasure of the ride. For years now, I have had a presence of sorts on social media, mainly on Facebook. I use Instagram for posting pictures and quotes, Clubhouse for chatting with friends and discussing ideas, and use other platforms for meeting new relatives or reuniting with family members I haven’t heard from or seen in 30+ years. It even crossed my mind at one point to buy followers for Clubhouse in order to reach a wider audience. Since Clubhouse allows its users to communicate with people all over the world, tell stories, and even share ideas, it did seem worth trying!

Claudette P. Esterine
Daughters of Sheba Foundation

Many years ago, I started my first blog and shared inspirational stories to support others who might have gone through similar challenges as I was then. Comforting Words was what that blog was named. It would evolve and then abandoned as life took me along paths that were long and winding and writing was not my focus. Social media is a great way of expressing yourself and reaching out to others who have similar interests or who want to be educated, so it was no wonder that I was drawn in. Nowadays social media is consumed in many ways with people using additional services like EarthWeb so they can grow their following to make an impact and see how it develops.

READ  Friday Roundup: Relationship, Kids And Cougars

Years later, after more schooling, breakups, several job changes, even migration and career switches, I started a second blog – The Daughters of Sheba Foundation blog. This blog has since relocated to WordPress and branded under my name as it struck me that this message is my mess and as the sole driver of the concept of creating a space on Facebook for women to actively, openly and lovingly support each other called Daughters of Sheba, then it will be my brand.

Did I do this for fame and fortune? Well, if that is the case neither has come, not yet.

Self Determination Theory

My motivation was and continues to be to tell stories, share and as my tag line states to be “Always Inspiring, Insightful and In-depth.” See, I am one of those persons who Self Determination Theory (SDT) researchers identify as “intrinsically motivated.”

Never heard of SDT?

Self Determination Theory
Determination – comes from within

Developed by Edward L. Deci and Richard M. Ryan, SDT would be later fine-tuned “by scholars from many countries. Deci is currently a professor at the University of Rochester in the Department of Clinical and Social Sciences in Psychology in Rochester, NY; Ryan, a clinical psychologist, was recently appointed as Professor at the Institute for Positive Psychology and Education at the Australian Catholic University in Sydney, Australia.” Read more about these researchers here.

As far as the theory goes, here is a great summary from an article on IDEA Health and Fintness Association:

Motivation resides along a continuum, with intrinsic motivation on the far right, extrinsic motivation in the middle and amotivation on the far left. Intrinsic motivation is ideal; people engage in an activity because of internal factors and are therefore likely to sustain the activity for their own reasons. Extrinsic motivation is driven by external forces; it is a less preferred state than intrinsic motivation, but better than amotivation, which is a complete absence of motivation.

DeStorm Power is a social media ‘celebrity’ who is just like me – a younger version – intrinsically motivated. He is happens to be “black” – again like me. Born into a family and circumstances that were not the experiences he desired for the rest of his life, he did something about it. He dreamed and unfailingly pursued his dreams inspite of the setbacks and falls. DeStorm now enjoys a life that many cannot even imagine – I am not one of them.

READ  Motivational Monday: It's A New Day

Imagination Is The Key

Life is what you make it and it starts with imagination. Albert Einstein said it:

It begins in the mind

“I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.”

Pablo Picasson did too:

“Everything you can imagine is real.”

So too did Kurt Vonnegut,

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.”

Join me this afternoon as I explore one of the things you need to do – or not have – to step into your dreams like Destorm and I, and live your dreams.There will be barriers, roadblocks, delays and yes, social issues like racism. You cannot let that stop you from dreaming, using your imagination. That is why I shut down, disengage from the vitriolic conversations of race on any side. My preference is to learn then teach others how to step into their dreams.

So, until later when I share one way to do that, watch and listen carefully to Power’s journey to the life that he made and continues to make daily. Also, be sure to sign up for my FREE Webinar and let us together create a life and a spiritual walk together. “A Practical Spirituality For The Busy Woman,” was designed to do just that for and with every woman who have talked about living her best life. [tweetthis]Check out this awesome blog post and FREE webinar on creating the life that you really want![/tweetthis]


Photo sources: and

Related posts

7 thoughts on “Life Is What You Make It: What Are You Making?

  1. eliz frank

    Reading this, I was reminded of how fascinating each person’s journey through the blogosphere has been. We come from diverse backgrounds, with differing povs, and that makes it all the more exciting. As Russell Simmonds said in his NYT bestselling book, Do You! 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Amen to those wise words!!! 🙂

  2. tara pittman

    There are many days that I need self motivation to get going. Today is one of them.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Oh Tara, please know that I am always here to help/support. Easier to get my attention via Facebook at

  3. […] are usually dedicated to motivation. In my morning post, I shared with you some information on Self Determination Theory and how knowing where your motivation comes from can help you make the life you want. As someone […]

  4. I loved the opening image..looks like me every morning lol. Keep offering motivation and inspiration!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you Cindy! Comments like yours help me to keep doing what I do. Namaste 🙂

Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge