Friday Roundup: Relationship, Kids And Cougars

I Love Fridays

Friday has meant many things to me over the years. As a child, it was the end of a nerve-wracking week in a crammed classroom of 50+ students, hiding behind my fellow students so that the teacher would not call on me to recite the timetables. I really hated Mathematics and to a large extent still do!


When I started working and was on my own, hiding was the last thing that was on my mind. Partying was and a local disco provided the dance floor. The Jonkanoo Lounge in New Kingston, Jamaica was the spot and most Friday nights you could find me there with a group of gal pals dancing to our own heartbeats.

While being in Ireland, I mostly spent my time reminiscing how I used to party in Jamaica. Most of my days were spent in nostalgia, with a book in one hand and a vape, (locally sourced from a genuine vape pen Ireland shop) in the other. Although by this time, I had become more concerned with my career, I just could not forget about those colorful Friday nights.

After spending several years in Kiev in the Ukraine as a student and returning to Jamaica as a graduate, a mother and marginally employed, my partying days were over. With a three-year old in tow, my Friday nights were spent munching on KFC or whatever snack food I could afford with my baby girl.

Fridays & Relationships

Now, almost at midpoint of my 50th year, two things give me enormous pleasure on a Friday – sending a special message to my Followers on Twitter and writing this Roundup post. Sounds boring to you? Maybe it does but it is about relationship for me. The world has changed so much and interactions with others are becoming more and more virtual. Never one to reject change, I have

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embraced this new way of meeting and communicating with others.

Relationships are very important to me. This might have come about as a result of the lack of familial relationships as I grew up. As my life unfolded, the importance of deep relating, the impact and influence of connecting and being a touch-point for others have become central for me.

This week, our ways of relating and being in relationship today was in the spotlight here. Regular readers know that this Roundup post on a Friday highlights the most read article of the week and/or the ones that touched lives or inspired conversation among you.

Our Week In Review

On Wednesday, Robert Turner took the relationship conversation to another level with a post entitled “A Man on Older Women and Online Dating.” Admitting his earlier interest, in his younger years of course, in dating older women, Robert explored the upsurge of “cougar” relationships with online dating platforms. Check it out here and share your experience or thoughts on the subject in the comments below.

Children and Boundaries
Children and Boundaries

Another relationship post that struck a chord this week was the one shared by Alexis Ali on teaching children boundaries. “The majority of kids are not disciplined these days. I watch commercials of kids running rampant and the actors playing their parents just stare at them in bewilderment. I know these commercials are meant as over exaggerations but sadly, in my experience, they are dead on.”

We had a few comments on that, such as:

  • Robin: “I totally agree – kids do need to hear no sometimes. Maybe not all the time, but how else will they learn?”
  • Curtis: “No is an important lesson, you can`t give them everything; it isn`t realistic.”
  • Elizabeth: “Saying no to kids is not bad. This will actually teach them that there are boundaries and they should know when to stop.”

Read the article here and do share your comments on this issue of boundaries and children. Another parent/child relationship post that was well read this week, was one of mine questioning whether we are “Raising Super Entitled or Well Children?” Would love to hear you on that as well, so read it and let me hear you.

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The other man among us – the esteemed Michael H. Ballard – did what he does best yesterday and shared with us a story about an early relationship of his. This was a special one as it was with an older woman and she taught him three valuable lifetime lessons. Read Michael’s recollection here about Miss Patton and share your story with us about an older woman who taught you things that you remember to this day.

Claudette P. Esterine - One Woman Inspiring OthersThat is my Roundup for this week. If you read another post that was not mentioned here, tell us what you thought in the comments below. As well, it would be super awesome if you were to Subscribe and be part of this community. Check out the benefits of being a friend with me here and sign-up today!

Much love and enjoy your Friday!



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38 thoughts on “Friday Roundup: Relationship, Kids And Cougars

  1. As you get older, your ideas of “fun” change. I think writing blog posts and tweeting is fun!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Funny you shold say that because just now I had a tweet and the person was asking me whether I love blogging. My response – I love it! This past weekend and mos weekend was spent with a select group of people – and my laptop, phone and tablet! LOL πŸ™‚

  2. Sometimes it’s hard to remember how important relationships are, between the hustle and bustle of work, and electronics.

    1. Ms Claudette

      That’s for real so it is up to us to do our best to maintain them. πŸ™‚

  3. eliz frank

    Our relationships sustain us in the good times and bad so it’s important to make sure we have healthy ones… Hope you enjoyed your weekend!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed our relationship sustains us including the ones with persons such as yourself. Thanks you very much. πŸ™‚

  4. I like that you round up your weekly posts in case there is something I missed. I enjoyed reading those comments you featured too.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! Your comment is greatly appreciated! πŸ™‚

  5. Ughhh it’s so hard to tell kids no these days! So many parents give kids everything that you feel
    Like a monster for saying no….

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, you do feel weird saying something but sometimes it is so bad that you as an onlooker have to say something – kindly and politely of course. Thanks for the comment. πŸ™‚

  6. I think maintaining healthy relationships with friends and family is important. Even when it’s virtual-social media has made it easy to find friends and extended family!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I have been found by family members that I had not seen for 30+ years and some that I never met via Facebook. I would be the last person to be ungrateful for the connectedness that social media has allowed whether between family or through online dating. Thanks for your comment Jaime! πŸ™‚

  7. Elizabeth O.

    Raising kids really is the best challenge we can get out of life, but it’s really rewarding too. Relationships take effort and time so it’s important to value the right people. Awesome round-up!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Isn’t that the truth! My relationship with my daughter has given me some of the best lessons and rewards! Thanks for your comment Elizabeth! Namaste πŸ™‚

  8. michelle bowman

    I do agree that sometimes children needs to be disciplined, but not too much. for me, listening and talking to a child is a better way to understand their thoughts and attitudes.

    1. Ms Claudette

      As a person who was severely beaten by a parent growing up, I have to agree with you that balance is necessary. As a mother, I tried to walk the fine line between physical and verbal disciplining. That line is love, conversation and openness. It worked well for my daughter and I, with the occasional missteps. Now, as a grandmother, I get to watch her version of it. Thanks for the comment and Namaste. πŸ™‚

  9. Loved your round up of posts. I have considered doing so on my site. Relationships are very important to me too!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! I love doing the roundup as it gives me an opportunity to not only “showcase” the best of the week but to bring everything home – to a focal point, which this week was relationships. Looking forward to seeing your roundup on your blog/site. Namaste.

  10. Great roundup! I am going to have to bookmark and go through it all. I think online dating works very well when used responsibly especially for single parents who want to skip the bar scene. I think though for younger people first off they don’t even know what eye contact is anymore. They are constantly walking down the street glued to their phone, earbuds in and disconnected. It is a sad state of affairs there. The other thing with the younger generation using it, it kind of takes away from the working toward a relationship by having so many other choices available. Something goes wrong, bam they are done and on to the next fish. It also makes them feel scared to ask someone out in real life because online they know the person is interested in real life there is chance.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for your great comment and observations! I must agree as well as admit that online dating can take away some aspects of dating as many of us know it…especially those of us 40 and over. Having dabbled in the arena myself, you are correct that it is much like fishing – hence the Plenty of Fish dating site is so popular. They is a ocean to chose from and you don’t have to make eye contact! πŸ™‚ You are pulling out confessions out of me with this one as I also have to confess that my eyes can be quite glued to my phone if left to myself. Thankfully, there is my granddaughter who will have none of it! πŸ™‚ When she comes over, as she will be doing tonight – she demands attention and I am happy to give it to her. Have a great Saturday and thanks again. πŸ™‚

  11. I love roudups! I do a blog post round up every Thursday for blog posts that I’ve really enjoyed over the week. As for friday, it’s the night hubby and I eat whatever and snuggle watching movies together!

    1. Ms Claudette

      That’s so cute and heartwarming to hear that you snuggle on a Friday night with your loved one! Hope you are having a good night! πŸ™‚

  12. Relationships are utterly important to me too. I adore my alone time, but without the balance of having loved ones in my life, I wouldn’t be the person I am today and I am so grateful. I also adore all of my blog friends… I have made some of my very best friends through the internet – I guess I should thank technology for this?!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, having loved ones in your life is great. There are some who do not have “blood” relatives/loved ones in their lives and for them technology have provided a way to create their own circle of love. Thanks for you comment. Hope you are having a great evening with your loved ones! πŸ™‚

  13. I’m with you on your idea of fun on a Friday night. I love catching up with bloggers and reading. Thanks for the round up, and gave a great weekend.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and a great weekend to you as well! Namaste πŸ™‚

  14. This is a great post!! I love Fridays too – and I love that you hate math as much as I do lol!!!
    xo Adriana
    Daily Dose of Design

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, Adriana – beyond balancing my bank account and what I need to do for a living – that’s as far as I go with math! Have a great weekend! πŸ™‚

  15. Good idea to do roundups of your favorite posts. I agree that kids need boundaries. It helps prepare you for life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, they do need boundaries even some of us adults as well! πŸ™‚ Namaste.

  16. This is m first time stopping by! I like your round up and highlighting those posts.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Well thank you for stopping by! Hope you will come again πŸ™‚

  17. Online dating sometimes seems so scary to me. But I’m married and probably will never experience that. But I do agree with you, times have changed and social media is how people meet and connect now, I mean after all I have a blog and connect with others that way too and my Friday nights are a lot like yours with two kids! πŸ˜‰

    1. Ms Claudette

      many resist the changes in our world and as the saying going “resistance is futile.” A person doesn’t have to take on everything, fad or fashion – I most certainly don’t. We can, however, respect each person for choosing how to live their life – as long as it causes no harm to anyone else. Have a great Friday night! πŸ™‚

  18. it is super important to nurture our friendships. I think a lot of people forget that when the business of our lives get in the way

    1. Ms Claudette

      So true! My closest friends are my family. Thank you for your comment. πŸ™‚

  19. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    Sometimes I do think we are raising entitled children. I know it’s hard this day in age, but I really do try to limit my boys and keep them as grounded as possible.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I now laugh as I hear my daughter says that my granddaughter will not be allowed this or that, or to do a particular activity because when she was growing up she thought me very strict! πŸ™‚ She is a very grounded young woman and mother today because the boundaries were very clear.

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